My sole mate just dumped me for some skinny ***** just cuz he's rich and our wedding is planned for next month! There is no other person on earth i could ever love. Why would the most important person in the world just bail on me after all we've been threw together? It is over for good but i cannot live without her there is no other person for me. Can i get a hit man thats not too scared from on here?
2007-08-16 19:47:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i was in a similar situation once. i felt like i wanted to die. in fact my friend had to pull a shot gun from under my chin to stop me. my fiance whom i had been with for 6 years had just left and taken our 3 week old daughter with her. i had found out about a month later that she had been seeing several men behind my back. it hurt so bad i wanted to end my own life just to make the pain stop. but luckily i had friends to support me. a few years later i met a young woman and we became close friends. one year later we were married and have been for 8 wonderful years. my point is that you never know what the future holds for you. i'm sure you will meet someone again and fall deeply in love with them just as i did. and if you end your life you will never find out and never be able to enrich someone elses life. i know the loss is hard to deal with now and you will never forget that person but the pain will go away in time. and it's better that you discovered this about her now instead of years down the road. grief is a normal part of any loss but taking your life isn't going to solve your problems. it will only create many more for the people who care about you.
2007-08-16 20:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Click on Yahoo Hitmen.
Seriously, man, your life is not over - take it from someone who's been there. What I did was work through it a little bit at a time. I buried the feelings, but every day, I'd bring them to the surface and work through them a little, then bury them again for a short time.
Just keep working on them, and maybe find some other women to date, just as friends. The source of the pain you're feeling is from a loss of self-esteem and self-validation, at least more so than the loss of your fiancee. Dating some other women who are sincerely into you will bring back that self-esteem and self-validation, and those two things will make getting over the loss of your fiancee a lot easier (and don't spend much time talking about her on your dates).
You'll get past this. It's her loss, not yours! Take some time out - you need it - and then move forward when you feel ready. Good luck, man......
2007-08-16 19:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Bill F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you. I know exactly how you are feeling. I've been in your place and I know how much it hurts. When it happened to me, I was kind of on autopilot for a couple weeks. I was barely functioning and had thoughts just like you're having. It's been 6 months now and I won't say the hurt is gone, but I'm functioning and slowly life is getting better. I'm learning how to be a "me" instead of a "we". It isn't easy, but it can be done.
I started to make myself do things even when I didn't want to. Things like taking a walk or a bike ride or going grocery shopping and cooking meals. I'd make myself call a friend or family member even if I didn't feel like it. Soon, you start to live again...little by little.
I also prayed a lot. I found that if I pour my heart out to God, He will always listen to me. I just lay my hurt at his feet and He gives me comfort. That is the only way I made it through pain that bad.
Don't give up. I can't tell you that it happens quick, but you will be ok. I don't have any magic words, but I can tell you that I will say a prayer for you.
Please hang in there.
2007-08-16 21:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have empathy for you. The one I love decided that she prefers the company of psychotic barbie dolls.
Seriously, just cut off all communications with her, try never to see her again, lock all her pictures etc. in a footlocker and put it in the attic or somewhere else where you will never see it,and then try to move on. Cry now, holler at the wall, break a few things, stay in bed for a day or two. Then get up and get on with your life. Keep yourself busy. Maybe do a little volunteer work for the handicapped. It wasn't meant to be. Trust in the Lord and he will help you heal. A good woman is hard to find, but when he is ready for you to have a wife, he will put her in your path.
One of the other posters said it best...it is good that you got out of the relationship now before she married you. If she had married you first, she wouldn't only have broken your heart, but she would have taken you to the cleaners.
It will get better, doll. I promise.
2007-08-16 20:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awwww, c'mon now, you're just hurting really bad. You know now from her actions that she's shallow and you don't want that kind of a person in your life. Think if this would have happened after the wedding. Wow! You're so better off without that person. Surround yourself with family and friends and talk it out with them by your side. You'll get through this and when you come out on the other side you'll see that she was no good. There's a woman out there waiting for you, probably more than one. When you are ready you'll find her when you least expect it. C'mon, now, give us a smile...there you go. Feel better soon!
2007-08-16 19:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In pretty much every state you cant just kill someone without a good reason (fearing for your life.) You can be charged with murder or manslaughter if you shoot someone that doesnt have a weapon and there is no real threat of bodily harm against you. So dont shoot someone. Most robbers will run if you just yell that you have a gun or show that you have a gun. Yes robbers can sue the homeowner. It really is ridiculous and makes no sense to most people. It is just a strange loop hole in the justice system for a robber to sue a homeowner.
2016-04-01 19:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is someone else out there for you. You have to want that person, you found a "sole" mate, that's why you got walked all over! When you find your "soul" mate, things will be different, don't be so hard on yourself or anyone else. Be patient!
2007-08-16 21:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Nati 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? It's probably a blessing in disguise! Why would you want to be with someone who treats you like that! It sounds like you have major issues with Lack of self esteam! It truly wasn't meant to be and its sounds like its a good thing, not bad!
Good luck! Try to look on the bright side! The dark side will only take you down dude!
2007-08-17 06:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad she bailed before you married her and she got half of everything you owned. You can love again, don't think you can't. There are a lot of good women out there that won't dump you for money. Go check it out.
2007-08-16 19:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweet all the hitmen are busy. So you wanna kill yourself over your so called 'soul mate' cos she ran off with another man.
I wouldn't sweat the small stuff, she isn't worthy of your love, attention or time, just move on with your life, it's her loss not yours.
2007-08-16 19:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋