Cheating or not?

Question

"My guy and I been together for five years. I never expected him
cheating on me until now. We moved from my home town into Georgia
which is 9
hours from my home town and only an hour from a good friend of his and
four hours from his parents house. My mate always had a problem with
jobs. When he got one he lied to me about having money on his pay day
only to use up my money when I got paid. I got wind to it and became
upset. I said some things on the line of maybe it's best if he left
the home
we shared. Giving what type of person he is, normally, he stand ground
and want to resolve any issue that we have. Not this time. Things were
different. We share a child together and he is very protective over
his child so I believed. But, on this inparticular day he didn't
bother
getting into conversation with me about why I said what I said. He act
as though he was content with leaving. He instructed me to drop him
off
at the bus station. I was aware of him being broke and wasn't to sure
as to how he would get to his destination. He said his goodbye to our
children and told them that he would be back in a couple of weeks. Not
knowing the whole time he took a copy of the house key with him. He
then
proceeded to make way into the bus station without any word to me. I
left. Assured that he would call me later once he cooled down but
never
did. It has been three days now and I haven't heard anything. Giving I
am in a state with no family I couldn't understand why he would do
this
to me and cut off communication when this is not his normal behavior
when we get into a dispute. My question is, is it possible that he is
cheating on me or with another women? I know we have not been to
sexual
giving on my part."

Answer 1

Don't concern yourself. He is not cheating.

Answer 2

You are losing site on what you are faced with. You shouldn't be concern with him cheating. You should be concern with, How is he gonna pay child support. Not only did he take your money, left his kids, skipped out on responsibilities, but he took a key with him. That means that he'll be back, just after he finish doing whatever he's doing. Go change the locks honey. I know that it is easy said than done. Some things we just have to make our self do. He have no respect for you or your kids. Any ''Man" that will stay in the same house with you and pretend that he doesn't have money is a deadbeat. If he as a man is having trouble with jobs. He won't change if he's with somebody else. And they may not be as understanding and lean as you were. You need to find out his whereabouts and put support on his a&&. Don't look back. You can do bad and good by yourself. I will be willing to bet that he is still in town. If he had no money to get out of town, he probably waited until you drove off and called someone to pick him up. He'll surface again, hopefully, you won't want to be bothered with a deadbeat, jobless, irresponsible clown.

Answer 3

Yea it is a very good possibility. But you also told him to leave so maybe he just took you up on it. It sounds like you have had problems long before this and communication problems can be fatal to a relationship. Have you tried to contact him, his parents maybe to see if he is there his friend? If you do contact him try being more direct with him ask him where he stands with this relationship? Tell him there are things that bother you such as the lying about money and leaving and not telling you where he is going. Then see how he responds and go from there. If you can't find him well I imagine hes created a life elsewhere. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

The question isn't really whether he is cheating or not, the question is why did you tell him that it's best if he leaves the home and are now upset because he called your bluff and actually left. If you didn't really want him to leave, then you shouldn't have said it. Now you have to live with that. It's possible he could be messing around with someone else, but remember, you are the one who told him to leave. It's also possible that he is letting you know that he can and will leave whenever he wants to and he is cooling off. This should teach you a lesson of not saying things you don't really mean.

Answer 5

You might want to act like the bigger person, but if you are worried since he is the father of your children you should give his family a call, and his friend. Dont give up yet he might be trying to make you run to him but make sure he knows it is mostly for the kids.If you can just go to his family and friends at least 1 or 2 times .Dont bother them,but I think you have a good chance of finding him at either house.He might not be cheating with a woman, sometimes there is other things they do , like gamble,or drugs,not to accuse him , just to let you know.

Answer 6

I dont think he is cheating on you, maybe he is tired of his life with you, or he just want to think better and make a decision. But as you mentioned, he lied and took your money...and now he is acting in a different way, so it shows that something is wrong in your relationship. As he didnt insist in solving the problem, it is because he wanted to stop what you both have...
In my opinion, as you have a kid, he was wrong doing that, because when you have a child, your life doesnt belong to you anymore...and you need to think about it. When he shows up again, talk to him seriously and find out what is going on in his mind. good luck

Answer 7

To me it sounds like he just needs some space right now. Given that you had an argument it seems as though he want to give you time alone as well. By the sounds of it, it really doesnt appear like theres another woman involved, just that hes giving both of you time to sort out your problems. He's probably staying at his friends house who lives an hour a way. You should try contacting his friends and family that are close by and see if they have any information on his wereabouts to let him know you want to hear from him. Give him time and he will let you know what is going on. But i find it hard to believe hes left for someone else. Good luck with everything!

Answer 8

I can't believe I took time to read all that.
Yeah, it's possible he's cheating. It's always possible.
Especially since he's broke, I doubt he'd sleep under a bridge because he's too proud to contact you for money.
Prob one of his gf's took him in. Go on with your own life, change the locks and start divorce proceedings so you can get custody of your children.

Answer 9

I think that you should let him go and move on. You have a child or children to worry about. And if I'm not mistaken, you told him to leave. You got what you want and now your upset? What does it matter what he is doing. You threw all rights to know about him away when you told him to leave. What did you think would happen? Like they say..."Becarefull what you wish for."

Answer 10

If he is not truthful with you, dump him. I would change the locks on the house, then make plans for yourself and your kids. Where do you want to live, and what do you want to do? Move on and live your life.

I would say he has other women somewhere, and I wouldn't be surprised if he does the same thing to them. Perhaps they will kick him out and he will come back to you for a place to stay? Think about that now, and think about what you will say to him. (like, "Hell NO!")

Answer 11

It's possible. Why in the world do you think so little of yourself and your children, that you think you need him? Go home to your hometown, get a job and think more of yourself than to have to worry about if someone is cheating on you or not. If someone loves you and your children they respect you, take care of you and work for you. He doesn't deserve you.