Yesterday my boyfriend told me that he doesn't really feel "excited" about marriage or having children. He said that he doesn't dislike it but he doesn't like it. He "has no opinion on it". We're both still in grad school so I know that I still have a long way to go before I get married but eventually we both know that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. Is it bad that he doesn't feel "excited" about starting this part of his life though? Is it because he's still young or Is it normal for guys to not feel "excited" about it these things?
Oh yeah, I forgot to mention that he is not the type of guy that gets excited about things. He hardly expresses extreme happiness about doing something. He is always just "no opinion" about everything. He's really laid back. But still, it's marriage! and kids! and I know that he really loves me, that he'd do anything for me and vice versa but not sure if this is normal.
2007-08-19 11:14:40 · 5 answers · asked by Maria L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I see nothing wrong with it. I mean I'm not even a guy and I'm just as laid back at times. But it is a yes for kids some day. Marriage, not too sure. I would love for it to happen but so many people are against it today who knows. But yea its normal for him not to be thrilled about it now. As he figures it will be a ways off before it happens. But its never so good to be too laid back. Sometimes you have to have an opinion on things and stand by them.
Best thing you can do here is ask him for his views straight out. Don't take a "no opinion" as an answer either. Because once you two do graduate and your goals change after school, then its nice to know you both are on the same path instead of one person just wants to sit back and have no view. Sounds to me like he wants life to steer him through things. Well if he has a partner that has strong views on things he doesn't agree to he will be one unhappy camper. So you have to pull it out of him on how he feels directly. Because no one needs regrets down the road.
2007-08-19 12:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty much the same. I don't get too happy or sad about anything. If I had kids, I know I would love them and spend a lot of time with them. Up to this point (and for the forseeable future) I do not want kids or to be married. I have told this to every girl I have ever dated. Some are ok with that and think I will change my mind, others say they are ready now and move on...
You know this guy. You have to know how he would react if you announced that you were pregnant. If you think he would be excited, it would be ok. If he started talking about abortions, you might want to move on...
2007-08-19 18:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by M X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are just way to young to even be thinking about marriage and kids, let alone getting excited about it. There is so many other things you should be getting excited over. Live your life in the present not the future.
2007-08-19 19:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds alright to me if you don't want to marry him. If you do...well...you might have a problem. Also, before you even consider marriage to this man you might want to attend couples counseling as it sounds like he might have a problem expressing emotions which could be a problem later on in your lives. Good Luck
2007-08-19 19:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually, i don't think it sounds good at all. granted, guys tend to get less "excited" about these types of things but, the fact that he has no opinion at all would make me sit back and think.
2007-08-19 18:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋