When I try to tell my wife that contact she is having with another man I find to be inappropriate she has two approaches. 1. she tells me I am acting jealous and that she has no bad intentions or 2. she will become enraged and begin talking about seperation claiming we need time apart.
2007-08-19 04:22:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's being defensive because she's not ready to admit that you are right.
2007-08-19 04:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would sugget a third party mediator for these conversations. She's obviously feeling threatend but I think you are approaching this 100% the correct way. If you are not able to communicate about a specific problem in your marriage (and one that is totally legit) please seek an extra person to help. You have a right to complete honesty and this can end up putting an enormous rift in your marriage.
I wish you both so much of the best.
2007-08-19 04:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by beemusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of that this woman is on the path to destroying her very own marriage. Her lack of self belief and frustration are probably to place a barrier b/w her and her husband. It looks like she already distrusts him. She could be herself, and not difficulty approximately what every person else thinks. She could concentration her potential on surpassing all those bimbo better halves along with her character, intelligence, and wit. And believe her husband. some adult males do not even like the bimbos. some adult males desire tom-boys, or possibly a touch chunkier woman. He needless to say enjoyed her, or he does not have married her in the 1st place! in spite of if it fairly is fairly so terrible for her, she may additionally evaluate speaking to her husband, telling her how uncomfortable she is, and seeing if there is any determination of moving? in line with hazard to a close-by city that's not so packed with trophy-better halves? I agree, however, if she is going on like this that's going to likely be her very own strikes which will end the marriage.
2016-10-16 03:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by yau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't want to accept that she is doing wrong, does not want to stop seeing this guy, what she is doing is wrong, and if u try to make her stop it she will find ways to get out of the marriage. u need to confront her and set boundaries. a married woman should not be seeing other men, if she is than she really doesn't love her husband or respect him. it may be time for u to take a good hard look at the truth here and decide if this is really how u want to live. she is trying to find reasons to dump u, doesn't take much when theres someone else in her heart. we can't do anything about it when a mate wants someone else, it hurts, it destroys our ego's, and its really not worth all that pain trying to change someone we can't change. best to just let her go, and distance yourself, what she is doing won't make for a happy marriage it can only destroy it.
2007-08-19 04:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are in a lot of trouble. But lets find out what the inappropriate contact is? Update your information. Are you actually being jealous, or is it inappropriate? Let us decide?
2007-08-19 04:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by foxcurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is definitely cheating on you. She is lying about "nothing inappropriate". She wants a separation from you to be with the man, but does not mind having you around if you don't complain too much.
Sorry, man. Sucks to be you.
2007-08-19 04:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by It's me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has feelings for this other man. She is considering leaving you, she is just not quite ready to make her final decision though but she's been seriously thinking about it.
I have had male friends my husband didn't approve of, I would tell him he was just being jealous but I never threaten to separate him for it cause given an ultimatum I would of dropped my male friend of course.
2007-08-19 04:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Without knowing the type of contact, I can't assess the reasonableness of it. If she just has a male friend, that's one thing. If she's inappropriately close, that's another.
The "time apart" thing is weird, though.
You need to discuss this with a counselor. BOTH of you.
2007-08-19 04:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bill 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whatever she is doing, her temper tantrums are working and she feels safe in trying to threaten you with separation. Do it, why don't you try to leave her for a while, take a vacation alone, do something that leaves her wondering about YOU for a change.
2007-08-22 19:06:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her bluff, this kind of crap is what causes so many divorces in this country. Women are behaving like sluts and men today haven't the balls to deal with these bitches. In fact if I where in your shoes I would go downtown tomorrow and file for her.
2007-08-19 04:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by Barney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like maybe she is looking for the easy way out. You should look into getting some couple's therapy where you can work on issues such as jealousy.
2007-08-19 04:27:17 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋