how do you feels when your hubby say that you can't give him a child yet after 5 years marriege?

Answer 1

Like this marriage has come to its end. He should figure, if you can't have kids, he can't have kids. By now, he should be looking into other alternatives. If he's just sitting back blaming you, then let him go so he can find a baby mama. And, hopefully all the drama that goes with it.

Answer 2

Is he critical because you can't get pregnant OR is he saying that he doesn't want a child yet? They are very different issues.

If you're having problems getting pregnant, see a fertility specialist (and hubby needs a major kick in the pants if he's critical of you for that). If he doesn’t want kids yet, then respect that!

Answer 3

If you know you can't, that would sting and be like a punch in the belly.
There's tests you can go through, maybe he is sterile? You didn't elaborate.
There's also IVF and fertility medication.
Have you prayed.
Your Heavenly Father knows All and would love to comfort you and hear from you.

Answer 4

Hi Rizqhani, I took a moment to look at your profile and I realized you've never asked a question, just joined, and beside this question I'm answering from 4 mins ago also asked a question 1 minute ago about ending your marriage.

I will try to answer your questions (both questions) several ways: Here I go.

From a perspective, using only this sentence. I think your husband might be right. There is a degree of truth to his statement even if it hurts your feelings. I suspect that you're upset and hurt because he said it. Well I don't know why or what your circumstances are, but I wouldn't suggest that you make this about a single sentence that your husband said for whatever reason.

Now another way:
I had a friend who was married to a women for 20 years. They did not have a child together, but they were very close. I don't think that there marriage was smooth sailing, and I've seen a few friends in childless relationship that couldn't seem to survive. In the last one the woman cheated with any guy with two legs, and the husband begged her to stay. In another one, the guy went wild and again the wife begged him to stay. But in the ones that last and are so golden, I've looked at these couples without kids with envy. I mean you and your husband are gonna face a mountain that only the two of you can climb together, but if you do it. If you hang on, I think you'll find that you'll achieve something many of us have difficulty getting to. I think if you can overcome the fact of not haveing a child you'll find a joy and a love between each other that would inspire Shakespeare.

Another way: If you and your husband decide to make this work--you'll be doing it for the right reasons. You won't have any children to consider, or any other concerns. The question is can you and your husband see your relationship as something special as it is now? Can you accept that what you have is of itself special? Do you feel that watching another couple with children somehow invalidates your relationship? Can you look at your husband as your very own baby?

Even in my marriage having children has been difficult (we do have a daughter), but I realize that although my daughter is special, my wife is my everything and my all. And yes, I have talked to her about our issue on pregnancy, and maybe even I said the words straight forward, but she received it well as my intentions were sincere. But there are times when my wife shares with me her feelings. I'm overweight so sometimes she shares that I'm fat. She doesn't follow me around and call me names. But there are times when she just says it--I'm not talking about a diplomatic, hold my hand and say it. I don't mean everytime she's upset with me. But maybe just before we go to meet a couple for dinner as she's looking me over in my clothes up in the bedroom. I mean there are times she just say "Your Fat".

I've thought about those hurtful, truthful words, and then I thought about 100 things my wife does to show her love. I thought about the other words and actions that she shares with me every day. So perhaps you can look for those words and actions?

If you can find the love he has for you in his eyes, if you can feel it in his heart then I would suggest matching it to your own and working through this, and challenging that mountain. If you can only find resentment in his eyes, and regreat in his heart, then I might suggest that you sit down and make a list of what you love about him, and how he shows his love to you. Again, if this continues to fail, I think you'll find your own answer both through reasoning and a clear conscious.

Now think of these answers:
Does he say you can't give him a child only when you have a fight (a fight about anything)?

Does he say this when he sees another couple with children, or is it around a special time of year, or does it coincide with a phone call from a relative or to a reatlive?

Does your husband only say those words at night when cuddling up and with his eyes clothes thinking about kids?

Does makes him say it--if it's the first time ever then you should just let this one go--but if you can find out what makes those words come out, it can help you see for better or worst where you relationship is headed?

Answer 5

It's time for me to understand how I truly feel about myself.

Can I feel good about myself without a child?

Can I accept that my hubby feels that I am incapable

because I can not have a child?

Do I see that "I can not have a child" as incapable?

Answer 6

It may be that you need to see a doctor about why you are not getting pregnant. It may not even be your fault. He may have a low sperm count. There are options that can be taken to help you succeed in having children, if you are interested. Just get to the doctor before you get depressed about it.

Answer 7

I would feel bad if I was in that situation but remember its not always the woman sometimes the men are shooting blanks I suggest you both get tested.

Answer 8

Get help!
If he doesn't want kids and u knew before marry him, well u shouldn't have married him.
But if it is other issues> See a Reproductive Endocrinologist. Lots of people have fertility problems.

Answer 9

Like getting pregnant by someone else.

Why are you staying with him?

Take a hold of his 'member' and show him how it works.

Answer 10

If Is there is a Will ,there is always A WAy. His words hurt,but no one should be pointing each other.