iS PORN CHEATING?

Question

i UNDERSTAND THAT MOST DONT AGREE AND ITS OKAY BUT IN MY OPINION PORN IS CHEATING...WELL I MEAN IF I WATCH IT WITH HIM OR I BUY IT WITH HIM THAN WE ARE IN IT 2GETHER AND YES IT CAN ENHANCE OUR SEXUAL EXPERIENCE..BUT IN THIS CASE IM HURT AND SUPER PISSED! I WAS GUNNA WATCH A MOVIE AND I FOUND THIS PORN DVD I JZT WANTED TO ASK HIM ABOUT IT! HE SAID HE GOT IT FROM A FRIEND...HOW THE HELL DO U GET PORN FROM A FRIEND...AND I WAS MAD AND HURT...MIND U I MAY BE PREGNANT SO MY FEELINGS ARE ON THIS ROLLER COASTER! HE GOT MAD AT ME AND SLAMMED DOORS...I HATE PORN WITH A PASSION AND HE KNOWS THIS! WHEN I WAS YOUNG I WAS MOLESTED AND THIS ******* WAS ALWAYS WATCHING PORN AND TRYING TO PUSH IT ON ME AND TOUCHING AND UGH! I HATE IT...I HATE IT!!! AM I WRONG FOR THIS...SHOULD I NOT CARE???

Answer 1

You have hangup but you probably cannot change. Therefore, you should dump your current guy and find one of the few guys that will not watch porn. There are not many guys that don't watch porn so you will have to lower your standards but you can find dumb homely guy that doesn't watch porn.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Good heavens no. I enjoy porn alone or with my husband. You'd better bring this up with your fiance! He'll probably be surprised to hear you consider watching porn cheating. You two need to talk about infidelity and what you consider crossing the line in a committed relationship, and decide on boundaries together. And talk about consequences of crossing that line.

Answer 4

Well...yes guys share porn tapes. I don't necessarily call around asking my buddies, but if I'm at their house and it happens to come up--yep we trade. We trade or share like their baseball cards. Not all goes view porn. I don't have stats because we usually don't bring it up in conversation.

To me, I just watch porn because I'm a visual person (yes, I know women have eyes) and I enjoy some of the things that are done. I mean the women on those tapes are kinda profeessional so you can see some things that are just intersting (sexually speaking). Plus to be honest, I'm not really intersted in having sex, just to be visually stimulated a bit as times.

My wife managed to get rid of all mine. I had bought those (the few I did have or traded for them) while I was away at work in the Navy for long periods. My wife and I didn't really have a movie or anything like that I wasn't looking for a girlfriend. But I was interested in adult viewing.

But to be honest, I'm inclined to believe your guy...because he has a DVD. I mean honestly, for about 10-$20 you can get online access to thousands of porn tapes. So if he was really into it, he would have a membership with unlimited viewing.

Now onto the next more critical issues. First congrats on the pregnancy! Second--if he doesn't already know, you better tell him one time (not twice), in an appropriate setting, why you feel so badly about porn. If my wife told me what you just wrote, I wouldn't have touched it out of respect for her. I'm sure your husand will feel the same way. However, don't try to be bossy or controlling about the situation, and remember that your Hormones might be on overdrive...but it's worth it and I'm sure you'll get past this DVD. Maybe you can get one to fool with him with guys, like play girl (ha ha).

Answer 5

Wow, very intense. Time for a hormone check.

No porn isn't cheating. Cheating involves another person. A real person.

I understand if you don't like a guy who would rather spend his time with porn than with you. If that's happening you need to ask yourself what's going on in the relationship. It represents a different type of problem. But it's not cheating.

Answer 6

You are not living in the tradition and cultures 100 years ago. Today, we have to adopt what is new as long as it helps our ways of life more happy.
Watching porns with your husband is normal to couples specially those couples who want to enhance sexual urges. We believe that the longer we staying marriage couples, the hot, the intimacy and the magic of loves between you two couples are fading away. Then this leads you no more appetite for sexual activity. When watching porn helps you to regain the sexual acitivity between you two couples, then neccessary to both of you look for some to improve your sex including watching pornos. What couples need to save the rocking marriage due fading love? We must be open to our spouse and no more feeling to be conservative at all times.

It is normal and why did you say it is cheating? Cheating is when either of you spouse having extra marital affair without the knowledge of the other. When both of you have knowledge either of you have extra-marital affairs that is not cheating.

Answer 7

I don't think Porn is considering cheating. In fact, you should be proud that your bf is only watching porn, instead of going out there screwing with other girl in LIVE. LOL
I got mad of my ex before for going to strip join but that because it involve with touching and never know more thing could happen!

Anyway, I sometime find porn DVD my husband hides them and I sometime get **** only because it grosses me out. But come to think of it, it's only porn.. and it's not like he can touch or screw a girl in video. LOL

But let's just think it as positive way. He watch it to get more moves and he only wanna improve his kinky skills to impress you, or make love to you. Some men aren't satisfied or confident with their knowledge and porn does help them. As long as he's not cheating on you with other girl out there.. you shouldn't take this too serious and give a guy some space. It's just a guy thing...

Good luck honey :)

Answer 8

most every guy watches porn. I am in the same boat as you in a way, I like to watch with the guy but get alittle wierded out if he watches it alone.But I know its part of their life... all guys are perverts in a way. ;) And trust me guys do share their porn its like when they were little and traded baseball cards. lol. Understanding that you have serious past issues with porn and child sexual abuse he should be more considerate about the issue though. Good luck

Answer 9

I don't think it's cheating. But your partner needs to understand your history and should respect the fact that you don't want it around. Put your foot down and don't allow it. There are other ways to enhance your sex life. Try toys and stuff like that and forget the porn. IF he refuses get rid of him now. Because he is only doing more damage to you. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 10

No, it's not like there is any emotional involvement is there, there has to be another person involved for it to count as cheating, the person on the TV screen is not giving anything emotionally or physically, if that was the case then every time you watched a sex scene in a movie it would be cheating.