Marriage & Divorce - 19 August 2007

2007-08-19 08:28:16 · 18 answers · asked by angel 2

recently my marriage has had more downs than ups. i have expressed my willingness to fix our marriage at any cost. i have requested forgiveness for my shortcomings and likewise offered to forgive my spouse. after 8years tg u begin 2 learn how people act, when they r excited or mention something or somebody a couple of different times. I asked my wife if there was somebody new in her life and she looked me in the eye and said no. she just had this weird look about her though, so i asked her if she would tell me if there was. she said that she would not tell me. additionally we have only had sex once over the past couple of weeks. she has apoligized and told me that it was bc her stomach had been hurting her at night. she still wants me to rub her back however i don't feel close to her, i feel very distant. in my mind even her kisses are a weak effort. does this behavior mean she has another man on her mind?

2007-08-19 08:16:30 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am doing a survey. Why do you think there are people who have very successful marriages, and then why do you think there are so many divorces?

2007-08-19 08:01:38 · 4 answers · asked by r64 2

my husband and I have 4 children together 2 were born before we were married and 2 after. We agreed on my last name because we were'nt married..and then after we were married, we didn't want to single anyone out...now we are planning our 5th and my husband want THIS one to have his last name...wth? I don't think I should single out one kid from our other children to have his last name...what do you think?

2007-08-19 07:49:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a small problem... my husband's salary is about 2300 euros, we live in romania, he is a teacher. I always tell him he could do more to earn more, but he's not the type of guy that would say "ok honey, dont worry , you'll never need anything" ... he's in his late 20s, and just says "i always want u to be happy with what i have" ... is this a certain lack of ambition or fear that he cant do more?... I even brought up tthe fact that we'll have kids one day, and we;ll need more, he says he will try and always try for more, but they should be happy... Why didnt he say "my kids wont lack anything, i will do everything to give them what they want" ... :( he was poor himself in his childhood, but now earning that decent salary, which is more than the average income...but why doesnt he insist for more?... Our story was quite different from the beginning... I was the rich girl who had everything, he was the poor boy who worked by himself... Sometimes i think he lacks ambition :(...

2007-08-19 07:35:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I swear I answer more "is my significant other cheating" questions. Sometimes I sit and shake my head at the blatant signs of cheating. I had a situation where one of my married friends found another womans underwear in her bed.....and she asked her husband about it. He ofcourse denied it. I can't think of any reason another woman draws would be in a married couples' bed. Surely I would not be asking my husband if he cheated........the only question I would ask him is "did he hire a good lawyer"???

Do we fall so much in love until our ability to reason leaves our sphere of thinking?

I am not normal with my solutions to issues.....I don't think everyone was cut out for manogamous relationships. I think there are more folks who dont make the cut than we may ever know. It is just so against the norm to just be honest and tell someone upfront that you are not into manogammy. However, wouldn't that be the most honest thing to do...instead of breaking promises and hearts?

2007-08-19 07:34:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met a man recently (about a month ago) who seems to be very up front and honest with me. He told me he was married, which I already knew. He told me he has one son and his wife recently had twin girls, but he is not sure if the girls are his.

Over the past month we have been talking and slowly becoming friends. I knew that he was developing a crush on me and I on him, but I respected his marriage and didn't say anything about. Then one night he kissed me.

Even before the kiss, we both seemed to be very open and honest with each other. He knows I have a daughter from a previous relationship and was quite heartbroken to find out after becoming pregnant that my daughter's father is married with a daughter (he told me he was single with not children). He told me that he and his wife have talked about getting a divorce because the relationship is not going to work. He told her as soon as she stops nursing and returns to work he is filing papers.

is this adultery?

2007-08-19 06:54:49 · 38 answers · asked by chele2382 4

2007-08-19 06:19:42 · 71 answers · asked by Lil Star 2

I'm confused in my marriage. I'm not sure what to do next. :(
My husband cheated on me before we married. (That girl told me that your BF was chating on you with me) He said he wont do it if I forgive him and give him second chance. Which I did. A year later we married, and moved away to another state. We have been married a year and 2 months now. I'm still thinking: Will he cheat one me again? b/c I still feel hurt from his first cheat.
We dont really have alot of sex. once a month or so.=/ It is not I dont want to. It is he always feel tired from his work. We dont talk about our mind or feeling to each other either. Is that normal to married people? You lost interests in each other after married?
Now He is away for some business. He is not answering his phone when I called. He would call back after it. He goes bed at 10pm.(we usually dont go to bed until 11 or 12)
What should I do? I want to believe him, But I dont want to get some disease either if he lies to me again.

2007-08-19 05:54:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

tinly little lies.Well i never lie to my hubby,but i told him i hadnt seen some pics he had sent me,but i did.Is this bad?.i feel like im lying to him BIG TIME

2007-08-19 05:50:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live in Georgia, does anyone know how I would go back to using my maiden name. My home of record is South Carolina. My divorce was finialized in Georgia. Can anyone help me out with this. I really want to get it done this week.

2007-08-19 05:32:22 · 4 answers · asked by badobsession2003 1

I know it is wrong to hit people but she really annoys me

what can I do?????

2007-08-19 05:21:40 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband always telling lies and keeping everything as secrets from me.He is a mama's boy and he is giving much importance to them and reveal everything to them only.(wonderd why??)...I am getting irritated when i found out anything wrong.I feel he is cheating me.I hate him these days..I tried to change his stupid character but still he is the same.
How can I change him to a normal husband? I am so upset now.

2007-08-19 05:13:52 · 30 answers · asked by prajula 1

to put a woman in a bad mood then expect them to be smiling and happy after he's in a good mood? I'm going to kill him

2007-08-19 05:06:37 · 9 answers · asked by jacquie 6

Everything changes, and accepting that, is key to making the most of life. For now focus on expressing your feelings in appropriate ways.....

2007-08-19 05:06:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 17 years old, and I want to get a divorce from my parents. I want to know what is all involved, what should I do, and how much would it cost me? I have very good grounds to stand on, neither of my parents live with me. My mother/Father divorced when I was nine, my mother left with another man to another state,started another family and hasen't contacted me since. My dad made me stay with my grandparents, while he stay with another woman but he still live in this state but not with me, he never supported me at all. Since then and to this day My grandma has tooken care of me, bought me things I need. But she refuses to adopt me and she will not help me with things like this.So how would I go about doing this myself and what do I need to do?

2007-08-19 05:05:58 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

He Drops Our Son Off And Comments On How He Always Gets Hard When He Sees Me And Is Always Making Sex Dates With Me...He Tells Me I Have The Best "thing" He Has Ever Had..etc.etc...But He Stays With This Woman Yet Desiring Me Constantly......And Supposedly Doesn't Love Me Anymore...This Has Been Going On For Almost Five Years........What Gives?

2007-08-19 05:00:01 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous

I went to the state supreme court in New Jersey the other day to file for a set child support payment and visitation of my son, and I was given a court date. But, his mother and I have come to an agreement, and I wanted to cancel the court date and file that were given. I already posted this question before, and I got some great answers. The one I'm most interested in is the suggetion to go to the Court Clerk and get the file pulled. How do I go about doing this? We can have a lawyer sign off on our agreement, is that a good idea? Please, let me know.

2007-08-19 04:57:21 · 2 answers · asked by pspaceman1 2

very limited job options for him where we currently live. So while we dont exactly want to move it might be our only option. I have a son from a previous marriage whose father is not going to be pleased if I want to take my son son with us. What are my option as far as custody....has anyone been in a similiar situation?

2007-08-19 04:54:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do all or most women need constant re-assurance that their man loves them even if he's completely faithful to her, does those little things to brighten her day and even says, "I love you" on an almost daily basis?

We've been married 3 1/2 years and she still finds it necessary to ask me. When I ask her why, she always says that all women ask this and want to know. Tonight, instead she asked that I say something nice to her.

I answer that I think she's a kind person hoping it would be enough but no, she wants to know the reasons why I think she's like this. I question her need for asking these things and again she says that all women need to hear these things but I don't buy it.

So is this true and up until now every other woman I've been with has been a freak of nature and never needed this kind of reassurance, or is she just being insecure?

2007-08-19 04:50:46 · 12 answers · asked by Flashman 2

I recently moved to a new community, soon after divorce. My situation was talked about and alot of people have this "they should take care of me" feeling.. I have made it clear (as clear as I can) that I am not interested in dating right now (at least in my community as that causes obvious problems).. As soon as I moved here, I was warned repeatedly to stay clear of a neighbor as he is known as a "drug lord" that can't be caught and I have heard his drunken rages next door.

I have steered clear - and do not talk. Once he came over and I just clearly told him to go home. Then, he began leaving vegetables and fruit from his garden on my porch. Yet, again, I have had this happen with other people who all assume a single mother must need help (I actually do okay)... so, I didn't respond.

Today, he brought more and left a note: " Don't freak out, I have no relationship with ____ ( a girl from our community) or any woman, you don't have to speak, if you don't want to, I just...

2007-08-19 04:44:17 · 30 answers · asked by Wildflower 6

It is hard to find a man these days with both, but if one would allow for a stronger marraige, with one would be more important ? I know both are needed, but Choosing only one, a man with a great character, that may be lacking as a good financial provider, or a man that is financially stable, and a good provider, but lacking in the personality department ??

2007-08-19 04:40:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've read with increasing frequency about people who profess to be "in love" with someone with whom they have carried on a "relationship" by ONLY electronic means (no face-to-face contact). Could you marry under these circumstances? Have you? How's that working out for you?

2007-08-19 04:31:57 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

now many young couples are going to childless as a lifestyle!

2007-08-19 04:25:53 · 11 answers · asked by kurt 1

When I try to tell my wife that contact she is having with another man I find to be inappropriate she has two approaches. 1. she tells me I am acting jealous and that she has no bad intentions or 2. she will become enraged and begin talking about seperation claiming we need time apart.

2007-08-19 04:22:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married six months... my husband is in the military and on a carrier right now. I love him and miss him very much - I DO NOT cheat! Anyhow, I have had two dreams recently involving me kissing other men. In one dream I knew the guy, but am not attracted to him and in the other dream it was someone I dont know. It never goes beyond kissing. After the first dream I blew it off but now, a week later, I have a similiar dream. What does this mean? Is it just because I am lonely while he is away? There is no other man in my life or that I'm wanting to be in my life. I'm just not used to dreaming about other guys that way. Usually if it's a sex or sexually-related dream it involves my husband. Your thoughts??

2007-08-19 04:22:09 · 8 answers · asked by funshinerika 1

2007-08-19 04:17:30 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous

I see that some people say: "You can't trust a man who does't drink"
My grandmother said to her daughters, "Never marry a man who does not drink".
Is it grounded these statements? By the way I am not talking about Islam in this case.

2007-08-19 04:13:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bf of 17 months has finally edmitted to me that he's been talking to his ex girl friend...He said he missed talking to her...He said she understand him, & they can joke about anything...He says he loves her, but only as a friend they've both agreed to that...He said they will ALWAYS be friends...He says he loves me with all of his heart....& sometimes I just don't understand him? & I guess I don't laugh enough? I feel like I'm not good enough. I feel like if he had the chance he would be with her & not me. I feel like I'm being used just for sex & nothing else.I don't think he truly even loves me.or if he ever has.He made her seem better, as if he was comparing us together. I asked him why he loves me, he said becuase your a great gf?? Bull aye? I dunno, I love him..& it's killing me with in that he did this to me,& behind my back for awhile.Everyday just lieing to me. He said he was always going to try to keep it from me, he even made a new account online so I wouldnt find out.

2007-08-19 04:11:48 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

When most married women get divorced they want child support but if they want independance why do they ask for money from the Fathers/Husbands
now i understand that the Fathers/Husbands need to support their kids but it seem to me that most want a check to support their independants not the child and when the Father/Husband starts asking where the money goes most will deny the information. I think Child support should be changed to womens independance support and i think it should be banned and i bet the divorce rates would fall whats your opinion?
I know there will be smart@sses that will answer so go ahead but remember i would love some intelligent answers also

2007-08-19 04:10:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous