Okay. I really have been inlove with her for over 2 years now. I'll admit I think even upsessed & it has been really hard for me. I have not told her how I feel. She has a boyfriend who really does not treat her right. He has cheated, left for days & does not call etc. Anyway she is upsessed with him no matter what anyone tells her she wont break it off. Then this other guy came along but they came close to being with each other. Then her boyfriend came back & their relationship is better then ever. I think he is mentally abusing her & got jealous & that this better than ever will not last long at all. What do you think?
2- 1 day I told her how much I care & love her & that I am here for her. I did not tell her that I was inlove with her etc. I think she got the message ?
Another day out of the nowhere I looked her in the eyes & said I love you. She got that look on her face of shy or ? & turned her eyes? What do you think this meant? Anything good?
THANKS IN ADVANCE! :-)
2007-08-19 22:58:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Should I tell her. I would rather wait untill they are over. What is your opinion? Thanks to all of you. Very much appreciated!
2007-08-19 22:58:44 · update #1
You are as cunning as a fox. She is a perfect match for her boyfriend and you want to snatch her away. Truly she doesn't want to leave her man and regardless on what you do, she won't accept it. The problem is you bothering her, trying to convince her to cheat on her boyfriend. To leave him and be with you. If you don't ware a shoe, how would you know where it itches? Pack off and found someone else.
2007-08-19 23:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be straight forward with you cos I know you r struggling in this situation...Life is too short and we can't waste our times wasting our energy..does that make sense? Don't waste more time thinking whether you should tell her or not..just do it! However, if I can be totally honest with you, you should know that she already knows the way you feel about her..trust me...Regarding her situation with her boyfriend, it shouldn't last very long...I have been there and the boyfriend only comes back to her cos he is jealous not cos he really loves her and she will realise this eventually and hopefully she will break up with him although she might suffer big time. And after a while (cos she will need to spend some time alone) she may see that there is actually someone out there that deeply cares for her and loves her for real (YOU, of course) and it will be her decision to give it a go with you or not. Nevertheless, remember to give her space and time. NEVER put pressure on her, or be on her all the time. We DO NOT like that. Just hang in there and be there for her when she calls you. So, don't torture yourself anymore and tell the woman how you feel and as soon as your mission is complete, then back off and "ignore her a bit" and give her some time to realise whatever it is she is really looking for..hope this helps you :-)
2007-08-19 23:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by flor de mayo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait on her at all. I mean you told her how you felt and she had a shy face and turned her eyes but she never said a word.If she really loves this guy that you think is treating her ike crap there isn't a thing you can do except let go. I wouldn't get in the middle of that. You said she wouldn't break it off with that guy and everyone has told her about him. Like I said you should let it go. Who knows? You may be missing out on the love of your life by waiting on the other girl. Good Luck and have a great day.
2007-08-19 23:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sheila B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you care for her, more than just a friend, and let her make the decisions. She need to rid herself of these other men FIRST, but that's her call. Tell her that you want the opportunity to treat her like a woman should be treated and love her like no other man can. However it's her call on whether she wants that. Tell her you want to be just with her so when she is ready to end this other relationship you will be waiting for her. That worked on me. My now husband told me that there would never be another man who loves me like he does. I think he was right. Good luck and remember, if it doesn't work out, there will be another woman some where that will appreciate every thing you have to offer.
2007-08-19 23:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to get real with yourself. If a girl is interested in you it will be obvious she will make herself available to you in many ways. If she is not it will be obvious she will not respond to your advances. Many girls are too nice to openly hurt you and so when you say something like "I love you" and they don't respond....that is a response!... you have to know that if she had any feeling for you that was her chance to tell you and if she didn't it was because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but make no mistake the feeling is not mutual.
The problem here is that you don't want to face the facts, but the reality for her is... she is not interested in you... at least not in that way.
Secondly you don't sound very assertive. You can't go through life playing guessing games. You have to speak your mind clearly and lay it out there plainly so that there is no mistake about what you are talking about. You have to get bold enough to lay it on the line and tell her you are interested in being in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship and if she is not interested that will be alright too.
Also your timing stinks this is really not the time to be addressing relationship questions with her to begin with. She will only be on the rebound and rebound relationships never work.
Lastly you have to have more self-worth than to grovel at some womans feet who has not shown an interest in you up to this point... except maybe as a friend.
I am a firm believer in sparks at first sight. People who can't identify the object of their affection in the first few moments are probably settling for a relationship that they finally find appealing to them after some long friendship. You see being comfortable with a person is not a passionate realtionship and is the cause of more infidelity than we need to talk about here.
If you want something in life you have to step up to the plate and take a swing at the ball. You can never know the thrill of hitting a homer from behind the fence.
For a valid demonstration of what I am talking about here...go rent the video to see "My Best Friends Wedding" and get a clue, you are chasing her... and she is chasing him, but who is chasing you...nobody! You are not in this picture so go and find somone who is interested in chasing you and don't waste your time trying to squeeze yourself into someone's relationship troubles. There really is somone out there waiting for you. So stop wasting your time with someone who isn't interested. Do yourself a favor walk away and find someone else you'll be glad you did...really!
2007-08-19 23:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by FirstResponse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell her that you really care about her and that you will always be there for her if she needs you and that she deserves to be with someone that will love her and respect her and treat her like a queen. I do suggest that if she does leave him just take it slow with her because she will just be getting out of a relationship. Glad to know there are some good men out there.
2007-08-19 23:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is just like you said it wont last long however, only as long as she let's it last, she sounds like me , I know that this guy is really a jerk but for some reason I like him I am attracted to him and the love making is great besides that he is and *** whole sometimes though, sounds like she is seeking the same thing I am LOVE, and finding it in the wrong places you know what I am saying??
2007-08-20 00:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by Connie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is in a relationship, wether it is good or bad is irrelevant. If she wanted to be with you she would leave her partner, she obviously loves him. The best thing you can do is to let her know that you will be there should she ever need someone.
2007-08-19 23:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur luv for her is really genuine n reciprocated too. Its true that her earlier relationships r really abusive , so give her motivation to take initiative to break off from these n be her rock solid support until then.
2007-08-19 23:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that when she gets finished letting this guy treat her badly, hopefully you will still be available to show her how a guy in love should treat his lady.
2007-08-19 23:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋