Here's the deal, we got married moved into an extremley bad situation of an apartment (we did not know how bad it was when we looked at it); our upstairs tenants terrorize us and I have to work at 7am each weekday; my husband however can make his own schedule. I am unable to sleep there, there are parties (cops dont do anything), constant slamming, the place smells like garbadge (we had a sewage problem); moral is, I can't live there and have to live elsewhere during the week, my husband understands but I still think it's bad for us; until we find another place, I can't live there but just don't know what to do. We've gotten sick from living there, can't sleep, can't even sit in the living room cause of the noise, yesterday plaster came off the ceiling from neighbors slamming on ceiling.
2007-08-20 02:33:15 · 20 answers · asked by Jersey Style 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah I did call the landlord, he's been away for a month; no response as of yet. Thanks though.
2007-08-20 02:38:43 · update #1
husband won't go with me at night, he wants to stay there and fight with them.
2007-08-20 02:40:40 · update #2
If your marriage is strong, if your love for one another is strong, your marriage can survive through a separation. I have a friend who's been married about 15 years now...for the first six to seven years, I would say, her husband was in the Marines and being shipped off to all kind of places (she had little kids and family here, so she never moved around with him). They talked almost daily, and would probably only see each other two, maybe three times a year, until he got out of the Marines. Now, I would have to say that they have the strongest marriage I have ever seen, because they love each other so much and always have.
2007-08-20 02:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by smcbroomagain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out the state laws for tenants in your area. I know here in Massachusetts, if your apartment is inhabitable, or if there is a violation of your peace of mind you have grounds to break the lease. Also get an inspector, the health and sanitation commission in your area will not appreciate the sewage problem, its unsafe, its unhealthy, and its not your problem, nor will you be expected to stay there legally. The landlord is likely aware of the riffraf upstairs, he should've warned you.
As far as your marriage goes... i dunno... ur right to want to be worried, but being that we, as women, worry all the time, this may be unwarranted. If your marriage is solid and strong, no need for alarm, not other than something happenin to hubby with the nut case neighbors. lol
2007-08-20 02:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave there!!!!! I would call the police or have someone with credentials come over to document the condition of that place....to guard against the landlord sueing you rent due on the lease. Even if I had to rent a room in someones home for a while with my husband, I would rather opt for that than settle for what you are going through. I am sorry for you guys....hopefully this will be one of the things you both look back on together and laugh about.
2007-08-20 02:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would find something as fast as possible and tell the landlord that unless he fixes the situation then you'll consult a lawyer if need be to break the lease. I have a friend who's daughter had a similar situation, only to add to her problem the older gentleman that lived upstairs had passed and been dead for close to two weeks before he was discovered, imagine that mess!
2007-08-20 02:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Examine the lease and apartment policy. If there are guidelines then write a letter to the landloard. Keep copies of all documents you write and document all phone calls (who you spoke to, when you called, why you called and results). You have to establish a history and what you have done to resolve the situation. Document the damage that is occuring and keep all records. Find another living situation NOW. Once you move out, make sure you get your deposit back, if the landloard tries to keep it (and he/ she will), go to small claims court and present your well documented case to the judge. You may try to sue for damages as well.
2007-08-20 02:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by Mad Embalmer From the North 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't your husband live with you at this other place? why can't you both just move out together. if your landlord does nothing, call the housing inspector. go on line and look up tenants rights for your state. i think a married couple should stay together IN GOOD TIMES AND IN BAD. ...i think that is part of the vows. my first husband was in korea in the gulf war and was gone for our entire first year of marriage. needless to say by the time he came home, we both moved on with our lives...we didn't follow our vows.
2007-08-20 02:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to file a legal complaint against the landlords. You also need to move out of there asap. File the legal complaint. Places like that get fined in court all the timefor such conditions. See a lawyer while looking for another place to live.
2007-08-20 02:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These days, it is not uncommon for married people to temporarily live apart at some point.
Marriages work out fine with no problems as long as we all understand it is just temporary. I don't blame you for not wanting to saty in a place like that. Your higher standards just won't allow you to live like that.
Don't worry about it and just keep a positive attitude that you and your partner will fine a more suitable place to live.
Your situation is not uncommon, and certainly can work.
2007-08-20 02:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn, if the place is that bad why not just break your lease and the two of you move out together and find a better place. That sounds like the eaiest and smartest thing to do.
2007-08-20 02:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by Doogie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no point fighting with your neighbor, morons dont understand human language. The only solutions is move out from the place, the longer your husband stay, he will getting more irritating and he may just blow up one night! Your relationship should not be screw up because of these ppl.
2007-08-20 02:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by alwaysbme 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋