Would you read your spouses email? Why? Do they have a right to personal privacy in a marriage?

Answer 1

Everyone has a right to privacy...marriage doesn't make snooping okay. Although there should be nothing to hide, there's a principle to consider. If one thinks they have the right to snoop through their partner's mail or email, there's a trust issue there so what chances does the relationship have anyway?

Answer 2

I read my husbands email all the time. However there are reasons. He never checks it and he coaches kids hockey and baseball teams and sometimes he'd get info too late if I didn't check it. Such as tournament schedules or kids emailing to say they can't make a game. I do this to help him out because he's a busy guy and a great dad for volunteering his time for the kids that way. Not to spy.

Other than things that are obviously about hockey or baseball, I just let him know it's there and he can read it at his leisure. I don't open it.

Everyone has a right to privacy and if you feel the need to read your spouses email to find out what they're up then you have trust issues in you relationship and they should really be addressed or you going to run into trouble down the road.

Besides reading personal email is like eaves dropping. You never hear anything good.

Answer 3

I would, but I'd never expect to find anything. When we log onto our internet, his account automatically pops up. We have the same password, so that we can get into each other's mail to check messages if needed for each other, but we just wanted to have different addresses for job search/work reasons. Personally, I don't think that in a marriage people should even care if their spouse reads their email. Anyone who gets bent about it has something to hid. Anyone ever listen to their own wedding vows about 2 lives becoming one? Apparently not in this day and age. Seriously , why would I care if my husband reads some stupid forward my friends or mom sends me? Or if me and my friend are planning on going to a movie or out to dinner, that's something he's going to know anyway, so who cares?

Answer 4

I only read my husband's emails if he wants to show me something. I have no reason to check his emails and he doesn't check mine. We do not feel the need to look over each other's shoulder while we are on the computer. But we don't close a window to hide something when the other person walks by.

We trust each other and we share many things in our lives. We aren't joined by the hips or have a need to be around each other 24/7.

Everyone should have the right to have their own personal privacy! If you have nothing to hide, there is no reason to be secretive. I don't listen in onto my husband's phone calls, but he doesn't feel he needs to hide out to talk on the phone either (and vice versa).

Answer 5

Not only do I read it, I had to put on monitoring software on his computer. In a stealth mode. Why you ask? Because my husband of 34 yrs. (who is 70-- I'm 58) discovered cybersex and ended up on the phone with some of these women having sex. He preferred the 20ish age group. There is no such thing as privacy in a relationship when the intent is to betray your word to that person. Your word is your bond. If it is no good then neither are you. The world of cyberspace is great, it is also the opening to Pandora's Box. Sooo..if you have any reason to suspect something find out now and put a stop to it. It can ruin your life and it just simply isn't worth it.

Answer 6

I know that is VERY tempting...I was there myself. However, everyone deserves some privacy and you just have to believe that your spouse would not do anything to hurt you. The computer can be very tempting...in lots of areas and i have had many friends end up in a divorce over it because they caught their spouse talking with other women but like i said you have to trust the one your with....i do agree its hard though :o)

Answer 7

I do not believe we have the right to personal privacy in marriage. When we become "one" with the other person we basically tell them that all of my life is an open book to you, no exceptions. This includes thoughts, hopes, dreams, fantasies, successes and failures.

To simply ask for the right to privacy is somewhat indicative of a problem on one person's part. What does one have to hide from their husband or wife?

Answer 8

Yes, they have a right to personal privacy if they deserve it and live a trustworthy life. A year ago, I wouldnt have considered reading my husbands email. Then he had an affair, now I feel like I have a right to do whatever I want to make me feel better that he has changed his cheating ways. He kinda did that to himself and gave up his right to personal privacy when he decided to stick it to another woman. I guess he should have thought about that before he did what he did. He wants to act like a lying cheating sneaking snake, he's gonna be treated like one until he has EARNED back the trust that he lost. Now, for the record, I dont ask him to let me see it all the time, for I cant live like that, i would drive myself crazy if i did that. But, yes, once in awhle, I ask him. He consents to it. and thats usually all i need to hear and i end up not reading it.

Answer 9

For so many years I never ever read my husband's private email. First of all it's on his name like my own private email,so respecting his privacy was his rights. But now that privacy is not important, he took my trust and respect because of his affair to a married woman for 2 months,so since I discovered it,he lost that words "privacy" from me and from my kids....

Answer 10

There is no personal privacy in a marriage. A marriage is a union between two people, and you should not be doing anything that you need to hide from your spouse.