Getting married in less than 5 weeks and have a serious question. My fiance recently had an encounter with an old boyfriend from 5 years ago. She told me that she was meeting a girlfriend for drinks but come to find out it was with him.
When I found out she was upset and said the reason she didn't tell me was cause I would get mad.
Well I met up with her after she left and she told me nothing was going on but wanted to call off the wedding.
I have a kid and she said she couldn't handle it anymore.
She left and ending up at his house to talk? Say nothing happened and that she wouldn't do that to me.
On Saturday she went out with her friends and I looked at her phone on sunday. She had sent me a bunch of text messages about missing me and loving me. I thought ok, we talked everything is ok. Wrong. When I looked in the recent message list his number was second. The message had been deleted, so I asked and she said she never texted him. I know it was a lie but what do I do?
2007-08-20 02:55:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have confronted her on this, she tells me that she loves me and still wants to get married. It to me is funny that everytime I bring it up she gets upset and doesn't want to talk. Last night she said it was nothing and I need to not be jeaolus. Am I crazy or is something really going on? This is one of her best friends cousins. Thanks for the help.
2007-08-20 03:23:17 · update #1
Their relationship was 5 yrs ago.
2007-08-20 03:26:10 · update #2
She is being dishonest and that is not solid ground to start a marriage on. I would not marry this woman at this time....I would just continue to date her because she does not seem to be mature enough to accept your child.. meeting with another man behind your back and calling off the wedding...and lying to you. This is not a woman ready for commitment but, is in love with the idea of a pretty dress, a party and the attention of a a fairy tale wedding. You are a package deal and she knew that the day she accepted your proposal and this in itself will blow your marriage to hell and back if she doesn't want to deal with it. I feel that as much as you want to marry this person you will only be headed for disaster! I would give this relationship more room to grow before I would let her walk down the isle and allow me to make a mistake I would one day live to regret! I am sorry but if you don't have trust you don't have anything! You may be ready but the signs are there that she is not. The red flags are waving......that was a lame excuse that she did not want to tell you that she was meeting another guy and...... did not tell you that because you would be mad! She choose not to tell you because she was hiding something more than just that. This is not the way you treat someone that in 5 weeks is about to become her husband. You need to really think about this and talk with someone you can trust. Take care and the best of luck to you.
2007-08-20 03:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about your mother, but so glad you're making arrangements to have your wedding soon. Surely someone important enough to invite from out of town, is important enough to explain about your mom, if they haven't heard from somewhere else. Moving up your wedding date is not a gift grab, nor is it rude. You're inviting all the people you would have invited two years from now, save those you might meet then, that you haven't yet. It's fine if there's not an RSVP, and especially an RSVP card. Most out of towners will get in touch with you or someone to find out more if they're interested in coming. Surely if there are family members who don't yet know about your mom's prognosis, they should find out as soon as possible through a phone call or email. I mean, you don't have to call all your aunts and uncles and cousins individually; you could call one or two of them and ask them to let their children and siblings know. Some may well rearrange their obligations so they can attend and also see your mother, even if they normally would not be able to make it on short notice. Don't think on it. You're doing what you need to do, and if people aren't empathetic with that, they can stay home.
2016-05-17 22:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by roxie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should really talk to her because in a relationship especially in marriage,trust is a very important foundation to let the relationship grow..and you should remember that eventhough it maybe a shame to call off the wedding but it's more better than live with a person whom you didn't trust.Don't be afraid to confront her in a private manner about your doubts coz marriage is not just a game where if you're tired,then you could stop and go..I hope this advice could help you coz i believe that you should trust fully a person before you could truly say that you love her..
2007-08-20 03:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by joanna vanessa f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she really loved you she would have told you the truth in the frist place. a relationship is based on trust, So you may want to think about if you want to be with her or not. at the end is all about if you both love each other to want to make the relationship work
2007-08-20 03:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little suspicious to me. My thought is...when they say nothing is going on...it usually is. I say move on. You'll never be able to trust her. She's not being honest and upfront now and she probably won't be in the future.
2007-08-20 03:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by mary p 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call off the wedding, she not over this guy.
2007-08-20 03:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call off the wedding.
2007-08-20 03:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, you need to tell her it's you or him...even if it's just a friendship she has with him...and that's that...you are to be married, and she is out acting like a spoiled child...=(...it's true...if she loves you she will cut off all all all contact w/ him...if she don't, don't marry her...and tell her this...good luck! =) forsaking all others is the vow...I take it seriously!
2007-08-20 03:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not trust her. Get out or you will be in this same situation again in the future.
2007-08-20 03:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by bhackle2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is problem , yes call off the wedding 1st
2007-08-20 03:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by MIla M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋