Do all or most women need constant re-assurance that their man loves them even if he's completely faithful to her, does those little things to brighten her day and even says, "I love you" on an almost daily basis?
We've been married 3 1/2 years and she still finds it necessary to ask me. When I ask her why, she always says that all women ask this and want to know. Tonight, instead she asked that I say something nice to her.
I answer that I think she's a kind person hoping it would be enough but no, she wants to know the reasons why I think she's like this. I question her need for asking these things and again she says that all women need to hear these things but I don't buy it.
So is this true and up until now every other woman I've been with has been a freak of nature and never needed this kind of reassurance, or is she just being insecure?
2007-08-19 04:50:46 · 12 answers · asked by Flashman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married 12 years. I do not ask my husband to give reasons for why he loves me. Btw I even asked him if I've ever done that just to make sure and he said no lol. I don't think what you are describing is the norm. Anyway, I know he loves me by the way he treats me.....actions speak louder than words ( I'd mention that to her). Being in love is the way someone makes you feel so asking for specific reasons seems silly to me. However, us women being the sensitive creatures that we are hahaha........do enjoy the occasional compliment from time to time to know that we are appreciated. If her constant asking for specific reasons of why you love her seems overboard to you.........my suggestion would be to give her a taste of her own medicine lol.
2007-08-19 10:24:34 · answer #1 · answered by amanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all, but many do. It sounds like she's unsure of how you feel about her. Some easy things you could do are make sure you hug her/touch her out of the blue, leave little love notes for her, buy her a gift every now and then for no reason, treat her to breakfast in bed, make sure she knows how sexy you think she is...
It really doesn't matter what all women want or need. All that matters is what your woman wants or needs. Make sure you compliment her a lot and do give specifics. Saying "You're a great person" doesn't mean as much as "I love the way you're always wanting to help other people," etc.
2007-08-19 12:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by anne_deezoff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that your spouse acts like this for both reassurance and her insecurity.
My husband and I tell each other we love one another probably at least 5 times a day.
You do not have to say it all of the time to know this, but your actions should always show it, when they don't is when it becomes questionnable.
So, with this said, I think that as long as I am being showed the love, then it does not matter if it is always being said. (My husband would say that he needs both...LOL)
TIP: Tell her every once in a while how beautiful she is to you. Send/pick/bring home home every once in a while.
2007-08-19 12:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women like to hear words of reassurance like men like to hear that they can please a woman better than any man alive. It boosts our confidence. It makes us feel we are on the right road. Women are more insecure about themselves than you probably think, but society made us that way. If we don't look like Kate Moss, watch out, he may find someone who does, since she's obviously just so hot and all *rolls eyes*. Even men who love their wives very much look at other women and even make comments. Men are calloused sometimes to our feelings and maybe don't realize that it's like a knife stab when you do this. And even for the ones who don't look at other women or talk about them, we still believe that when you're alone, you probably do look or whatever. We are programmed to expect men to cheat. So we need constant reassurance from our man to allay our fears. Besides, it endears us to you when you talk sweet to us. You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar ;-)
2007-08-19 12:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by TwyztedChyck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy first off but this one needed some first hand experience! Wow, OK she is so insecure and this could lead to many more problems...My ex was the same way... It eventually lead up to me getting home and her accusing me of cheating on her ( I Wasn't) She has some serious health problems that needs some counselling to help her. You need to keep being supportive and caring (even though it drives you crazy) good luck !
2007-08-19 12:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by ben d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many of us are insecure because of things that happened in our past. We may have been cheated on, or told we were loved just before he broke up with us, or any number of bad things.
What does it hurt you to reassure her, if its what she needs? Surely she fills many of YOUR needs, just go out of your way to be complimentary and loving, and tell her what she craves hearing.
It seems like a small enough sacrifice, and with enough reassurances, perhaps she will begin to believe in you.
2007-08-19 11:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She sounds a bit insecure, so help her out and reassure her with out being asked. It can only be for your benefit, if that is what you have to do to make her happy. When she's happy, she will be likely to make you happy. This is a good answer and doesn't deserve a down thumb.
2007-08-19 11:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Flashman, they say that women love with their ears, and what`s wrong if you tell her gentle words and make her happy. Is` not it wonderful that you can be as a wizard and make your wife happy. If you love each other, you should take your love as a seed and pant it and grow it up as a beautiful flower, but if you don` try your best to take care of this flower, it`ll die. Your words of love are like fairy water for your love- flower. Take care of you love and be happy together with your wife
2007-08-19 12:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by April 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol....I know my hubby loves me without him telling me every hour. I know what he likes and dislikes about me cause we have talked about everything under the sun. No not all woman are that way. She is being insecure. I think the little things say a lot in a relationship. She needs to grow up(harsh I know) but, true....
2007-08-19 11:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
She has self esteem issues which is why she requires constant reassurance from you. Humor her. She'll be fine. If you truly love her, you shouldn't mind a little inconvenience. God bless.
2007-08-22 17:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋