about my husband?he tells lie always to me?

Question

we married before 4 yrs(love marraige).i had very confidence on him,but he breaks my heart by doing affair with one girl.and when i came to know he never accept that but when i show him proof,then he said yes but i was just time pass not more than. for that also i forgive him ,then after that
he again chatting on net and dont want to give me password ,any how i ask with him then next day he change the password,again i ask and he gave me the password ,and he done same again ,it makes me hurt and thinks may be he is cheating to me .and for every thing he wants me to tell lie.

Answer 1

Contact a competent lady copmputer software engineer of cool mind & bring her to your house when husband is not there around & ask her to open his password protected e-mail ID. She can tell you his password too. After getting that keep silence for one month & open his e-mails to read in detail & download on separate CDs. Hide the CDs. Now discuss coolly about the same problem with that girl without telling what you have done , only telling some of those read stories you have downloaded & explain your trauma to her in such touching language that she breaks down & ask her if she was at your place what would have been her reaction & sensible approach. Do not threaten him . Ask him to promise that he will never cheat you further & still loves you as much as he used to do initially just after marriage. I know that in such situations a wife suffers more as our Indian tradition is responsible to a great extent. You have to save your marriage tactfully. Tell him to follow good religious principles & etiquettes for married couples. Pray God for early resolution of the problem. As a neutral man I can talk this much only. Good luck.

Answer 2

Dear Sister May be your name is saying that you are muslim:
First is yours lover marriage you know better about your husband. as per your message Your husband he loves you very much because he did not hide his password. after your asking several times he gave you the password. And he accept the mistake. If he is only chating on net I think no problem. Red handed you caught him by doing some thing with another girl. That is wrong:

many answers you have receive ; many people they are giving you advise for divorce. In Islam is very difficult to take divorce. If you have children don't think about divorce. If you are working woman 15% you can think for divorce. In Islam once you get divorce you cant return your husband unless you marry other person: Why not you give him some jerks take once a bold action : You ask him strictly this is not the way which you are lieng with me, and dont do some ellegal activitis with others girls. Explain him about Aids and some other deceases : Dont talk to him about few days what he will do let see how much he likes you.

If you are non Muslim ; No problem you can get the divorce and you can come back again to husband . better to keepquite few days and watch and see what will happened:

How ever once you think yourself In my openion he is living you very much: (may be he is doing like a time pass):

wish u all the best.

badar.

Answer 3

This must be heart breaking for you. Marriages are commitments we make to lead a life with fullfilment. But lets get to reality. you are in a situation where you found your husband in a relationship even though he was married to you. Let face the fact, it is a clear indication and evidence that he is seeking something out of marriage which he is surely not getting in your company. I am not blaming you at all. Looks like you love him a lot hence were willing to give him a good chance even though you found him guilty with another woman.
What he is doing is surely not the right thing to do, he wants his safety, security and stability with you, at the same time looking of some thrills outside of your relationship. This is clearly cheating. In being so there seems to be a loss in trust. Any relationship that has no turst is not worth it. Were there is not trust, there can not be a relationship. Think it over!
Now what is happening is you are constantly running behind him for pass words and he is constantly changing. How is it going to help you? You say he is chatting with someone. He has proved to you that he did have a relationship what more do you want to know? If a person has done it once it is not going to be difficult to do it for a second time. An honest person should not find it difficult to show his honesty,
On your part this is going to be difficult for you to develop trust on him. The question you now have to ask is do you want to be his mother or do you want a man to walk with you in life to share your happiness? How long do you want to stay in this situation, Are you happy now? Do you want to change your life? If yes how? If you want help in finding out more answers with your ongoing struggle you can email me.

Answer 4

What you have stated are facts. It is not clear as to what your question is. It is unfortunate that your husband is cheating on you. It is doubly unfortunate that you married him out of love and have put together 4 years of wedded life with him.
Apparently he has no reason to behave in the way he is doing. And he is not behaving normally either by changing passwords everyday. Such behaviour is an insult to your dignity as his wife.
I think that this cat and mouse game between you and your husband must stop. You must confront him and demand to know clearly whether he is going to stop his extra-marital affairs or not. If his reply is in the affirmative, tell him clearly that he is not going to have another chance. Be prepared to sever relations with him if his philandering continues.
About his online affair(s), I would suggest that you don't take it very seriously. Such affairs seldom materialise into serious relationships and could well be a "time pass", as he claims. But one thing is clear. Your husband is not satisfied with you alone. He is addicted to the company of multiple women. You could pay him back in his own coin by doing some harmless "time pass" of your own on the internet, should he show no sign of rectification.

Answer 5

Of course he is cheating on you.. That is so obvious. He will continue cheating on you if you continue letting him! You have to get the hell out the marriage, if he doesn't love you. Never mind how you feel. This is a two way street. If he doesn't love you, then he's going to disrespect you and play you for a fool. Well, you're his wife. If you tell him he has to leave, because you will no longer deal with his stupidity, his reaction will let you know how he really feels.

You have to be strong with your self respect, pride and dignity. Of course he's going to do whatever he wants, if you're letting him. Get some control. This is your life and if he wants to treat you like you're nothing, then get him out of your life! Payback for him will be a b i t c h.

Answer 6

I feel so bad for u. He a cheater and a liar. He doesnt deserve u or ur love. U should get urself out of this marriage as soon as possible. This is the onyl way out. If u forgive him, he will only take more advantage of u and continue to hurt ur feelings.
Good luck and be brave.

Answer 7

LOVE MARRIAGE!!??
You had a love marriage and this guy is doing this with you? Tell me how you loved him. What did you see in him? You love him...you forgave him for being with another woman. I feel bad for you dear. I think you should have picked your life partner more carefully. I am so sorry.
Check on him frequently. Try putting parental controls on his account. You can monitor what he does that way. Ask and tell him things that will make him a little jealous like:
"What would you do if you saw me with another guy?"
"That guy looks like you did before marriage. Sooo cuuute!" HEHE...
Do something special for him sometimes. Dress just for him one day. Call him at work one day and tell him that you love him. Go back to being like a girlfriend, maybe that's what he wants...

Answer 8

it won't be able to be authentic. enable's hit upon the attainable eventualities. A. you quite often tell lies. If that replaced into the case, this assertion could additionally ought to be a lie. That of course does not artwork, even inspite of the undeniable fact that for this reason it may be impossible the two way. B. You tell the fact lots of the time and tell lies lots of the time. in case you tell the fact sometimes, then this assertion which you quite often tell lies won't be able to be authentic. C. you quite often tell the fact. If that have been the case, this assertion would desire to no longer be authentic. it is likewise no longer attainable for this assertion to exist from you in case you quite often tell the fact, by using fact it can be a lie in itself.

Answer 9

,he's cheating for sure , u need to sit with him and talk about it quietly not like ur jugging him , maybe there 's something bothering him in the relation and he's not opening up so he's searching for outside reliefs , and then ,i think things should be clear for you , you'll know if he still loves u or not and if he is willing to make things right .you can also visit a marriage consultant .

Answer 10

U told that he is havin affair with a girl.. go n talk
to the girl n tell her not to disturb ur husband...
If she disturbs again warn her tat u will go to police
n take legal action on her tat she is disturbing
my husband....