My husband manipulates me and i fall for it. We have been together for 10 years and I know his financial situation. Well we have 2 small girls I applied for child support. 2 weeks prior the day to see the mediator he would always call and whine and just make me feel bad. He said he wanted the girls more and needed money to keep them and I knew myself he would have a hard time and stupid me felt bad for him. Child support was called at $500 dollars a months. I took $250. After mediation him and I werent friends anymore and he was always mad and blaa blaa. So I guess he got to me. He now doesnt want our kids more. Always complaining of money. I was there for him when his girlfriend left him. In that time I found out he was spending alot of money on her and not our kids. $350 for a puppy $200 for a ring. Now I want the whole $500 in child support. What do you think? What do I have to do?
2007-08-20 03:00:38 · 9 answers · asked by coorj2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get the child support modified...and that's that...tell them his expenses have changed...and/or...he lied about his expenses...and good luck to you =)
2007-08-20 03:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish women would learn it is called child support! Meaning it is for the children and as such you do not have the right to lower it or refuse it because it is not for YOU! The court has a forumla for a reason-and if according to their calculations that is what they deem is his ability to pay then you should not go against that. If he lives beyond his means and cannot afford that amount coming out of his chech then he should get a part time job. Of course he was your friend before-he wanted something from you-and you were gullible enough to fall for it. You should have known he was spending money on his girlfriend-what woman wants a man he doesn't take her out and buy her nice things. Good for the girlfriend that she had sense enough to leave! As far as your current order goes if you were in NC there would be nothing they would do for you if you willingly and knowingly took less then what your children were entitled to. In this state you are allowed a review every three years and if there is a significant change in circumstances-such as increased medical expenses, etc. So until your three years are up you are stuck.
2007-08-20 15:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by mommylady74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the support was set at $500.00 a month and he has not been paying the full amount, you need to contact the child support office and request enforcement.
If the support was supposed to be set at $500.00, but you allowed it to be set at $250.00, you will have to go back through the child support office and request that the support order be changed to a higher amount.
In the future, remember that the support is for the kids. So, don't let him talk you into accepting less than the kids deserve. If he has a problem with having less money to spend on his social life, tell him to get a second job or do without!
2007-08-20 10:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not fall for the "I have no money" whining. Having 2 children and paying $500 a month is cheap. He should keep his mouth shut before it goes up. I've been there and know!!!
2007-08-20 10:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Hoghead52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back before the judge and bring your facts with to support your case on why you you need the amount you need.
2007-08-20 10:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's a loser, and you should try to go back to court to up the child support, and stop falling for his crap
2007-08-20 10:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to social serves. They will tell him how much he has to pay and it doesn't matter how much he whines, they won't care.
2007-08-20 10:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it back to court and change it...if the situation has changed they will change the order.
2007-08-20 11:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by chris d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you need to but take care of them girls.
also let him deal with his life, cut your ties
2007-08-20 10:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by sl3style 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋