I started having a crush on this lady who is going through a divorce. She has one daughter. Off and on she says she wants to try to work on her marriage. So I back off and then she comes strong saying how I have sexy eyes and we even went on a date. Then I tell her I like her and would like to be her man and she gets mad. Why would someone lead you on and then get mad when you want to do something about it?
She said she can't because of her current situation.. seems odd to me.
One week she wants me, the next week she wants me to go away. What is this woman thinking?
2007-08-20 02:41:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Menstrual cycles of hers ..
this is why she seems incoherent in her replies
2007-08-20 03:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I was actually in her shoes once....
Thing was, I barely knew who and what I was at the time. I knew I didn't want my husband and yet I was drawn to the promises we made and the fact that my daughter had feelings too. I didn't really know what I wanted and yet I wanted out... Confused? Yep that is how she feels too.
She is attracted to you and you allow her to escape her situation but until she has figured out what she must do and who she is, things will stay the same.
In my situation, the guy backed off, I only had my marriage to consider and when I decided the marriage was well and truly over, I left my husband and did so knowing whether I had someone to go to or I was on my own, I had to be free of the marriage. End of.
And in the end I left and divorced for ME and my daughter and our future happiness and not because there was anyone else. I found ME again.
By the way, I married the guy in the end that gave me space...and we have been married for 17 years now.
Good Luck and Take Care xxx
2007-08-20 02:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't pursue her. The more involved you become the more baggage you will be carrying, because she is already full of bags, she won't be able to help you with yours. When someone becomes involved with a person who is struggling with getting out of a marriage, not only do they end up dealing with the feelings of the person they fell for but the child, the ex husband, the families and friends. It can be and most times is a crazy mess. Take it from me, I married someone who has these bags and it has been the hardest thing I have ever had to do.
2007-08-20 02:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman is obviously very confused right now and going through a turbulent time in her life. You would be best advised to back off and not even think about any sort of relationship with this woman until her present situation is completely resolved.
2007-08-20 02:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by suspendedagain300 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a person goes through ALOT of weird emotions when going through a "divorce", if that is in fact true. She is confused and she doesn't know what or HOW to do anything. Divorce is a state of total confusion especially with a child. Back off and tell her that you want to wait until she KNOWS what she wants. Thats game playing. Best of luck.
2007-08-20 02:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by christy7801 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to work on her marriage, while holding on to you at the same time. If she can get back with her husband, she'll dump you. If the divorce goes through, she'll still have you in her life. She's playing games and you need to let her go, at least until she knows where she's going. If she gets divorced and you're still interested, you can start seeing her again. For now, save yourself some heartaches and let her go.
2007-08-20 02:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all have baggage and to say or think we don't is ridiculous thats what makes us who we are. now how we deal with that baggage is very important. this woman is in a stressful emotional situation. best advise be a friend and nothing more. you have to be the strong one right now and let her ( if you wish ) lean on you a little just to talk and don't take anything as a sign or signal...when and if she is ever ready she will let you know! if not you have prob made a lifetime friend?
2007-08-20 02:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not thinking, she's feeling. Ending a marriage is a really scary prospect and a very difficult decision. She probably really doesn't know what she wants. All she knows is you make her feel better about herself, when her world is crumbling. Perhaps you should just be her friend for a while until she works this out, rather than being "her man".
2007-08-20 02:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by nimat33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your feelings on hold -- it's not right to date a married woman. Yes, sorry but "going through divorce" = "still married". Either find a nice, available woman to date, or else put your life on hold until after this woman's divorce. For now, be just friends with her. Doing this will clear up all the confusion between you.
2007-08-20 02:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your best bet is to stay away from this woman until her divorce is finalized and she has had time to sort through her emotions. You must realize that she might not even get divorced. Stay away or you will very likely end up hurt.
2007-08-20 02:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by zero 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that she is on the rebound and doesn't know what she wants. My best advice to you is to go out, have a good time and don't wait to see what she wants to do. It is obvious that she is confused and the more you hang around, the better the chance that you will get hurt. Go on with you life and if she ever resolves her issues and really wants to be with you, she will come around.
2007-08-20 02:48:32 · answer #11 · answered by donanana 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋