How do you get your significant other to be clean and organized?

Answer 1

Communication.
Find a system that person can live with.
A place for everything.
Ask this person for assistance in keeping the place clean, and do it for you if they will not do it for themselves.
If doing it the nice way fails, you can always issue the ultimatum and be ready to move out. When they see that you are serious, things will change.

Answer 2

You can't.

You might make changes for a short time but it won't last. Unless your sig other wants to change, your attempts to change the situation won't amount to much. You'll just frustrate the crap out of both of you.

If you like things to be clean and organized, you must clean and organize things. Do it for you -- because that's what you like.

Sounds like you might be engaged in a power struggle. Nobody wins at that.

Accept that your sig other has a different standard of cleanliness and organization than you do. It probably won't change.

Some people solve this problem by no longer caring. They become a bigger slob than their spouse. Sometimes that can work. If things sink to a level that even the spouse doesn't like. But you can't be vindictive about it. You have to genuinely stop caring about cleanliness and organization. Let things get bad to where your partner says something. Then you'll have a common goal and you can work on it. But as long as your partner has different priorities, you're sunk.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You can't some people are just not organized to keep their home in real perfect condition, when I was married my home was kept very neat. I am by myself and you would never guess it gets cluttered real often and once a week on Saturday I get it back in order for the next Saturday clean up.

Answer 4

My husband is such a cluttered, messy person. It drives me crazy, but we've met halfway. I told him that I'll keep the bedroom and the kitchen clean, if he does laundry and runs the errands. You can't change someone, because that's probably how your other half was raised, and that's how they just are now. Try compromising as I have done. When he sits down and the laundry hasn't been done, I turn off the TV and tell him no TV until it's done. Sometimes they just have to be treated like little kids, and need to be told exactly what you want them to do and how you want them to do it. But compromising and meeting halfway seems to be working on my end. Good luck!

Answer 5

I thought that if I got everything real clean and organized, my ex would want to keep it up..... WRONG. He didn't even SEE dirt or disorganization, so it was hopeless to expect him to participate in cleaning at all... in ANY way shape or form.
I had to either clean it or leave it dirty. If we'd of had more money, I would have forced him to hire a maid to do his half.
Good Luck.... I couldn't have changed his habits if I'd offered him a million dollars.

Answer 6

My husband tried for years to change me, it only made me resentful. If you don't like the way it is change it, but you can't try changing a person or you will lose them.

Answer 7

Ummmm....Shouldn't that be the Other way Around?
Hold-on, I have that Book around here Somewhere...maybe That pile....Give me a sec....

Answer 8

By rewarding them (verbally) when they do. And how they say - if it bothers you., just you - what are you going to do about it? Think about it

Answer 9

don't pick of after your spouse, let them clean up after themselves...that's what my grandma did w/my grandpa

Answer 10

Threaten to leave him/her. I love that one.