Marriage & Divorce - 20 August 2007

My wife took off her wedding ring over 3 weeks ago and told me that she is getting a divorce. We would have been married two years on August 28th. For the entire marriage her younger sister lived with us. This caused problems between my wife and I and also caused me depression. It got to the point that I would tell my wife that I would divorce her and I would drink all the time to get out of the house. She went home to see her family July 4th, right after a huge fight. I did not call her the whole week she was gone. She came back acted 180 degrees different. I tried my hardest, but I couldnt get over the fact that she couldnt put 100% into the relationship. I have been a mess for the past 3 weeks. I constanly tell her I love her and I am going to counseling for myself to clear up who I am. I ask her to go to counseling with me, but she tells me it is too late. We still have been living together and she wants me to move out. Why should I move when she is leaving me?

2007-08-20 05:58:13 · 20 answers · asked by Ryan F 1

My ex owes $25,000+ in back child support. He pays $100 every now and then (maybe once a year) to keep himself out of jail. We really need the money, how do I go about collecting it? I do have a judgement against him.

2007-08-20 05:51:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

ask serious questions about marriage and infidelity and get serious answers without having to pay??? I've just been having some serious issues with my marriage and need some advice from someone. Thank you!!

2007-08-20 05:48:16 · 7 answers · asked by Lisa T 4

hi, my husband lost his job a week ago today. he has not even looked for a job. it seems that every time i come home for my lunch he is still sleeping. he goes out late every night, and then he sleeps all day. i know it has only been a week, but damn we have bills to pay! it seems that i am looking for the job for him, i go on monster.com and post his resume to all the companies that are suitable for his lazy a$$. is he just being a lazy lump?

2007-08-20 05:48:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am in love to my husbands friend.
the 3 of us were in the same university.
this is 20 years ago,i am 39 now and have 3 kids.
this man i was in love with him befor my marrage,and when his friend told him that he wants to propose to this girl ,he said nothing to him.our love was inside us with only eyes ,we were feeling it but without one word about this love.
when i found his friend asking me for marriage and my real love has gone after university i accepted.
all these years i cant forget him for one day,and when i see him i feel very happy with my kids and also my husband.
all these years we were playing together ,and spending the week ends together as two famillies,by the way his wife also my friend and he has 3 kids also.
from 5 months ,we started messages with our selfphones,and ended with emails.
all this without any tuch ,only talking,and from this talk we knew that we are loving each other for 20 years.so must i feel guilty for just writting emails?

2007-08-20 05:47:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you have any horror stories because you didn't get a prenup?

2007-08-20 05:31:41 · 18 answers · asked by phjun8383 3

Brand new to this tickling stuff but want ti try some minor tie & tickle games, any suggestions on how to get involved slowly, what works best, wifes a 10 on the ticklish sclae and don't to over due it......any stories on your first time?

2007-08-20 05:28:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband was married for almost 2 years. No kids. They lived in different states for 1 year (they werent together) but didnt bother going through with a divorce bc of money. Then I met him and it made him push for a divorce and they did. But she decided to keep his last name. And I dont understand why she didnt choose to change her name back to her maiden name. It cant be that big of a pain to change it right? I personally feel that she's not as a way to try to stay close to his family. Anyways, do most women who get divorced do this? Or do they normally change their name back? BTW I was pregnant with his child before they were officially divorced, and she was also pregnant with someone elses baby. They WERE NOT together though so please no rude comments.

2007-08-20 05:22:28 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does anyone else beside me, live this way?

2007-08-20 05:21:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

We just recieved a phone call from our neighbor that lives quite far away from us (About 6-7 acres) that we make love to much and should cool it down because we will burn out. And she said we need to use birthcontrol because she "Knows we don't" and we aren't ready to have any mixies.

First of all we are active only at night and in the morning. Second she can't possibly hear us because we are far away and we don't make too much noise )We like the hearing of the motions and other non-verbal noises. Third why is she all in our buisness?

This made my wife "very upset" because I think she is ashamed of sex anyway and to have another person come into our marriage and try to tell us what to do......

What should we do besides not answer her phone calls? She is an older pervy like lady who is a widow. I can't go over to her and scare her off and my wife wants to beat her *** but I have no time for her going to jail.

I think this counts as harrasment.

2007-08-20 05:20:48 · 12 answers · asked by Blackman married to Redhead 1

ok so im not saying all of u r mean i am jst saying ppl come here for advice and alot of u guyz jst b***** to them and make them feel worse! why is tht?

2007-08-20 05:15:57 · 9 answers · asked by Jewels 2

2007-08-20 05:08:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am so confused me and my husband and a "girl" friend of ours which happens to be his ex (we are all really god friends now" went to a concert the other night... we all had been drinking... our "girl" friend leans over and open mouth kisses me i reject so she goes in for my husband should i be mad at this because he didnt push her off he tells me he is tottally involved in me and no one else but i seem to have this un easy feeling in my stomach about it what should i do

2007-08-20 05:05:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

30yr old son and wife with 2yr old son and 4yr old daughter are divorcing. Wife has temp.custody of children which has dashed any hopes my son had of attaining permanent custody..
Children are not in life threatening conditions but are exposed to the mother's dysfunctional,explosive and abusive behaviored family not to mention the possible fondling by an older cousin.
Neither parent is really a bad parent but I do question some of their parenting skills and decisions.
I am not trying to be the "take over" grandparent but I want these kids happy and safe.
Both parents smoke "weed" and inspite of some of the dirt presently brought up by both parents they have promised not to mention "weed"during divorce/custody ordeal.
I not only want these babies safe but I want them close so I can protect them and help them to grow up in a much healthier environment.
ANY and ALL legal advise will be GREATLY appreciated because even with my legal knowledge I am at a loss at how to go about this.

2007-08-20 05:04:58 · 6 answers · asked by Just Q 6

2007-08-20 05:01:35 · 13 answers · asked by Celest 1

hi, i have been married to my husband for 6 years, and we have a 5 year old son together. for the past year or so i have been so unhappy with him. i want to leave him badly, he has a bad temper wich he will cuss anyone out, or worse sometimes get physical with anyone it could be some joe walkign down the street. i am so tired of this temper. he trie to control me, it's ok if he goes out with his guy friends, but i can't go out with not even one girlfriend. i hate walking on eggshells, and i know my son is fearful of his father. he loves him, but what kind of man curses at a 5 year old? would it be wrong to leave this man? i dont want my child to be like him, he is a lazy lump!

2007-08-20 04:49:49 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-20 04:41:11 · 46 answers · asked by MoPleasure4U 4

Several months ago a new person was hired in the company, and my wife asked me if she was good looking. I told her, "I guess she's pretty." She looked at the girls picture on the company website and decided that she wasn't pretty etc., Whatever. This coworker and I have only a professional relationship, but because of the odd hours at work, not everyone gets to eat lunch at the same time. Ours happened to be at the same time yesterday so we decided to go out together. My wife was upset when I told her after work. Should she be mad? Did I really do anything wrong? Believe me, the conversation centered around work only.

2007-08-20 04:37:54 · 37 answers · asked by Techman 1

Getting married in June. :o)

2007-08-20 04:37:48 · 38 answers · asked by Linz ♥ VT 4

that she has dated me for the last year during her seperation or them finding that out after the fact.

Im about to meet her parents and we dont know how to handle it.
should she tell them we have dated for the last year and have become very very serious or...
should she introduce me as a new boyfriend that had she met over a year ago and we just hung out alot until recently....

down the road we are planning to marry.
we have talked about it and that is what we both want when the time is right.

I just dont want them to not even give me a chance because i dated her before her divorce was final
however...
I also dont want them to find out and then hate me for it.

what would you suggest the best way to handle this would be
thanks

2007-08-20 04:26:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sometimes you can't figure out what you should do especially when you are are involved in social problems and at the same time you don't like to let others to exploit the situation. What to do when you are in a mess and you don't know what to do?

2007-08-20 04:12:45 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello what do people think of the idea of free time for individuals in a marriage - do you give yourself a couple of hours a week or month away from your spouse and what do you do with it ? Do you think this is healthy for the relationship and do you have to explain what you do in that time?

2007-08-20 04:03:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Should I tell him I left the house? I told him that I did not go anywhere, but I went out for food and to talk to some friends. Should I tell him the truth, or keep it a secret?

2007-08-20 04:01:49 · 17 answers · asked by AJPierzynskis' 4

my wife & i have been going through some ups & downs. during this time she has started speaking w/friends she had before we met. she hasn't went out w/these friends except 4 a few times. what bothers me is this: when we met and began 2 see each other she quit all contact w/these friends. She was dedicated to only me and our kids. I never asked her 2 do this it just happened that way. the last few months have been a little rough and now she has rekindled these old friendships and every so often goes 2 see them. (lake trips/bar/out eating/etc.) I don't think they r bad people r forbid her from going. in fact, she usually invites me however i somewhat feel she does bc she knows i am not into the barscene. she then comes in at like 5 or 6 am which bothers me greatly. i worry bout her safety and who she's with. Is she preparing herself 2 leave me or am I just in an emotional breakdown phase?

2007-08-20 04:01:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-20 03:47:28 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a 40 year old male in a marriage for the "sake of children only". I have been married for five years now and I admit our is a terrible marriage due to the nasty feedback style, constant fault finding over trivial issues, and serious anger problem of my wife.

For financial and cultural reasons, I have to remain in this marriage. We have a child.

My question is:

How do you keep your OWN happiness in a marriage which is only for the sake of children ?

What are your specific strategies ?




Looking forward to your guidance.

Thanks.

2007-08-20 03:13:15 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-20 03:12:23 · 34 answers · asked by whereRyou? 6

What have you done about it. What has your husband done to make it better in your home. Kids are involved here.

2007-08-20 03:11:33 · 7 answers · asked by Rein 5

We seperated to give her time to work out her 16 yr olds problems with drugs and the law.We were sweet together and were seeing each other until 6 weeks ago when i asked for more time with her. I felt she was only coming by for sex. She has been experiencing hypomania her doctor says. She refuses to get help or counseling. I know she will eventually crash and the guilt may really hurt her.

2007-08-20 03:01:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hsuband and I have had privacy and trust issues. he began texting and chatting with other women and I began going thru his phone and stuff just to keep up and keep a tab on what he was doing.finally spoke about and said that he would stop the texting and I would stop the snooping. however, I have relasped on three occassions and have gone thru his phone.this past weekend was one of those relapses. he got a txt msg at 3am , I asked him who it was and he said he did not know. he was a bit drunk and did not check. Well, I checked his phone and it was form a girl saying she must be drunk. I called the number just to make sure it was a girl and the next morning I asked him about it. now , he feels I should work on my snooping issues but I feel he needs to do some work too.he says i should respect his privacy but what defines privacy in a marriage and how should i handle all this, my "snooping" and the fact that each time I look in his stuff I find something.

2007-08-20 03:01:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous