Marriage & Divorce - 20 August 2007

Ok, I want to get a consensus on what is judging. If someone tells me, "Oh, I rob liquer stores every night, that's why I don't work." Am I supposed to sit back and think, "Oh, he is an ok person! Never mind that he steals and cheats!" Stealing is against the law. Since we all know that, I would be judging someone who steals as NOT GOOD?

Why do people keep saying DON'T JUDGE ME, when they give you the info right there??

2007-08-20 12:37:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been completely isolated for the opportunity to make friends. It's been 7 years and he's been involved with some questionable activities lately. He's full of double standards, he has no conscience and blames all our problems on me. I moved with him 9 states in 7 years for his job and have tried to be supportive. But he won't let me work or leave the house without permission. And now I want out and that would mean going to the streets in a strange city. I sometimes think I'd be happier there. But the prospect scares me. Has anyone or is anyone in the same situation? What do you do? I feel trapped.

2007-08-20 12:18:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been completely isolated for the opportunity to make friends. It's been 7 years and he's been involved with some questionable activities lately. He's full of double standards, he has no conscience and blames all our problems on me. I moved with him 9 states in 7 years for his job and have tried to be supportive. But he won't let me work or leave the house without permission. And now I want out and that would mean going to the streets in a strange city. I sometimes think I'd be happier there. But the prospect scares me. Has anyone or is anyone in the same situation? What do you do? I feel trapped.

2007-08-20 12:12:41 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I had sex on the first date, and here we are 7 years later and married. I know this is an unusual situation and I do regret it. No lecture needed. I have since turned my life around and am on the right pathway. Today, we were talking on the phone and joking with one another. I was asking him to do me a favor and I teased him and I said I'd put out if he did this favor for me. He then replied that any girl who would sleep with a guy after the first day, especially when dinner was at Applebee's, would certainly put out for this favor. He had always teased me about sleeping with him on the first date, but this time he personalized it even more by mentioning where we went on the first date and that it wasn't even a nice restaurant and I put out anyway. He said he was joking (of course) but my feelings are still hurt. What do I do now? I feel like he subconsciously doesn't respect me at all because of that, but we have been married almost 6 years.

2007-08-20 11:58:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

and don't do as much they love you more?

both men and women do this some but not all

2007-08-20 11:54:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

our upstairs tenants just torture us, right now I'm watching the chandler swing. i talked to my husband about moving in with my mother (who is never there and doesn't ever bother us) until we can afford to move to a better place, he wont go; I honestly think I'm going to die from a heart attack living here. I cry everyday and he hates it too but won't leave; should I move out? I don't know what to do anymore please help me

2007-08-20 11:48:18 · 43 answers · asked by Jersey Style 5

My wife and I have a habit of talking "dirty" sometime when we are being intimate. Have talked about having done "bad" things and such. It has always been generic, and very non specific, Then the other night she is telling how bad she had been then all sudden tells me she screwed her old boss in his office twice while I was outta town on business. Considering everything had been generic and she would not let details ever been involved I am little curious. Any opinions?

2007-08-20 11:43:05 · 8 answers · asked by Wonderingman 1

my wife has been seeing my "best friend" behind my back. how do i stop them without going to prison?

2007-08-20 11:42:15 · 19 answers · asked by Paul B 1

What benefits have you reaped? What changes have you seen in your marriage? What changes have you seen in yourself and/or in your husband?

2007-08-20 11:35:36 · 12 answers · asked by Barefoot Betty 3

ok about two wks ago I had a girl come up to me and tell me alot of horriable things he denies it and she swears to it I have a torn heart what to do who to believe and what to do i have been married six yrs and have 2 kids and I am only 21. I just cant seem to shake it off like before what should I do I dont want to have any regrets I am so confused please help me figure it out. As of right now I am trying to hold on to my marriage. But I cant trust him anymore. Should I still be holding on should I still be fighting for something I think he only wants out of convience. If he really loved us he wouldnt have done this right he wouldnt have risked it all. PLEASE HELP I AM CONFUSED!!!!!!

2007-08-20 11:26:15 · 15 answers · asked by letty_alfonso 1

How do you know it is true?

2007-08-20 11:21:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't know what happened. I started hating sex more and more, but ignored these feelings at first. Now, I hate sex so much that I would rather go to the dentist and get a filling than have it. I force myself to do it to keep my husband from divorcing me, but I am almost at the point where I feel like crying when I have to. Sometimes I wish my husband could have a whore around to satisfy him. I know this is a horrible way to think, but I have no idea why it started and if it will ever end. Please give me some advice!!!

2007-08-20 11:21:30 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-20 11:08:59 · 22 answers · asked by mati 3

I met "John" 4 months ago. We are both mature for our 23 years of age. We immediately fell for one another and realized that we both fulfill everything we've been looking for in a partner. He proposed and I happily said yes. Now that a date has been set and the wedding plans official, I'm recieving feedback from friends and family who question if 4 months is long enough to make this type of commitment. I feel that, although I may not know his every side, I know him enough believe we are extremely compatible. Any challenge we come against in our relationship will not change the way I feel about him. Yet, I still wonder: are we moving too fast?

2007-08-20 11:06:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

is it normal for a women to have a stronger sex drive then her husband? because I do. and its not always about me being horny its more about me just needing the attention from him. Am I normal? if not how can i feel wanted and needed without being the first to start sex. I hate being the one that needs him i want him to need me. HELP~!!!

2007-08-20 10:50:01 · 19 answers · asked by its* just* me 1

I posted a question asking if it was OK for a man to cheat on his wife if she had no interest in sex due to menopause. I had to laugh when I saw so many responses that took me to task. Fact is, I do not favor it. Is it human nature to assume the worst? Or did I hit a nerve with a lot of women?

2007-08-20 10:40:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

... play with the toy I bought her?

2007-08-20 10:36:04 · 12 answers · asked by RM 2

Like that saying" If you're accusing me of cheating', u must be doing it. Well, I'm not cheating on him. I never did him wrong or plan to hurt him in any way. I love him enough I stayed w/ him and married him after all that I found out and went through. I feel like this cuz he did it to me, & damn did it hurt me soooooooooo much! He says that he might as well cheat since I'm thinkin' & accusin' him of doin' it. I don't wanna get hurt again. I don't wanna go through that pain anymore. I'm tired & I wanna trust him, but how can I if he takes off everytime he decides to drink & goes to places he should be??? I love him, he's the father of my daughter and I just wanna trust him w/ everything'......in the Bible it says "do not put ur trust on man, put ur trust on God." The Lord knows my heart & knows I haven't done my husband wrong or plan to do so. He thinks I'm doing him wrong, but God knows I've been real. I accuse him cuz he did me wrong and I'm scared of being there again.

2007-08-20 10:34:22 · 18 answers · asked by mz_noneya_biz 2

2007-08-20 10:32:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do you know when the times right? Is there ever a 'right' time?

2007-08-20 10:08:53 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-20 10:08:40 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-20 10:08:19 · 13 answers · asked by Chris 2

I have a friend married less than 5 months and everytime she turns around her husband is accusing her of being unfaithful and is always going behind her back checking computer files and recently even has admitted to going behind her back to check the caller ID and to check the home and cell phones phone books to see if there are any new numbers listed. Now this female comes from a large family of 9 kids total and there is no way on earth he could possibly know who is family and who isn't. He just jumps to the conclusion that she has something to hide and that she is cheating on him. His 1st wife cheated on him with a guy from the net, but the only reason my friend still has a PC at all is for her work and her school classes. I'm afraid this situation is going to turn physically violent if it continues. She has PTSD and can not take much stress.

2007-08-20 10:04:45 · 7 answers · asked by sisters 4 1

my bf of 6 months says i dont give him enough affection. Which i dont! Im not a huggy kissy touchy feely type of person at all. We fight about this every day, and he always tells me to change. I cant! its just the type of person i am. What can i do to help him understand this? Should i make him understand this? does he deserve someone who will give him the affection he needs?

2007-08-20 10:02:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-20 09:59:33 · 12 answers · asked by md.tauseef 1

mastrabate for him. We have toys and he will use them on me and i will use them on myself when he is not around but I can't seem to bring myself to do it in front of him. we have been together for over 8 years and i still don't want to. is that wrong of me??

2007-08-20 09:59:08 · 20 answers · asked by jocln312 2

If anything...

2007-08-20 09:51:17 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous

He says it's only to have a drink and unwind, but i can't help but think he may have other things on his mind.

2007-08-20 09:51:15 · 66 answers · asked by Chris 2

ok tired of being loving caring and affectionate and giving him the world. found out it wasn't enuf. still wanted to *** around i mean he didn't have a chance cuz too scared or girls just ain't into but 100 percent sure he tried his best to get some from some blonde bimbo. he never appreciated what i did for him in life. so why shuld i continute to do the same thing he didn't care before so now i am not going to do **** for him it shuld still be the same rite. he thinks i cna't get none. i mean i get guys wanting to get to know me all the time and i tell them i am married they still pursue me. what shuld i do. divorce is not an option yet. can't tell why help what to do

2007-08-20 09:48:11 · 28 answers · asked by baby doll 1

When there no other choice, How do you let go

2007-08-20 09:44:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous