who's last name should baby get?

Question

my husband and I have 4 children together 2 were born before we were married and 2 after. We agreed on my last name because we were'nt married..and then after we were married, we didn't want to single anyone out...now we are planning our 5th and my husband want THIS one to have his last name...wth? I don't think I should single out one kid from our other children to have his last name...what do you think?

my last name is the same as his btw

Answer 1

Tell him too bad, the last name will be the same as the other children have.
He is finally realizing that his legacy will be gone and wants a child with his last name.
He should have not been so selfish before.

Answer 2

Either way you are going to single out a child unless you agree on a common name. THis could also have reprocussions on the children in the pre-k years. Your best bet is to sit down with your husband and talk about what common name should be had. My half brother David was born, and the father was just a boyfriend, so my mother used his last name then hers immediately after it. So he kind of has two last names. Bottom line, if you already have two kids with different names you have a problem. You're married now so why not change the names to be the same?

Answer 3

If your last name is the same as his then what's the problem? Children should always take their fathers last name whether the couple is married or not. Maybe your husband wants to feel like he is apart of having these children. By not using his last name his family name stops. You say at the end of your question that your names are the same, but do the children have his last name or your maiden name which would be different from his. I think you need to change all of their names to the father.

Answer 4

You should just change all their names back to your husband's last name. It'd be better that way because he's your husband. Is your last name your husband's as well? I'm guessing it's not. lol. But if it is, then everyone should have the same last name.

If not, then don't single them out. Just keep your last name though.

It'll be cool if they have different last name. No one will know they're siblings. =)

And that makes them unique.

Answer 5

Don't single the 5th one out, the other kids will think that you feel differently about this one than the last one. Or get all the names changed to his.

Answer 6

Why dont you hyphen all the kids names including your own??? This can be legally done. Kids need to feel self worth, a part of the family, and not different to have both of your last names hyphenated would lead to less confusion to the kids that already have yours as you can say you want them to have mummys and daddys last name, this will make them feel special and your new one will now not feel out of place, and both yourself and your husband may feel compleate with all of you children carrying on both family names. Hope this helps.....

Answer 7

The children should always have their father's last name. You two messed up when you gave the children your last name. Now when your were married you were supposed to get his last name. So their should be no question about this matter. He has every right to want his child to have his last name, so you are going to have to houner that. Since you dont want to single out this child simply give him or her both last names. It will be easiest and satify both of you. I believe you should give all your children both last names. Its not to late to change names.

Answer 8

They should have all had their dads name to begin with. If you would have separated (instead of getting married) and the baby had his name then it would have been easier to get a claim for child support. Why don't you just give them all his last name? I assume since you are married now you and him have the same last name and your children don't. Just change their last names or hyphenate-it. Your last name-his last name.

Answer 9

I think if you guys were planning on getting married you should have gave those baby both of your last names with a heifin. So as not to single this baby out..i would do that.

Answer 10

You are married now and all those kids are your kids with him...He's probably left out coz no one has his last name (sounds funny but it might be true) Go to a courthouse and get all those kids last names changed to his....No one's getting singled out and if you're planning on having your own bowling team it wouldn't be like Smith-Jones....One last name for One family...