Anyone out there have a husband whos ex is manipulative and intrusive?

Question

What have you done about it. What has your husband done to make it better in your home. Kids are involved here.

OK...cheese puff.... She interfers, tries to break us up after 4 years of marriage. She slams their father and I to the kids, demands more money every month. We pay huge child support, on time, she does what ever comes into her mind to bug us.....what do you do about this sort of individual. We have already moved one state away.

Answer 1

Stop feeding her need for attention.

When she calls for more money, tell her to contact the court and hang up the phone.

When she calls and mentions anything other than the children, explain to her that there is no reason to discuss anything but the children and hang up the phone.

Your husband has legal rights to his children, see that they are enforced.

Other than that, she can only interfere as much as you and he let her interfere. It is a simple matter of refusing to play her game.

Answer 2

gIRL Welcome to the club
both of us have to go throw it me with my x and my husband with hers
but my husband x was worst she live in France and she will call us at 2 in the morning when she foundout that Iwas pregnant she tell her daugher that I must not have children because it will interfer with her inheritance
my husband put a stop to her calling by contact the French gendarme and pay a lawyer to send a letter to her
at the end I lost the baby with the stress and my husband call her and tell her that he will press charge for harassment agains her because it was her fault that I lost the baby
she spet a year without calling (bythe way their daugher was already 18 at theat time ) last dec 2006 their daughter inform my husband that she was told that he was not her father
and that she was glad that everytime I got pregnant I lot the baby because she does not want to share
That was our christmas gift and to comamorate my almost dying after my third miscarriage on dec 5th 2006
but to clost the issue the mother try to commit suicide in june this year and she did not die the next day she call all her xs and demand money by 10 am our time we received our call she told my husband that he own her money because he has not pay child support for a year my husband answer well the daughter you have gifted to me is 21 and she been livign with a man for 2 year and have not attend school for 3 how come I own you money she starts cussing because her daughter let her father know that she was not in her home but with her boyfriend after she said to my husband anyway you can't have children my husband answer is that why you tell your daughter that I was not her father
It is because of my wife that I have not oder a DNA test
because she said that after 20 years their is nothing to proof no matter what, but if you continue I will not take her advise and have a test done I will then take you to court and have reimburse all the child support I have paid over the years
so far we have not hear from her
NOw For my x, he was easy my family and I always scaret the **** out of him
but what he was doing was mentally abuse the children
telling them that I got remarried because I did not love him
and my husband was a pedophil
he even try to charge me with kidnapping because I move out of state with the children
well all of it backfired the police told him if he ever call them again with false charges he will be arrested
he has not pay child support since 2004
and he did not even attend his sone graduation which was done not far from where he lives nor call for his 18th birthday
so they children call him the man, his new girlfriend call him the sperm donor me I JUST IGNORE HIM completly
I told the children that he is your father if you want him in your life that is fine but don't give him any trust because he does not have intergrity
he lies constanly
in your case the ball is in your husband's corner
what you guys hould do is not answer any call from her and let her leave messages
return the call only when it is the children who call
when you guys talk to her ask for the children news and if she demanding things say of yes when would like to receive it and hang up
soon she will realized that she is been played and will stop all her bs
or take a lawyer to refine the fine point of child support
Take care

Answer 3

Thankfully, I am not in that kind of situation. I would have your husband try to politely talk to his ex and ask her to please stop acting like this. Her behavior and attitude is definitely effecting her kids and the relationship that they have with you guys. If she conitunes to act like this, than I would document everything that she is doing so that the courts know what she is up to.

Answer 4

I don't know the whole story, but possibly he dumped his wife for you? If that's the case, then I can see why she is manipulative, intrustive and talks bad about your husband. There is nothing like a woman scorned.

Answer 5

You CHOSE to marry a man with "baggage" marriage doesn't come with guarantees. Some ex wives behave in this matter. "Kids are involved here", yes and they are HER kids, as well as HIS kids, not YOUR kids. What she tells her children about you is all something you are going to have to live with and disprove because no matter what kind of a mother she is, she is still their mother. And again, this is what you CHOSE to marry into.

Answer 6

I do not know what to tell you here, except the husband needs a stronger back bone.

Answer 7

I don't like cheesepuffs.

Seriously, could you be any less vague and cryptic?