how appropraite is it for hindu to marry muslim.?

Question

if both have affair or are in love for a year or more.should parents agree,what about its influences.

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong in getting married with a person belonging to another religion. If you both have proper understanding amongst yourselves, respect for each other, respect for each other's religion & families. There is no condition with regards to changing any ones religion just for the sake of such inter-religious marriage then you must go ahead & get married by civil marriage under the Special Marriage Act, 1955 if you both are in India. As far the consent or agreement of this marriage with the parents is concerned there is no such condition required in such civil marriage. The necessary conditions & procedure to be followed in such marriage is as follow: - You both belonging to different religion can marry in the court without changing your individual religion. Court marriage as you call it is solemnized under the Special Marriage Act, 1954 all such marriages can take place between any two Indian citizens as well one Indian citizen with a foreigner irrespective of their religion, caste or creed, and you can say this is the secular form of marriage available in our country. Such a marriage is solemnized before the marriage officer/registrar usually D.C. deputy commissioner of the area (Sub registrar/SDM is the marriage officer/registrar only in case the already solemnized marriage under any other Act has to be registered) where both or any of the parties to such a marriage reside permanently or for at least one month. Cost of such a marriage is merely Rs90/- or as the rate prevalent in your area. Now how you proceed? Both the parties to the marriage file a joint application before the marriage officer along with individual affidavit attested by notary public specifying the age(boy 21yrs &girl 18yrs), place of residence, marital status(unmarried or divorcee as the case maybe), mental status(not idiot or not with unfit mind), not related to each other. Along with this you have to give proof of age (School certificate, Passport, Pan card), proof of residence (Passport, ration card, voters ID card, rent agreement), & the application of such a marriage should be witnessed by 3 independent adult persons, affix one photograph of each of the parties & all the 3 witnesses. You have made such an application/notice to the marriage officer in person along with all the 3 witnesses. On receiving such an application the marriage officer issues a month notice regarding the intended marriage & get such a notice affixed on the notice board out side his office, a copy of such notice is sent to the marriage officer under whose jurisdiction the other party lives, also a copy is to the individual parties address. After expiry of the period of notice a date is fixed on which all the persons parties to the marriage & 3 witnesses appear again before the marriage officer who declare them married & issue a certificate to this regard. Incase of any objections raised the marriage officer will settle these objections. Now what can be objections that can be raised? These can ONLY BE REGARDING THE CONDITIONS NECESSARY FOR SUCH MARIAGE & NOTHING ELSE. What are the conditions? As I stated above i.e. Age, martial status, mental status, prohibited relationship (related to each other by blood). This is the brief procedure I have told you here, incase you want any clarification you can ask.

Answer 2

It depends on the way you look at it. If you consider marriage to be a sacred relationship based on love and trust between two human beings, then it is quite appropriate for a Hindu to marry a Muslim. If you consider it from a religious point of view only, where the persons are less important than their religions, it is inappropriate. I would choose the former simply because it has its foundations on humanity and not narrow divisiveness.
About its influences, most of us consider Hinduism and Islam as two widely divergent religions nearly opposite to each other. In fact there is a lot of enmity between the followers of the two religions. If such an inter communal marriage can create a bridge between the two communities, I would consider that as a healthy influence. But more often than not such marriages only widen the rift between the two communities, which is not desirable.

Answer 3

This is a sensitive and subjective issue and what i am stating is just my opinion.

There is no such thing as appropriate or not. It's all in ones mindset. As for parents, it depends on their values and believes, culture, environment and their stand in this. All of these are usually the deciding factors for the parents.

The other factor might be the conversion part. No parent would want to loose their child to another religion.

The other aspect would be the religion of their grandchildren when they are born.

The kids should be firm in their decisions and should be able to respect eah others religion and show some religious tolerance. If their love is prevailing, none should be asked to renounce their religion or convert to the other.

What's more, the best part is that the offsprings will be able to enjoy maximum exposure to 2 of the world's greatest religion!

Answer 4

It is perfectly appropriate biologically and legally. In India religion ranks very high on sensitive scale. If the religion is not of that important, and mutual compatibility is the priority for both of you, then there is nothing wrong. The test for compatibility is that non of the partners concerned shall force conversion on the other even after marriage. Best Luck.

Answer 5

Looks like you are not sure of it yourself, hence you posted this question. what is appropriate for you is most important. Since in india marriages are between two families, and not individuals, there may be on going issues at every step, It needs a higher level of consciousness for both of you to get married. How mature you both are is what counts.

Religion is your personal path to god, it all starts when one starts looking at the other saying mine is better than yours, or my faith is superior than yours. when you have children its agian going to be what will they follow?

If you both have respect for your own cultures, mores, food, practices, then there should not be any problems. If you are staying in a mixed culture then they also can have an impact on your life.
good luck

Answer 6

my dear friend you are the 1 who's getting married not your parents, u might tell me the traditions of ur country can't accept it, well in my country it's the same and more believe me, and I'm christian married to a Muslim do u think it's more appropriate then your case ? while we had wars between the 2 religion!? if u love her go for it ur parents wont live ur life.

Answer 7

The problem is not in the marriage.Becoz
inter-religious marriage are good for our country...
But the problem starts only after the marriage...
particularly when a kid is born.The elders in the
family start their argument about the growth of the kid.
Like he should follow our caste only,he will be named in
our religious way only.... So it now depend on the couple
how u are going to handle the situtations after marriage...
All the best...

Answer 8

culture, society and upbringing plays a very vital role in any relationship. the flame of love will be off after few sexual interactions and then you are in trouble, severe trouble. the relationship in most of the cases turn out to be abusive due to difference in traits, tastes, thoughts etc. parents never agree but you people force them to agree by threatening them. wake up, don't enter the sink, from where you can't come out..
i commited a blunder to marry a sikh woman and she turned out to be an abusive and insane woman..
of course, there are relationships, which are rotten in the same religion marriage too, but inter religion marriage is more prone to being a big flop..

Answer 9

In fact, it is not appropriate to marry, specifically when the cultures are absolutely different. Most of the couple has faced lot of problems within 2 yrs and have been separated.

Answer 10

Being attracted to somebody is completely different from being in a relationship with them .The culture ,the society ,the religion all have an impact on our lives . I know that love is beyond all this ,but living together can't be beyond this.So,if you are sure ,that you can live with her ,go for it .Otherwise think again .

Answer 11

no....problem,,,,but am sure ur parents will not agree for that at first...n society to.. so definitely there is some dhishhum dhishhum (fight) but dont worry u can get a police protection...all of this is just for few days...n after some days all things will come on the routine...n hope ur family also will accept u..