I am 26 yrs old and was married for 5 yrs but together for 8.5 yrs. I am now divorced and starting to date again but am scared to ask if it bothers some people I have been on dates with if it matters that I was divorced. I have always wanted to get married, get a house and have kids and now I am scared that might never happen. I did not want the divorce, my husband did. having trouble moving on. I have been told by a friend that she thinks one of the guys I am seeing thinks that we are exclusive (she's know him for awhile) but I dont know if she is right. when I was in high school people asked each other to be their boy or girl friend but they dont anymore so how do you know if someone wants to be exclusive without scaring them? I NEED HELP!!
2007-08-19 21:06:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, don't worry so much. I have high standards and I don't feel this is a big issue. People aren't perfect ... so you got divorced, it shouldn't stop you from achieving the things you dream of. Even in my rather strict religion, this wouldn't be an issue to most people.
There's a movie that reminds me of your situation ... it's called "The Singles Ward" and is about a young Mormon guy whose wife leaves him and Mormonism. The guy doesn't know what to do, but he ultimately finds that people are understanding and not judgemental and meets an amazing girl who helps him see that it isn't something that need stop him.
2007-08-19 21:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having trouble moving on, I don't think you really want an exclusive relationship yet do you? When you are ready for an exclusive relationship just ask flat out if the other person wants to consider this exclusive or not. If someone else you are seeing thinks it is exclusive and you don't I think you need to mention it, or bring up the fact you are not ready for an exclusive relationship but enjoy your time together. Oh yeah, I really only date divorced women, they seem to realize a lot more what went wrong in the marriage and commit to seeing the next relationship through.
2007-08-20 02:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by mikeehr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being divorced does not make you a second class citizen and it does not make you any less of a person or any less of a woman. It angers me that you feel that you are not worthy of finding love again, of course you are, MILLIONS of people divorce and then go on to have a healthy and happy relationship, if a person wants an exclusive relationship then they should be mature enough to let you know openly.
2007-08-19 23:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That can be read a couple different ways. All of them, not so good. Either 1- she's conceited, as in you're lucky enough to catch her eye and get one sentence out of her or 2- She's just really weird. I mean if you can't open up a bit to someone over initial emails, imagine over the phone! She seems really cold and impersonable.
2016-05-17 21:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by rosia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly al lot of pwoplw have been married & divorced, so i wouldn't really care what others thought. If the guy likes u mean really likes u he won't care.If he likes u he should let u know that he wants a relationship with u. If he won't talk to u ask him urself, put all out on the table. All u can do is talk to them to see what they are wanting to go on between the two of u.TEll him how u feel & ask him how he feels.
2007-08-19 22:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope wouldn't bother me at all unless I had to deal with the ex ad we didn't get along.
If you want to know where the relationship stands...just ask him if he's openly dating or beign exclusive.
2007-08-19 21:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by riding128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about that .. lots of people won't care if you were divorced .. specially that it wasn't your fault ... beside as long as you are not a mother, it makes it even easier ... just brighten up
2007-08-19 21:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Luay14 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dated and "spent the night" with married, divorced & single women.
I am 25years old and I don't discriminate
2007-08-19 21:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him tell him so. You might want to deal with your moving on issues though.
2007-08-19 21:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by sutiluspendragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are divorced and so it half of the world you will be able to find a guy that does not care
2007-08-19 21:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by BOOMER SOONER FAN!!! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋