Marriage & Divorce - 20 August 2007

My husband manipulates me and i fall for it. We have been together for 10 years and I know his financial situation. Well we have 2 small girls I applied for child support. 2 weeks prior the day to see the mediator he would always call and whine and just make me feel bad. He said he wanted the girls more and needed money to keep them and I knew myself he would have a hard time and stupid me felt bad for him. Child support was called at $500 dollars a months. I took $250. After mediation him and I werent friends anymore and he was always mad and blaa blaa. So I guess he got to me. He now doesnt want our kids more. Always complaining of money. I was there for him when his girlfriend left him. In that time I found out he was spending alot of money on her and not our kids. $350 for a puppy $200 for a ring. Now I want the whole $500 in child support. What do you think? What do I have to do?

2007-08-20 03:00:38 · 9 answers · asked by coorj2001 1

Well I don't disagree with him so I didn't get ben out of shape about it. Last week I got one of those Gazelles to aid in weight loss, Well when my brother and I were talking about it yesterday my husband was saying stuff like she never uses it, its still in the same place and such, Even though I get on it for about 2 miles every day. He just wanted to be mean I guess. Well the real question is what should I do. I already told him that he doesn't need to talk to me unless he has found something nice to say, And that was yesterday afternoon. Any input from other married ppl would help. Thank you.

2007-08-20 02:57:07 · 41 answers · asked by Brandy 2

Getting married in less than 5 weeks and have a serious question. My fiance recently had an encounter with an old boyfriend from 5 years ago. She told me that she was meeting a girlfriend for drinks but come to find out it was with him.

When I found out she was upset and said the reason she didn't tell me was cause I would get mad.
Well I met up with her after she left and she told me nothing was going on but wanted to call off the wedding.
I have a kid and she said she couldn't handle it anymore.
She left and ending up at his house to talk? Say nothing happened and that she wouldn't do that to me.

On Saturday she went out with her friends and I looked at her phone on sunday. She had sent me a bunch of text messages about missing me and loving me. I thought ok, we talked everything is ok. Wrong. When I looked in the recent message list his number was second. The message had been deleted, so I asked and she said she never texted him. I know it was a lie but what do I do?

2007-08-20 02:55:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-20 02:50:31 · 19 answers · asked by Tessie 2

I started having a crush on this lady who is going through a divorce. She has one daughter. Off and on she says she wants to try to work on her marriage. So I back off and then she comes strong saying how I have sexy eyes and we even went on a date. Then I tell her I like her and would like to be her man and she gets mad. Why would someone lead you on and then get mad when you want to do something about it?

She said she can't because of her current situation.. seems odd to me.

One week she wants me, the next week she wants me to go away. What is this woman thinking?

2007-08-20 02:41:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

We spent the weekend at my inlaws (where my husband's niece spends 90% of her time). As usual, I thought I was going to blow a gasket because of her behavior. She is rude, whiny, disrespectful, wild and disobedient. I have known this child for about 4 years and she is getting worse. Her parents are not together and neither of them really have time for her, so my inlaws have kind of taken her in. She lives with her mother and her 13 year old brother (whom I also hear is unruly), but when she is ready to go to my inlaws house all she has to do is blow a whistle and they are there to get her. When she's ready to go home they take her home, no matter how late it is. She rolls around the floors, she hangs onto furniture, she climbs walls, she jumps off furniture, she even hangs off my husband and his parents like they are gym equipment. I don't understand it. When they tell her to do something, she doesn't do it right away. They have to ask her several times and even threaten her.

2007-08-20 02:37:43 · 9 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

I know this may sound like a silly question, but after divorce, some people classify themselves as divorced & others classify themselves as single. Could they be considered as both?

2007-08-20 02:33:23 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here's the deal, we got married moved into an extremley bad situation of an apartment (we did not know how bad it was when we looked at it); our upstairs tenants terrorize us and I have to work at 7am each weekday; my husband however can make his own schedule. I am unable to sleep there, there are parties (cops dont do anything), constant slamming, the place smells like garbadge (we had a sewage problem); moral is, I can't live there and have to live elsewhere during the week, my husband understands but I still think it's bad for us; until we find another place, I can't live there but just don't know what to do. We've gotten sick from living there, can't sleep, can't even sit in the living room cause of the noise, yesterday plaster came off the ceiling from neighbors slamming on ceiling.

2007-08-20 02:33:15 · 20 answers · asked by Jersey Style 5

If you are married and have a real good friend (that is married) that would be willing to be a FWB what would you say to that??

2007-08-20 02:26:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-20 01:54:54 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

and the man who I do love seems to have no mind of his own. He orders the same food I order. We both go to church he will pray when I pray stand when I stand. I put him to the test yesterday and told him he does not have to tell me he loves me all the time so he stoped it seems he does evrything to make me happy. He does love me but is this behavior out of fear of losing me or something else?

2007-08-20 01:41:33 · 15 answers · asked by me 2

how would feel if u like someone and u want 2 marry him/her
but ur parents want u 2 marry someone else then how would u feel will u tell ur parents or will u just marry him/her ur parents choose

please tell me what will u do tell ur parents or marry the person whom u don't like 2 marry
(u can suggest amy thing thx)

2007-08-20 01:36:37 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I guess I just need a pep talk.

I've been married for almost 17 years. I have four children with my wife, from 16 yrs to 10 yrs. My wife has a 4yr old.

Yes, that's right, several years ago she came home from the bar pregnant. Now, I don't know the bio-father and I don't care. The child is my son and I raise him and treat him as such. I told myself I would be here for my kids until they are adults no matter what.

But, lately, it is very very difficult. I don't want to be intimate with my wife. She is angry all the time. I would rather not spend time with her. I don't like being at home at all. I drive home from work regretting the eventual turn into the driveway.

I guess the infidelity has burned a hatred into me that I can't escape. I still enjoy every minute with my kids and I don't want them to have to grow up in a divided home, but I'm not sure I can hold out until they are of age.

Words of advice?

2007-08-20 01:31:53 · 16 answers · asked by Mike 4

we married before 4 yrs(love marraige).i had very confidence on him,but he breaks my heart by doing affair with one girl.and when i came to know he never accept that but when i show him proof,then he said yes but i was just time pass not more than. for that also i forgive him ,then after that
he again chatting on net and dont want to give me password ,any how i ask with him then next day he change the password,again i ask and he gave me the password ,and he done same again ,it makes me hurt and thinks may be he is cheating to me .and for every thing he wants me to tell lie.

2007-08-20 00:33:58 · 22 answers · asked by saamasayeed r 1

2007-08-20 00:31:19 · 13 answers · asked by Ratnam S 2

dont get me wrong i love her but she is very stubborn she never wants to understand anything because she knows everything and when things go wrong i have to clear up the mess it has reached the point where i think of divorce or seperation but immediately i think of my children because they are the ones who will suffer most and i love them too much to put them through that

2007-08-20 00:07:38 · 27 answers · asked by ganges 3

I asked this question yesterday, but only couple got a couple of responses. Thought I'd try again.

I talked to an a woman friend of mine a couple of days ago. She just got married about 2 months ago to a guy 30 years older then her (she's in her mid '20's). She told me she just found out her husband signed them up for a swingers club unbenownst to her. She discovered it somehow. She's not into this and to the best of my knowledge, they didn't talk about this before marriage. Apparently, he wants a 3-some with another woman. She is totally flustered. He tried to apologize, but you have to wonder.

What advice should I offer her? I want to see her happy and feeling good about herself and her marriage. I don't want to get into the middle of anything, but I think she needs someone to offer solid advice and consolation before this really escalates.

2007-08-20 00:01:52 · 10 answers · asked by Tiger 1