Getting married in June. :o)
2007-08-20 04:37:48 · 38 answers · asked by Linz ♥ VT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not doubting myself here.. just trying to be realistic.
2007-08-20 04:48:00 · update #1
Absolutely it's possible. You need to be comfortable enough with your soon to be husband to talk to him about anything and it mean anything. If you get bored with sex you need to say so and work with him to change things up.
IF any cheating is going on in the relationship right now (on either side, not saying there is but just something to think about) that is a enormous red flag. tendency to cheat doesn't change with marital status.
You also need to make sure you spritual beliefs regarding sex match up. Make agreements about what's OK and what's not OK.
2007-08-20 06:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know people who have done it. I just went to a 45th wedding anniversary party - and I know they still love each other like crazy - (and I *think* they're still sexually active). They are very Spiritual people - and meditate and pray together every day. I think that being like-minded heps relationships tremendously.
As for me - it's not so much about the "faithful" forever part. It's more about the "hang around" forever part. I tell my boyfriend of 10 years (who wants to get married) that he should ask again when I'm 70 or so - because then - the "rest of my life" - won't be so darn long.
2007-08-20 06:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course. Marriage is a commitment that should never be taken lightly. When in doubt whether you are doing something "wrong" once you are married, ask yourself how YOU would feel if your spouse did the same thing behind your back.
2007-08-20 05:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your definition of faithful. If you define faithful as not being with another person of the opposite sex, then yes it is possible. If you define faithful as not desiring anyone else, then I do not think it is possible. It think that even people that are happily married still look at other people and think about them on some sexual level. There is a saying - "you can look at the menu, you just can't order". Anyway, that's my take on it.
2007-08-20 06:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by sportsfanstl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely. At least, it is for me. I don't know if it is for everyone - that's something that they will have to decide for themselves.
I look at and admire the good looks of other guys, and I'll happily admit it. I talk to my ex-boyfriend on the phone a couple of times a week (with my husband's knowledge and confirmation from him that he doesn't have a problem with it).
But I don't fantasize about "what it would be like" to kiss or have sex with any of them - it doesn't interest me. Even the actor that I currently think is "really hot"... I don't imagine what it woudl be like to "be" with him.
For me, at least, I think that's a large part of why I have no problem being faithful to my husband. I don't play "what if" games in my head regarding real people, so the chance of a "what if" coming into reality is nil.
2007-08-20 05:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To remain faithful, it takes two. Most often, we feed off of each other's commitment to a relationship. As human's there's a concept of guilt and a fear of failing in our own eyes that keeps us from straying.
Congrats on getting married. In June? 2008? It's a while away. Good luck :-)
2007-08-20 04:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by this_big_one_is_4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Marriage is an institute developed by God for perfect individuals, and none of us are. I love my husband with my whole heart, but when I said I do it was for the long term not forever, what is forever. We change to much, situations will arise that is going to test the both of us. I've been married for 4 years (faithfully) , and I respect the old traditions, but they are very out dated and unrealistic to human nature. Value your relationship, but be honest with yourself, and always trust your instincts.
2007-08-20 05:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by ava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly love the person it is. It's also important to be open about things. Share your fantasies, be open to trying new things, keep it fun, and you will want to be with that person forever when it comes to bedroom stuff. Remember that sex isn't the most important thing, but in order to have a good relationship, you must be able to have good sex, and vice versa. They really do go hand in hand. Good luck in your marriage!
2007-08-20 04:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by sarah_aka_fey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything is possible - if you mean is it probable - the answer is it depends - if you are both completely right for each other in every way measurable then yes - but statistically speaking it's not probable either - just make sure you both are good communicators, have similar interests, allow some alone time for each other, and are sexually compatible and things stand a decent chance at working out
2007-08-20 05:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by lancej0hns0n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all I can say is what I've done so far--ten years in May. You can remain faithful. You can remain in love. You can make choices that don't hurt the other person. It's work on both sides, but it is worth it.
I wish you the best on your June marriage Linz.
2007-08-20 04:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by Todd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋