Marriage & Divorce - 19 August 2007

I@m writing this on behalf of a mate of mine, and we need some questions answering. My mate has split with his wife of ten years last year and there are going through a messy divorce. Last week his son went home to his mum after a visit with his dad and told his mum that his grandad was hitting him and now my mates wife had got in touch with the lawyers and told them her sons grandad is abusing him and belive me there is not a chance on earth that this has happened he is not like that and is not left alone with him. we all know what kids are like he is only 3 and things can be put in their minds.....His ex wife is wanting some conditions put in the divorce papers as to him never been left with his grandad again. Also after all this she is still letting her son go to his house this weekend now if this has happened would you allow your child to go this weekend???

Is this right? what can be done? Will it stand up in court?

2007-08-19 12:05:11 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Wasted 18 years with a cheating woman time to live life with a woman dark hair slim/med build mail me

2007-08-19 11:33:59 · 10 answers · asked by andrew h 2

How do marriages between blacks and whites work?

2007-08-19 11:29:07 · 33 answers · asked by Mr.DarkFire 2

Please be v. honest with me.Thanks

2007-08-19 11:25:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is afraid that if his kids from previous marriage get mad at him for something ( for ex. if he doesn't let them go to their friends' house) they will run to their mother and make up stories to get back at their father. They already complained to their mother about him threatening to spank them. She called my husband and told him that she was going to call the police on him.My husband never spanked his kids , but he does threaten sometimes( we both know it is wrong !). My husband's ex is miserable and very bitter and she will gladly use any opportunity to hurt my husband. My husband is afraid that his daughters could make up a story about him abusing them sexually or physically. The girls are very spoiled and demand money and clothes so that's why we are afraid that they would lie and blackmail us to get what they want. My husband told the kids that he couldn't trust them and can't have them at our place, but he loves them and he wants them in his life, what should we do?

2007-08-19 11:24:09 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love watching those episodes on Cheaters. The best!!

2007-08-19 11:21:33 · 14 answers · asked by Meadow 1

Ok, here is todays situation - normally it is worse.

She wanted to make lasagna, and asked if I could leave with my 2 year old for a while so she could. I did. When we came back (at 3:30) she gave me the EGGS she cooked for me while we went out. Ok, why did you make me eggs? "you wanted them for breakfast!" To her it seemed logical. What happened to the lasagna? I got no response.

Then she said she wanted to go to Red Lobster. After a little convincing she got me to go. Ok, so we're going to Red Lobster. But wait, now she wants to go to Taco Bell. Ok I say, it's cheaper anyways, and closer to lasagna than seafood is. Well then it turns into will I go to Taco Bell and bring it home for her. With a movie, but it has to be a good one. Is she beyond all repair?

Note about the movie - last time I got 4 movies (Touristas, Casino Royal, Stranger than Fiction and Blood Diamond) and she made me go get NORBIT! I mean, come on, Norbit! Is she crazy?

2007-08-19 11:16:47 · 23 answers · asked by rayj129 2

2007-08-19 11:16:29 · 11 answers · asked by Virginia 3

Yesterday my boyfriend told me that he doesn't really feel "excited" about marriage or having children. He said that he doesn't dislike it but he doesn't like it. He "has no opinion on it". We're both still in grad school so I know that I still have a long way to go before I get married but eventually we both know that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. Is it bad that he doesn't feel "excited" about starting this part of his life though? Is it because he's still young or Is it normal for guys to not feel "excited" about it these things?


Oh yeah, I forgot to mention that he is not the type of guy that gets excited about things. He hardly expresses extreme happiness about doing something. He is always just "no opinion" about everything. He's really laid back. But still, it's marriage! and kids! and I know that he really loves me, that he'd do anything for me and vice versa but not sure if this is normal.

2007-08-19 11:14:40 · 5 answers · asked by Maria L 2

2007-08-19 11:07:01 · 10 answers · asked by Meadow 1

Several issues are going on. The first issue is money, he lives with his parents (pays $0 rent), has a full time job, but never has any money. His "friends" borrow money from him all the time and he buys toys...radios, car parts (he collects cars). I thought for the past three months he was saving money for us to have a down payment on a house but that isn't the case. Issue no. 2, he lies to his parents all of the time, he wants them to think that he is perfect, I am constantly begging him to move out of his house (because he says he's unhappy living there) but he's afraid of hurting his mom, so he has been procrastinating with this for the past 2 months. But he is in a rush to get married, I want to wait 2 or 3 years so we can both grow up a little before getting married. But I don't think he'll wait, he'll grow impatient and find someone else. I love him and he loves me but it feels that he loves his mom more. BTW he is 26 and I am 24

2007-08-19 11:04:15 · 11 answers · asked by Mags 1

Married almost 6 yrs and one child who is almost 5, he wants to leave me and take our son back home which is in another state. We are still at his last duty station and I work here. He hasnt work since he got out of the army but he collects unemployment. I thought it sounded like a joke untill he hit me with some legal facts. He said he has every right to take our son wherever he wants since we are not divorced and have no custody arrangements. He said he hates sharing the vehicle with me and that he wants to wait untill I find a place I can afford on my own and untill I find a cheap little bucket car to get around in. He knows my child starts school this month but he still wants to leave. Anything legal I can do?

2007-08-19 11:03:11 · 23 answers · asked by ang1492 2

hello every one , so i am 22 and i am engaged to this young docotor who is 28 and being a doctor he is always busy , so we see each other when ever we can , however lately he took 3 months as a vaccation from the main hospital he works in and in conclusion , now he works for four days a week and is off for three days a week , he spends only one day from these three days with me , and spends the other 2 days with his freinds , and when ever i talk to him about it he accuses me of nagging , but the way i see it , he isnt eager to spend more time with me and he thinks the days we spend together is enough , i once insisted we talk about it so his answer was " we will get married next summer so this is the last summer i get to spend as a bachelor " , what the hell does that mean ?! what do i do !

2007-08-19 10:52:18 · 18 answers · asked by babyKitten 1

2007-08-19 10:48:28 · 13 answers · asked by candyapple 1

well my parents got divorced 6 years ago and the switching back and forth has started to create some maddness. i am with one parent for 3 days and with the other for 4. then i am with one for 4 days and the other for 3. it is way too difficult to bring school clothes back and forth and i never know which house i am at.
i have already made a dicision to live with my mom and go to my dads every other weekend but i am too afraid to mention it to my dad. i dont want to hurt his feelings and i dont want him to think that i dont love him. i am in a huge dilema. please help

2007-08-19 10:43:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

She prefers zingers to twinkies... is she Satan? Beelzebub? Do I need to leave this relationship to pursue a twinkie-lover? How can someone call themselves a Christian and worship zingers? what the hell?

2007-08-19 10:36:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My grandfather will be turning 70 in September. My mom and I are planning a surprise party for him but we also want to get him a really nice gift. We are thinking of spending like $300 maximum on the gift. He is really special to me. He has everything which is why this gift idea is difficult. He likes, cooking, carpentry, gardening, cars, baking. He doesn't like museums, restaurants, nothing tht requires him to be around a lot of people for long time. He has every gardening and tool imaginable to man...he has almost every baking machine. He's Cuban...he loves music and old movies. We were thinking about a video camera or a nice watch...but does anyone have any other ideas?? I would really appreciate it! Thanks

2007-08-19 10:31:39 · 5 answers · asked by dcasas81 3

2007-08-19 10:27:39 · 7 answers · asked by Annice M 1

2007-08-19 10:20:25 · 17 answers · asked by Rass Cal 1

2007-08-19 10:18:26 · 14 answers · asked by AngelG 1

2007-08-19 10:14:17 · 13 answers · asked by Robin R 1

A relative just got caught cheating again by his daughter. She got into his email, forwarded the evidence to the rest of the global family because he made counter-accusations once his wife started their inevitable divorce . Afterwards, his daughter confronted him, being once again, the spokesperson for her mother. I suppose her mom gave up and him cheat. That night, his daughter took his laptop with the "evidence" and smashed it in front of him.

Now he's turned into a Scrooge-type who wil die alone, but because of lust and not greed.

2007-08-19 10:05:17 · 15 answers · asked by cpc26ca 1

I will be married for 15 years in sept. She is the only woman ive been with. I have always loved her and we have three boys. She has left four times I have our children and have filed for divorce. she was unfaithful the last time and I cant keep doing this! I cant imagine life with out her. Thats not to say I was always happy. She wasnt taking care of our kids or our house the way she should have for a stay at home mom. I felt like she didnt appriciate me. I just could never give up on her and hoped she would realize before its too late. I want the divorce to protect me and my boys future. I just wish there was a way she could be apart of it. So am i crazy!

2007-08-19 10:01:25 · 12 answers · asked by Hot Rod 1

My wife's parents are calling it quits after 4 decades. My kids really love 'em. We haven't broken it to them yet. Just wondering if they'll "blow it off" or if it will affect them. Kids are 5,7, and 13.

2007-08-19 09:56:45 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-19 09:52:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has always has his way with the ladies. Over the last year i have found out some things he has done and then lied about. I have never cheated. EVER. I have asked him to come clean, and i think he has to a certain degree, but still left some things out. So i find out from others that have absolutely no reason to lie, and since hubby has lied to me soooo much i cant trust him. So one of his lines in an email o a female was what i dont know wont hurt me. So im thinkin, k if thats how its gonna b ok then. So is this a case of an eye for an eye?? If hes doing things behind my back that i dont know about im thinkin i can too. I know its not right, but **** man. Ive tried to see if he wanted to try swingin but he doesnt want another man areound. I fugured that way we could have fun with out goin behind backs or lying, or the bullshit. I am realizing i dont know this man at all. Weve been together 15 yrs married 3. I just dont understand.

2007-08-19 09:33:59 · 96 answers · asked by mizchif2729 2

after all the kids adore dad and if he leaves they get hurt too dont they ? Is this a symptom of other problems in the marriage ?

2007-08-19 09:20:59 · 16 answers · asked by Latin Techie 7

Marriage requires a man to prepare 4 types of "RINGS" :
- The Engagement Ring
- The Wedding Ring
- The Suffer-Ring
- The Endue-Ring

Married life is full of excitement and frustration :
- In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.
- In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.
- In the third year, they BOTH speak and the NEIGHBOURS listen.

Son: Is it true? Dad, I heard that in ancient China, a man doesn't know his wife until he marries. Father: That happens everywhere, son, EVERYWHERE!

A happy marriage is a matter of give and take; the husband gives and the wife takes.

A woman was telling her friend , "It is I who made my husband a millionaire." "And what was he before you married him." Asked the friend. The woman replied, " A multi-millionaire".

2007-08-19 09:20:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

It seems to me that some people offer divorce as the only possible solution to couples who are experiencing problems in their marriage.
It is not the first and only option married people have!!
It should be the last resort. It is extremely painful, and damaging especially when there are children involved.
The same way people should consider marriage with all its implications, the same way they should consider divorce.
It is costly psychologically and materially!!!
So, please, do not just advise people to get a divorce or leave their partner whenever they cry for help.
Are there lots of happy divorcees out there? What do you think?

2007-08-19 09:07:33 · 10 answers · asked by Kc 6

Looking back on a failed relationship - what are some things that you learned about yourself?
For me I realized that I had allowed my self respect to be trampled on by my S-T-B-E-W. I will never allow another woman to do that to me again.
This woman turned out to be a very selfish and self centered person. Instead of focusing on trying to work on our marital problems - she sought comfort in the arms of other men.
What a shame .. we could have had a great life together. But it was her choice.
The one I feel bad for in all this is my little 6 1/2 year old son.
His family life got ripped apart .
My focus now is trying to be the best dad I can be and to always be there for him.
Please don't get the impression that I was a saint ..I wasn't .. but I never cheated on her,abused her in anyway and tried to be as a good a husband as I possibly could.
Could I have done better. You bet.
But we live and learn in life.
All the best.

2007-08-19 08:39:16 · 2 answers · asked by Cardinal64 2