We both seem ok with this.I don't believe he is unfaithful.Neither am I.We have just had so many personal problems.I know this is not normal.We are a very happy family that does shares a lot of time together.We kiss and hold hands all the time.
2007-08-19 20:18:07 · 40 answers · asked by Medicsgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you have a normal healthy relationship and nothing to worry about. Much better than many I read about. Congrats :D
2007-08-19 20:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by wildeyedredhead 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You said, "We both seem ok with this." What do you mean by "seem"? Either you both are ok with it, or at least one of you isn't ok with it. And if you don't know for sure, just ask! If you feel uncomfortable asking, then the problem is rooted deeper- meaning it is a communication issue, rather than a sexual issue. Why not try saying, "Honey (or whatever you call him normally), why haven't we had sex since our wedding night?" See what you learn. Or, if you want to be a little more adventurous, you could skip the talking and try being a little spontaneous one night. When you are kissing, try saying, "I want you right now!" Then start the process. That statement will either lead to sex, or to a discussion. If it leads to sex, then have the discussion afterwards.
Good luck, and have fun!
2007-08-19 20:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by triz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, looking through your previous questions, if this is the one that has been e-mailing someone else, having fits of rage, always blaming you for his problems, you have more problems than just sex. Is this the same guy you asked about months ago that was having an affair with you? I mean, if that's the case, you seem to have rushed into things, and there are much bigger issues to deal with. Maybe he's cheating...it's very possible with the e-mail and especailly if this is the same guy you've asked about before. I would be completely surprised if my BF would go a week without at least asking for sex. I think you two need to talk and possibly go to counseling and deal with your relationship on all levels.
2007-08-19 20:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by tbjumper0514 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being too busy is a cop out.
Something doesn't smell right.
Get to the bottom of it now.
Either you have a problem or he has a very very big problem.
It's more like he is the one with a BIG problem and you are young and naive.
In seventy two years the only time I have heard of this is when a woman marries a homosexual and he is trying to cover up the fact.
It always turns out very bad.
Get to the bottom of it NOW before you invest anymore time in him.
Life is too short.
Could be he has a health problem. If so then you need to wonder what your problem is.
I'm editing this last part.
I looked at you last 17 questions and when all your questions are rolled up in one, this question doesn't look right.
Whats really up with you. Go back and look at your previous questions and you will know what I mean.
2007-08-19 20:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if your both cool with it, then it's no one elses business.
Now, since you don't let sex become a major issue and your both happy, maybe we can all learn something from you. It seems that you've focused on the more important issues of a relationship and made things work.
You, of course, could use sex as a once a month special treat as a celebration for whatever. You will certainly appreciate it more than folks who just take it and each other for granted.
Best Wishes
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2007-08-19 20:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long were you two together prior to being married? If more than 2years, I can understand, but if less than that...you both should be having the best time of your love life. Any new stressors in life? Stress @ work, family, health, etc...can cause men to be uninterested @ times. STD's? sometimes men won't talk to their partners about this...of course. But, both of you need to communicate with each other. Good luck!
2007-08-19 20:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by BIGDOGJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that happen to me. Two and a half years later, we were still not having sex. He found out that he had a prostrate problem. It took a long time for him to get better, and by then he was afraid to have sex. Tell him to get a check up, so that if there is a problem he can be helped before it becomes serious.
2007-08-19 20:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart,
It doesnt make any difference. What seems / feels right for you two love birds is what IS right for you. If you have real concerns, talk to him about it. The communication aspect is very important, and you'll find a lot more accurate information talking to him, than you will asking us web demons :)
Happy Six Months anniversary
2007-08-19 20:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's odd. So what's your question? You know it's not normal and obviously you aren't THAT happy with the situation otherwise you wouldn't have posted it here. I don't mean that sarcastically I'm just telling you that deep inside you know this situation is a bit on the "off" side. Why don't you initiate sex with him? See where that takes you. This isn't a healthy marriage. I know, I know, it's not all about sex but sex is one way of creating closer relationships with our husbands.
2007-08-19 20:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's the question medicgirl? I would definetly talk with someone professionally. The both of you. Sex is a part of nature. You mentioned you both had personal problems. That may grow and fester as your relationship progresses. It's best to take care of it now. Goodluck! ' )
2007-08-19 20:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by spiritius4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My live-in boyfriend and I haven't had sex for about 5 months...really, it's not a big deal unless it's making you unhappy. Don't let it bring you down because other people say it's not normal. Everyone is different.
Are either of you on antidepressants? Sometimes that can affect things.
Good luck! :)
2007-08-20 08:22:49 · answer #11 · answered by Sid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋