I will be married 20 years at the end of this month.My husband 12 months ago was secretly talking to another famale and sais thats all it was just talking.I have every day been battling with this and question it.im driving myself nuts over this.A part of me wants to stay but im also very unhappy with whats happened,do i through 20 years away.
2007-08-19 17:19:16 · 8 answers · asked by CRUZ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't suggest throwing away 20 years.
But you have a lot of questions to answer first....
Do you still truely love him?
Are you willing to do anything to work on your relationship with him?
Is he willing to do anything to work on your relationship with you?
Does he still truely love you?
If you answer yes to all these, fight for your man.
It happens to the best of couples...somehow they get off track and lose sight of one another. It's nothing to be ashamed of. What would be a shame is to throw all those years away without even trying a little to save it??
It may take a long time to fix and a lot of work from you and him but in the long run, isn't it really worth it all?
2007-08-19 17:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have suffered long enough. Now go get some professional help for your marriage. Things like this stay in our brains and fester there because we don't know what to do with it. Both of you have to be on the same page and the only way to get there in a hurry is with professional therapy for both of you. Otherwise, you will be simmering with this for a very long time.
2007-08-20 00:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reading that book by Dr. Laura, "The Care and Feeding of Husbands." She talks about how to keep a man interested so he doesn't stray. If you don't treat him well, no wonder he's looking for attention elsewhere.
2007-08-20 00:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you still love your husband and are you capable of working this out?if you don't think you can trust him now and get past this then i don't see whats left.thats sad after 20 years too.has he ever given you a reason besides this to distrust him?if not,think about that and talk to him,see why he's writing someone else.he may need to talk to you about your marriage and if so then thats good because communication is the key to a good relationship,its when they close things up inside and don't talk it out with you that you have to worry about because thats when their talking to someone else.
2007-08-20 00:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry there is a lot more to this than your letting on ... so untill you can be truthful with your self as to whats really wrong with your relationship how can you expect anyone else to help you based on a question which really has nothing to do with whats going on ... now can you ?... so whats the rest of the story ...after 20y's just talking to another female isn't the end of the earth now is it ... so whats really wrong?
2007-08-20 00:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to calm down ; there.s nothing in the world worth worrying about . sounds like a little thing ; that can be worked out . not worth losing 20 yrs for . good luck
2007-08-20 00:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he stops and regret what he did, give him another chance. it's hard to find true love this days. if you think he still loves you, try to work it out. good luck.
2007-08-20 00:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was just talking, right. 20years,you should know him pretty well. Talk and no action = nothing.
2007-08-20 00:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by Here Kitty Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋