I have a small problem... my husband's salary is about 2300 euros, we live in romania, he is a teacher. I always tell him he could do more to earn more, but he's not the type of guy that would say "ok honey, dont worry , you'll never need anything" ... he's in his late 20s, and just says "i always want u to be happy with what i have" ... is this a certain lack of ambition or fear that he cant do more?... I even brought up tthe fact that we'll have kids one day, and we;ll need more, he says he will try and always try for more, but they should be happy... Why didnt he say "my kids wont lack anything, i will do everything to give them what they want" ... :( he was poor himself in his childhood, but now earning that decent salary, which is more than the average income...but why doesnt he insist for more?... Our story was quite different from the beginning... I was the rich girl who had everything, he was the poor boy who worked by himself... Sometimes i think he lacks ambition :(...
2007-08-19 07:35:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah, it pays bills, and we can even save some money... but i'm afraid that in the future, when expenses will start growing, it wont be enough... :( what do u think???
2007-08-19 07:54:13 · update #1
So now you're no longer the "rich girl" and you're pushing him....maybe he's HAPPY being a teacher.
If you wanted money, you should have married it....or stayed home with mommy and daddy
2007-08-19 07:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In every conversation there is a period of giving (that is, expressing an idea) and a period of taking (the time where you listen to what's being said). For whatever reason, you want to orchestrate both sides of the exchange as if you are the author of a screenplay, and you want his dialogue to suit you. I hope I am wrong, but I have the feeling you are going to eventually break his heart.
2007-08-19 14:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if since he is doing better than what he experienced when growing up, that he feels as though he has done enough. Remind him that times have changed and continue to do so and that he should be thinking of the future. If at that time he still refuses to do better, then get ready for a life of simple satisfactions and getting by's.
2007-08-19 14:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that not only is he afraid that he can't make more but he is also afraid that you might leave him because he can't provide you with your use to and is unaware that he has just created the situation he was afraid of let him know that you loved him when he had little and you'll love him the same when he gets more and if he does care for you he should be willing to make you as comfortable as possible
2007-08-19 14:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Soledad08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not lack of ambition
maybe he really likes it
does it pay the bills?
2007-08-19 14:48:41 · answer #5 · answered by Dreamy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋