Are these signs that my hubby is cheating?

Question

We have a mutual friend whose husband is gone on leave right now, things seem a bit fishy, although I might be paranoid. Tell me what you think.
1. I've came over a while before with him on the phone with her, albeit, we were going over to her house later on.
2. She seems to address him before me (multiple comments on his myspace, nothing on mine). I started getting suspicious, and things immediately changed.
3. I've found him over at her house... he was helping her pack, but still... for some reason my gut was churning.
4. When we went over that afore-mentioned time, she would talk with him the whole time, and then when he left for a beer run, she would call a friend on the phone.
5. One time when her friend called, she said, remember, I told you about him (about my hubby).
6. Last night, when we were over there, I came out him saying something about an appointment. She quickly said "yeah I need another eye exam" Followed by an uncomfortable silence and then a change of subje

This is the biggest sign...
I found an innocent chain of private notes on his myspace. But he signed one of them, "Write back you sexy *****"
I dunno, butt that seems to be overstepping the bounds if you are a married man.

Anyways, maybe I am being paranoid. Please let me know what you think.

Oh yeah, and I Was crazy enough to let him go weedeat her yard the other day. When he was mentioning it, she said "Oh, I'll be gone, but I'll leave the back gate open...

Answer 1

I don't think you are being paranoid. Why is he on the phone with her? Mutual friends? Then you should be the one communicating with her, not him. Helping her pack and you say, you found him? Then he didn't tell you he was going there? Big problem there! Why are the 2 of you drinking beer with her? Writing to her,"you sexy @&^%$, what more needs to be said?
i think you need to tell him what you feel about this relationship and that he should not be writing her, talking on the phone or going to her house. If there is nothing going on, then that won't be a problem but,,,,,,,,,, I think it is pretty clear that they are having a relationship that is a little more than just friends? Trust what you are feeling, we are usually right when our thoughts are screaming to wake up and pay attention. Trust yourself.

Answer 2

He is giving you every indication that he may be cheating. If you confront him he will possibly deny it and then be more care full to not get caught. I would investigate this situation a little more thoroughly. I would purchase a small tape recorder and set up something that would bring the three of you together such as your home......I would find a reason to leave them both alone together for a little while by running to the store or something that would serve no purpose for her to tag along. You may just hear something they say that will allow you to find out the truth? Never let them know how you got the information and then after your little get together if you discover your suspicions to be right.....confront your husband and ask him if he is more than interested in your friend. This will show you how he handles the truth with you or how you know how he handles being a liar to you. When you confront him with the question watch his eyes his body movements, his reactions......because if you forgive him for this you will possibly always be able to fall back to his expressions for future reference to know when he is not being truthfull? The only way you will get the truth out of him will be when you have the evidence for yourself! Take care and good luck.

Answer 3

If your gut is telling you something is not right then I would seriously listen to it. While it is possible nothing is going on, you are right, there are a bunch of warnign flags that would make me suspisous too...If she is writing only to him on My space and he is writing back inappropriate things, then confront him and ask him about it. Be honest with him and tell him what is making you uncomfortable with thier relationship, dont keep it bottled up inside you because it will always be on your mind...most importantly though, listen to your instincts and if things dont feel right, then you should have a talk with him asap.

Answer 4

That does all sound quite suspicious, especially since she talks to him so much yet doesn't seem to acknowledge you, however this does not by any means mean that anything is going on. You need to confront him about their behaviour and let him know how you are feeling. If he takes you seriously then his reaction will indicate to you whether there truly is something to worry about.

Answer 5

I think that it could go either way--either he's cheating with her or they've just recently discovered that they're attracted to each other but not doing anything about it. I would wait until there was more definite proof--but that could be harder to find now that you've indicated your suspicions. If you act like nothing's going on and it's not worrying you, they might be more apt to slip up here and there. But how annoying that would be to wait out!!!!

Answer 6

lol @ Peggy's answer... I would be tempted to tell this chick in person that you and your husband can't associate with her anymore... but, that could backfire, she could make a call to your husband, or contact him through my space. She should have asked you to help pack, in my opinion... he may not be cheating yet, but, could be working up to it. Why is she packing? Moving? Where, out of state?, lol! Certainly he should not be calling anyone else sexy but you...=(...forsaking all others is the vow...remind him of this! And remind him that it's ok to divorce if a spouse is cheating! Good Luck!

Answer 7

yeah, I think he's bangin' her. Didn't you also submit this question? I think he's running around on ya. "Here's my story:
Last night my hubby and I went to a B-day party, and after the party, we all decided to go to the beach (we were just a lil' buzzed ) Since none of us had swimsuits, we just stripped to our undies, (it was dark, so you really had to look to see anything or I would NOT have done that ;-) )As soon as we get to the beach, I see him running off into the water and laughing with another chick. That pissed me off that he would run off from me like that, so after we got in the car, he asked me why I was mad. I said b/c of them way you were acting with Tina. THEN he says "The only reason I had her on my neck was because we were playing chicken". Then I was REALLY hurt because I didn't know about that. Ok, so he has another WOMAN wearing only undies on his shoulders, and he expects me to move on and just forgive him and trust him again immediately. What makes it worse is that he is a sailor, and one of these days he is going overseas. I am not sure that I can trust him anym "

Answer 8

You can't dangle a bone in front of a dog and expect him not to take it. Seriously, tell him to cut off all contact with her or he can move out asap. Seriously, people only treat you the way you allow them to. Right now, you're allowing him to walk over you. Even if he's not cheating on you, he's ignoring your feelings. Tell him how you feel, if he doesn't change his ways, leave him.

Answer 9

I am the other woman right now, don't know how to get out hoping not to hurt his wife who is a mutual friend I wonder if she has a clue like you do trust your intuition, they are sleeping together we are every chance we get ,just telling you the truth girl, and I met him and her on myspace ad we immediately were close . He is telling her lovy dovey stuff to keep her and maybe talking about you.

Answer 10

This is pretty obvious isn't it. Use some covert video to catch them. Audio isn't permissable in court. You can buy a product that is called checkmate. Google it. It will show signs of semen in his underwear and other places. Have a nice day.