Hello what do people think of the idea of free time for individuals in a marriage - do you give yourself a couple of hours a week or month away from your spouse and what do you do with it ? Do you think this is healthy for the relationship and do you have to explain what you do in that time?
2007-08-20 04:03:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now does this mean anything goes, or are there caps.
2007-08-20 04:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
HA! Free time, whats that? I am the stay at home mother of 2 kids, who are currently home all day due to summer break. I cant even take a shower without my name (MOM) being called at least 2 times while I am in the shower. My husband works phenomenal hours, gone all the time, and then takes business trips on top of it (currently gone at the moment). Oh, but you can bet your a**, he gets "me" time. Often stops for a few beers after work, sometimes I dont even see him, cuz he comes home so late and I am in bed.
Anyway, I'm rambling on. To answer your question, and this is speaking from someone who does not get "me" time, yes, I think it is very important and crucial in a marriage. I believe in managing your time for your family, for just each other, and just for yoruselves. I do think you should always be accountable for what you do and where you go, and I do think you should always be available while you are on your me time. No room for secrets or sneakiness. That just leads to trouble.
2007-08-20 04:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me time is very important. It is good to get an hour a day to relax by yourself. I play video games or read a book or watch a tv show that my wife may not be a fan of. She will surf the net, make a phone call to a friend or relative. It's great and then when me time is over we sit down and she may tell me about the conversation she had or what she found on the web for a vacation and I may tell her about the book I'm reading or show I'm watching.
2007-08-20 04:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by jpfitzy7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is massively important. It gives you time to remember who you are as an individual and not just one half of a couple. What you do with 'me' time depend on what you like. Out with friends or something on your own. You should not have to explain yourself but neither should you make out like you have something to hide.
2007-08-20 12:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by gillie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A month? Don't come back.
If work demanded it, a week is possible. Everbody needs a few hours every once in a while.
But maybe you need to think about why you aren't interesting to somebody if they need a week of 'me' time. That would make me highly suspicous about their character... as if they weren't fit for a relationship.
2007-08-20 04:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that free time for every person in a relationship is a must. It is very healthy for the relationship.
2007-08-20 04:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has his "me time" watching some of his favorite shows that I don't like, playing computer games, and washing his truck. I spend my "me time" polishing my nails, playing computer games, or taking a bubble bath. This "me time" is not for hours on end or anything. We spend a lot of quality time doing things together too. It is just nice sometimes, for anyone, to spend some time alone with their thoughts.
2007-08-20 04:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by gorgeous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I usually have about an hour a day of ME time. He plays XBox, sometimes I doY!A or XBOX. It's just time to unwind doing something by ourselves. I think it's important to have a little of it daily cause I spend every other sec taking care of kids/house.
2007-08-20 04:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by philosophy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're married it doesn't mean you have to do everything together.
Do stuff for yourselves and each other on a regular basis. The thought ot my wife coming along to play football with me is no good.
2007-08-20 05:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples need time apart to continue to be individuals.
My hubby gets one day a week and he normally goes and plays basketball, or video games with his buddies.
I go to the library, hang with my girlfriends (we normally go to lunch) etc.
2007-08-20 04:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have a hobby that your spouse does not share, you should not make me time a habit. It causes suspicions and it's not good for your relationship.
2007-08-20 04:48:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋