and the man who I do love seems to have no mind of his own. He orders the same food I order. We both go to church he will pray when I pray stand when I stand. I put him to the test yesterday and told him he does not have to tell me he loves me all the time so he stoped it seems he does evrything to make me happy. He does love me but is this behavior out of fear of losing me or something else?
2007-08-20 01:41:33 · 15 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he might be doing it to please you or he is scared of upsettingyou. tell him how you feel or its goin to get worse!
2007-08-20 01:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by grumpyjen28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way. He knows this is a stressful time for you and he's just trying to make you feel secure and happy. Don't look for trouble where there isn't any. Be happy now that he's doating on you, because once you say I do, everything seems to change. What I mean is that he will think you already know all this and he doesn't have to put all the effort in showing you. The best to you and your husband to be, and don't sweat the small stuff.
2007-08-20 09:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he always been this way or just lately? If he has always been this way, he may have a very co-dependent personality. This will likely never change. Now, there are much worse things that he could be doing, so I would try to keep it in perspective and remember how much you love him. Try to remain patient and you could find ways in which to help him become more dependent. If this is something he began doing recently, then it probably won't last and I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-08-20 09:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by zero 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh... you agreed to marry this guy, right? You picked him out of the millions of guys on the planet, no one forced you to....you chose him. He's the only person on earth whom you will see ever day for the rest of yoru life. It will be his face, and his quirks, his personaltiy issues, and everything HIM that you see EVERY DAY for the rest of your life.
And, now, when the wedding date is set, you don't like something about his personality and you're talking to complete strangers about what to do?!?!???
He's insecure and weak. As he gets older and tires of some of your quirks, he'll come out and assert himself some more. Yo might not like it. Maybe you should not get married until you both have your act together a little better.
2007-08-20 09:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are going through are normal premarital jeebies. If he were picking his nose in church, and chewing with his mouth open spewing food when he talked that is a problem. He just really loves you, doing what you do is his way of feeling close to you.
2007-08-20 09:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"It seems he does everything to make me happy." Why would you tell him that he doesn't have to say "I love you" all the time? He loves you, let him express it. IF you marry him, wait a few years and then you'll complain that he doesn't say it enough on his own. Isn't that the "good thing" you don't know you have until its gone theory???
2007-08-20 09:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Cheri >^.^< 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to seriously relax cuz at least u have a man that will pay attention to u and tries everythin to keep u happy...lots of us women dun get tha so i dun see why u should be complaining...now if u didnt get any attention and wasnt gettin treated right then u have a reason to be upset...
2007-08-20 12:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just loves you and you are getting stressed about the wedding (which is normal)
I think he is laid back about the situation!
2007-08-20 08:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mama~peapod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you misunderstood his actions..nothing wrong in what he does,in fact..you become his 'boss' for a moment.Remember,it's both your wedding and his probably scared as you!!!
2007-08-20 09:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by flyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont take him for granted, you may not find another guy like this in your life
2007-08-20 08:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but a man who cannot be his own man is no good.
Think twice before you commit.
2007-08-20 09:15:41 · answer #11 · answered by Kaka M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋