How does it feel knowing that your children will probably not even attend your funreal?

Question

A relative just got caught cheating again by his daughter. She got into his email, forwarded the evidence to the rest of the global family because he made counter-accusations once his wife started their inevitable divorce . Afterwards, his daughter confronted him, being once again, the spokesperson for her mother. I suppose her mom gave up and him cheat. That night, his daughter took his laptop with the "evidence" and smashed it in front of him.

Now he's turned into a Scrooge-type who wil die alone, but because of lust and not greed.

She is a nurse who works hard to support their 3 kids including all the overtime she can handle (supposedly RNs who work at mental hospitals have a kind of mandatory overtime), the eldest lives with bf. He ended up gambling most of their kid's college fund and takes "business trips" so that he can visits how ever many women he's juggling. If you want to read the rest of what he's done...here's the link to my question regarding him sleeping on our couch for a year!

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgRlvrSDQjjS38FVHEvL.DPsy6IX?qid=20070819001549AAHDRLy

I think you should read the other question I posted before defending the guy...so womanizers have the right to be happy?...at the expense of his family?

He is already cheating on the woman he got stuck with.

Answer 1

First of all, a daughter has no business acting as "spokesperson" on behalf of either parent.
What goes on between parents is really not the business of any offspring.

That much anger must be taken care of through counselling. For everyone in that family.
I would also not be too quick too judge dad. Who knows what was going on in the marriage that the daughter knows NOTHING about... it's none of her business.

Counselling... is the answer... lots of it.

Answer 2

He's a womanizer but he's not admitting that. He just goes out womanizing and let's whatever happens happen. Yes, his kids are going to be aware of what's going on. It's a shame that he lets his macho activities be so open that he gets caught by his own daughter. If he expects approval and love in return, I think he will have a long wait.
Who cares if he doesn't have his children at his funeral? He will be dead and buried. They will be alive and bitter - not a good place to be either. But they don't need to show anything to a dead man. It's a sad situation for him while he's alive, not when he is the front and center display piece at a funeral - his own.

Answer 3

I can't believe all the people that defended this guy and/or attacked the daughter.

This man has serious problems and needs to seek counseling. His problems go beyond cheating. It sounds like he is looking for someone to take care of him. Hopefully he can get some help, start acting like a responsible man and mend the relationships with his children. He has enough to fix in his life. I doubt he is worrying about his funeral.

Answer 4

A man like him will never change, never. His how old? At that age it's too late for him, for the rest of his life until he dies he will never be able to be loyal to any women. Any women who thinks she can be the one to change him will only be wasting her time, her emotions and her money.

In the end he will die alone but than again judging by his actions that is what he wants.

Answer 5

If I had such a nasty daughter I wouldnt want her coming to my funeral. What a weak mother to have her daughter do the talking for her......I wonder what she has filled her daughter's head with for her to hate her father so much. Sounds to me like he was not only a henpecked husband, but also a henpecked father. Hes probably sick of women and wants to hide himself away from domineering persecuting family members. What the daughter did was inexusible....it had nothing to do with her and the fact that she got away with it tells me who wears the pants in the family and it is neither the husband or the wife. What the father did was wrong.....as far as we know......we dont know what goes on behind closed doors and I am sure the daughter or the mother are not going to tell you the real truth anyway. I feel sorry for the man....his daughter has successfully turned people against her own father.....not a nice daughter at all.

Answer 6

The daughter is at fault. She had no business to act the way she did toward her father. I see here that she hated her father and as a result of these she looked forward to embarrass him and at the end its her who is hurt. The family is splitting. The marriage is ending, She should have concentrated on her own problem and know she is in the middle of it. Sometimes there are things we must bear to overcome. Some we have to overlook them and move on.

Answer 7

Well it is his life and he did make the decision. He will have to live with his mistake, not you. I dont condone such behavior, but in reality, what can we do about it? We cannot change the past, nor can we change people or their attitudes. He will have to deal with all of this in due time.

Answer 8

Makes you wonder how the daughter is going to feel thinking she's going to get something in a will and she doesn't.

Answer 9

I would think he has his own life to lead, and it was not his daughter's place to stick her nose in her parent's private life . That was not only disrespectful, it made things worse.

I wouldn't care who did or didn't come to my funeral. *I* wouldn't even be there if I could help it! I want to be cremated, anyway.

Answer 10

Wow; lots of hostility and emotions there.

Think it best to realize we are all human and make human mistakes. Don't be so harsh to judge others; know you are hurting, but you only have one dad.