2007-08-20 00:31:19 · 13 answers · asked by Ratnam S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my condolences for you... i know it must be so hard to raise a daughter on your own. the most important thing is you should always be there for her, not just to help her with her studies but always support her while she is growing up. she needs all the help she can get to continue her journey even without her mother. about developing her studies, ask her what she wants to pursue and ask her what she needs in her schooling. just be positive and keep up the good work as a good father.
2007-08-20 00:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by brazenlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you have to perform the role of both the father and the mother to your daughter due to the unfortunate demise of your wife.
It is good to know that you are thinking seriously about her studies at a very young age. I'm sure that you will agree that the prerequisite for good education is to study in a good school. So when your daughter grows up, have her admitted in a good school.
The type of school you select will depend on your job and the time you can spend with her. If your job permits you to spend a lot of time with her, a day school would be good enough. But if you have a demanding job and can't devote enough time, it is better to opt for a boarding school.
Whichever school you choose, you have to guide her in her studies as a friend, more than as her father. I'm not suggesting that you be overly lenient. But try to make her studies as interesting as posible, through modern methods. Ensure that your love and compassion doesn't make her miss her mother greatly. Try to find out which subjects draw her interest. Initially emphasise more on them. And try to give her all round education so that she develops into a complete human being.
2007-08-20 12:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Ratnam. I understand you very good, as I brought my son up alone and when he was 14 he began to go for a walk instead of going to school. When I knew it, he ran away from home, and when he came back he told me he would not study anymore. Our family is very good, all of us have an university education, and he did not even want to finish high school, it was very terrible. But I told to myself that he is my son and now he does not understand many things, that i`m wiser than him and I should do what I think is better for him. And I`ve done it-I was kind to him, very patient,, forgive him many things and now he is a student at the university, studies law and he can`t understand himself why he was like this. Wish you to be patient, show your love to your daughter, and good luck to you and her. I know that everything will be ok with your daughter because she has father who loves her very much and worrys about her and her future
2007-08-20 07:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by April 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi
its sad when u lose a spouse....my heartfelt condolences. Its sadder for a child to lose a parent at a young age. Now, no one can replace a mom, but you can be there for her as a friend, guide, philosopher. What is very important is that you keep lines of communication open. Encourage her to talk freely. and pursue her educational interests without bias. If help is needed get it.
Help her to be independent and self-sufficient.
Encourage her in all her interests.
*Listen* to what she says and dont dismiss her opinions.
Most importantly be there for her as a dad!
Its not easy but it has been done. Life is cruel but one has to deal with it in the best way possible.
cheers n chin up:)
2007-08-20 09:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by angelzzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of love for her, talking and listening. Get her to always question everything, not to accept something becuase of tradition, critical thinking will help her establish a wonderful self esteem and ability to cut through the rubbish in life. Encourage her to love the process of learning rather than focus on just studying for good grades. I try to impart a thirst for knowlegde on to my girls above all else.
All the best.
2007-08-22 01:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by nicelyevolve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
daily concentrate on her studies...
After coming from office sit with her n have
a chat about how she spent the day in the school n
wat abt her home works... Tell her how to improve her
knowledge in studies.Not only studies is important so try
her to focus on dance,music,meditation,computers etc...
It will make her to have fun in between the routine school
works... Take her somewhere to beach,park,movie,restarunt on weekends
so she may feel that her father really loves her n how much he
take care for her.. so surely she will start developing herself...
The sharing between u n ur daughter will be a good bridge for
ur relationship...
2007-08-20 07:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by sprite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a child with a single parent will definitely be denied the benefits of the missing parent. A remarriage, most the time, makes the situation worse. If you can afford, put her in a good boarding school. she will grow with other children. she will learn how to compete and stay ahead. meanwhile you can attend to your work. for sex, you can look for a partner, who is in your situation.
2007-08-20 07:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pal, do u know that God is not only a father but more so a mother to us in his love of and care for us. so u too shd have maternal devotion to ur daughter (whose age we dont know).
2007-08-21 01:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by jimmybond 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL SHARE ALL HER ACTIVITIES WHICH SHE HAS DONE IN THE DAY. ASK ABOUT THE STUDY ALSO WHICH SHE STUDIED IN THE CLASS. JUST SIT WITH HER AND REVISED THE THING.
2007-08-21 09:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend instead,rather than a dad,be her friend and understand her,talk to her,spend time with her..all the best!
2007-08-20 07:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by rose etoiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋