I am so confused me and my husband and a "girl" friend of ours which happens to be his ex (we are all really god friends now" went to a concert the other night... we all had been drinking... our "girl" friend leans over and open mouth kisses me i reject so she goes in for my husband should i be mad at this because he didnt push her off he tells me he is tottally involved in me and no one else but i seem to have this un easy feeling in my stomach about it what should i do
2007-08-20 05:05:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her behavior was inappropriate. AND so was your husbands. He has no business kissing any woman but you. It leads to too much temptation.
Make sure you let him know how you feel about it. He should NOT behaving that way. Even if he doesn't feel it was wrong or sinful, he should respect the fact that it hurt you and NEVER do it again.
2007-08-20 05:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by Rita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm a little confused about why you have "girl" in quotations as though the person is allegedly female. is she not really female, is this really a drag queen or tranny?
regardless of this person's gender, i think you are correct in being upset...with the friend. i don't think she has anymore going on with your husband than she does with you. remember she tried to kiss YOU first. when you turned her down, she turned to your husband. i would only be suspicious of him if she tried to kiss him first and only him. sure, he should have rejected her sooner, but he was also drunk and you were there, so perhaps he thought that wouldn't be cheating and that you were all just having a good time.
you need to talk to your husband and address this "friend" (btw, friend should have been in quotes) in a united front. let her know that her behavior was unacceptable. she is not to kiss you or your husband under any circumstances. make sure that his msg comes from you AND your husband. this woman may have been trying to start a 3-some. either way, she has crossed a boundary and it might be time for you and your husband to dial back the amt of time you spend with her. remember, she was sexually attracted to and intimate with your husband in the past, so it's not difficult to imagine that her feelings might have reignited.
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2007-08-20 12:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not close with my ex. There are good reasons why that is over.
It sounds like your husband isn't sure what he wants. He cannot have everything he wants. I think he genuinely wants to be involved in just you, at least in his mind, but he's not sure that such a committment is warranted.
One of the toughest tests of manhood involves monogamous committment to one woman. A true man enjoys what he has, for that is the only way to happiness.
You should talk to a marriage counselor, and if you're religious, invite the Deity you worship to give you counsel. If he persists in this damaging behavior, your marriage cannot endure.
All my best.
2007-08-20 12:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Fergi the Great 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if i were you i'd be outraged she should have gotten the hint when you pushed her away from you and i realize you were all drinking but obviously there are still some type of feelings between your ex and his if he claims he's totally into you but yet didn't push her away as she tried to kiss him. I would definitely try to get to the bottom of it and find out exactly what kind feelings he still has left for her.
2007-08-20 12:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by Christy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this girl is a good friend of yours now I would definitly talk to her about her behavior and tell her how uncomfortable it made you, and that she needs to respect the fact that you and your husband are married and that you dont appreciate her kissing either of you.....the fact that she tried to kiss you first is weird enough. and you need to let your husband know that no matter how involved in you he is there is absolutly no excuse for kissing another woman and that its not going to be tolerated.
2007-08-20 12:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by canoliqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but if my husband kiss someone else in front of me I will kick both their asses friends or not. He didn´t push her away sorry but i doubt he respects you or loves you. And friends with an "ex" well I rather have her out of my life that in it I don´t care if you like them or not Exes are not allowed EVER!!!!
2007-08-20 12:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she behaved inappropriately. I'm not going to be judgemental of your husband not pushing her away... after all, you sure could have pushed her away from him too.
If you're not interested in a three-some with this lady, I think that you and your husband need to start limiting the occasions when you see her. Getting physical like this is not okay.
2007-08-20 12:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jarien 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you didn't do anything wrong. You have a feeling. Feelings are not wrong to have. He probably should have pushed her away, but you were at a concert, and I know I've done some crazy things at concerts...
2007-08-20 12:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Kirby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is sure wrong of your husband accept that kiss, you have every right to be angry, does it mean any girl that kiss him, he would accept? and maybe next time some your girl friend may even offer her 'bed', you should really hv a good talk with your husband and your girl friend. good luck!
2007-08-20 12:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by bec 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like she wants a 3-way and the drinking gave her the "balls" to go for it. Most likely its a purely sexual thign so don't worry too much about her trying to steal him away or him not loving you.
2007-08-20 12:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by TheMadChemist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋