What is more important in Marriage ? Men with a great character, and trustworthy, or being a great provider ?

Question

It is hard to find a man these days with both, but if one would allow for a stronger marraige, with one would be more important ? I know both are needed, but Choosing only one, a man with a great character, that may be lacking as a good financial provider, or a man that is financially stable, and a good provider, but lacking in the personality department ??

Guys I said financially stable, not rich, I mean a man that wont have you with evcition notices, and disconnect notices every 3 months. I now couples like this, that are happy, but are always looking for the next roof over their heads, because the husband cant keep a job

Answer 1

You need to look for and wait for a guy that is all three! They are out there....I promise.

Answer 2

This is a tough decision b/c everyone truly does want both. There are benefits to both!!! Both can change in a blink of an eye!

You would want a man who you could trust and who makes you laugh. You do not want a man that you have to provide for or one who spends money on nonsense before his bills. If a man has no personality than you may have a future of a depressed life.

Money comes and goes. Money should be completely taken out of the picture, after bills are being paid. Money is really nice to have, but it won't necessarily always be there.

Answer 3

i would rather have a man with a great character and being trustworthy.........all because u dont have to worry about him being a liar. also a man can always come up on some money. but if he already has money he might use that to his advantage what i men by that is, if u may notice most men with money know thats what women want and so therefore he may feels as long as hes providing her with what she wants then he can treat her anyway he wants like beating her, degrading her, ect. right now my man does not have alot of money but he does make sure we dont want for nothing and he doesnt treat me any kind of way. yeah like u said its hard trying to find a man with everything u want in him.

think about it though do u want a man who can make u laugh when ur not happy, a man who can make u smile when ur sad , a man who knows u like a book, who knos what u want and what u need or do u want a man who have money but cant make u laugh, cant make u smile, who doesnt know u at all, who sometimes make u cry?

Answer 4

I know I would find life with a man who lacked character rather boring- and regardless of how much money a man has- I want a man who satisfies my need for good conversation, laughter, romance, etc.
I have always taken care of myself, so I don't need a man to provide for me-
I know there are women out there who chose a mate who is financially stable- but such has never been a prerequisite for me. I'd rather laugh- and enjoy life with my partner.

Answer 5

A good provider? You are sounding like it's the man's responsibility to support you. Character is the most important. Worrying about a good provider means you are only in it for the money. What kind of relationship are you looking for? A sugar daddy or a partner?

Answer 6

most women may say character but most want financial security
even though that claim "Independence"
look at all the personal ads
all will say seeking a White, Tall, FINANCIALLY SECURE .. blah blah blah....
those are thee most common 3 traits most women seek,
if money were not he object then all women would gladly sign well written / drawn up pre nuptial agreements with 2 attorneys present.. but most will view that as "unromantic".. when money has NOTHING to do with marriage
the reason you are having a hard time finding a guy is that guys have wizened up and realize there is nothing but huge downside to getting married as divorce rates are high ( 50% ) and for what it's worth they are better off getting gambling their hard earned fortune in Vegas, the odds are about the same.
are there exceptions to the rule ,sure, but we are talking about generalizations here. not exceptions, and most women want money and to be accomidated in the lifestyle to which they thin they deserve, they think entitlements. I have met very few truly independent women out there, they majority want the easy life

Answer 7

Depends on if your a gold digger or not . To be a gold digger you better have the looks for guys with money your a dime a dozen . Do what you have to do with a question like this i think you should go for the gold . you wouldn't make a poor man much of a wife anyway.

Answer 8

Sassy J, Hon if a man has good character and is trustworthy then he will be a good provider ! Don"t settle for a man that does not make you smile and laugh.

Answer 9

I'll take the man with great character. I'm more than willing to pull my share financially.

Answer 10

character, without a doubt. a man with lots of money, but no character is bound to be making shady/illegal decisions. either: he's cheating on you, he's a drug dealer making tons of money, he's a ceo cheating his employees out of money so he can keep his check big. the last two scenarios mean jail time and humiliation for the entire family, plus the money would be dirty and probably confiscated by the cops. if he's cheating, you would feel demoralized and crappy all the time and you might end up with aids. i would rather have an honest, decent man with no money. oh, btw, my husband is loyal/trustworthy and working a great corporate job. he's also smoking hot, because women pull me aside to tell me whenever they meet him for the first time. check out: http://geocities.com/sbiv37/marr

Answer 11

Well, since I am the real breadwinner in the marriage, I would and DID choose personality.
I can live FAR better happy and poor than I ever could rich & miserable.