Dealing with drugs,money issues. Childrens well being emotionally etc. He says he will do better For the past months he has changed but there is something that I cannot get over. I might can forgive him for all the drama we've been through together but I cannot forget any of it. It is like I live it over and over again when I see him. Then he does stupid S--t that pisses me off. I just cannot stand it. I know that I have my own faults never said I was perfect. All in all I have been hurt by this man so many times i can't seem to get over those moments. So what should I do. I stated my claim to him but either he does not understand my pain or he choose not to. Why? Why not just let me go?
2007-08-22 15:06:56 · 5 answers · asked by soomuchluv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave !!!! he doesnt own you. IF HE WONT SEEK THERAPY ETC ETC TO IMPROVE THE CHILDRENS WELL BEING , YOUR WELL BEING, AND HIS OWN WELL BEING THEN WHAT GOOD IS HE ?? MAYBE YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND CAN SEEK HELP TOGETHER BUT IF HE REFUSES THEN DUMP HIM. DONT LINGER ON IN MISERY. MAKE SURE ITS LEGAL AND YOU RECEIVE MONETARY HELP FOR YOU AND THE CHILDREN.
2007-08-22 15:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) If you want to same your marriage, try marriage counseling to get everything communicated in a neutral environment with a professional referee. It works if you two are willing. Probably covered under major medical.
2) Abuse takes many forms: mental, emotional, physical and fiscal. Drugs are horrible.
If it really is abuse... he is coming home hopped up on something and starts yelling and breaking stuff and roughing you up... you really need to get out of there immediately. At that point, you are not doing the kids any favors by staying with him. In fact, by leaving, you are showing them what you are supposed to do!
An abuser will try all sorts of ways to mess with your head, shift the blame to you, and say that you brought it all on.
3) You have to remember that all men are 12 years old... if you are lucky. Some women are waiting for their 3 year old to turn 5, if you get my drift. for some reason, they do idiotic things without ever thinking past the present moment, and as a result will have their wages garnished by the IRS and allow a small car maintenance issue to turn into major $$$ rehab. You have to be able to communicate these things to him so he will remember it.
4) Always have money of your own stashed somewhere. Believe me, a couple hundred dollars stashed in a tampon box in the back of a closet will buy a rescue when you need it the most... a tank of gas and a couple of meals... to get you to a relative's house or a women's shelter.
2007-08-22 15:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could advise some variety of counselling for the two certainly one of you. It feels like she is puzzled! consistent with risk she in basic terms isn't beneficial approximately getting married so early in existence. consistent with risk she feels like on the grounds which you have been her one important boyfriend, that she desires to locate her suggestions until now settling down. consistent with risk she thinks that she is lacking out on different issues by using being in a committed courting so quickly in existence. i could tell her which you relatively desire issues to paintings. That even however you're the two youthful, you recognize you like her and which you relatively prefer to be at the same time. in case you recognize that she is the only, do no longer permit her get away. you need to remorseful approximately no longer putting in greater of an attempt if she finally ends up leaving. in basic terms provide all of it you have - and if that is no longer sufficient, then a minimum of you recognize you tried the main you have.
2016-10-16 13:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by finnigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just let you go? You have 2 legs walk out, are you really asking him to let you go? If it's done leave, why do you need his approval, and oh my god there are kids involved.
2007-08-22 15:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just let you go? Are you imprisoned?
You aren't his victim... you are a grown woman with children.
You have a choice... And now you ask a forum for permission... It's YOUR choice.
2007-08-22 15:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋