I don't know what happened. I started hating sex more and more, but ignored these feelings at first. Now, I hate sex so much that I would rather go to the dentist and get a filling than have it. I force myself to do it to keep my husband from divorcing me, but I am almost at the point where I feel like crying when I have to. Sometimes I wish my husband could have a whore around to satisfy him. I know this is a horrible way to think, but I have no idea why it started and if it will ever end. Please give me some advice!!!
2007-08-20 11:21:30 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get divorced and start liking sex.
2007-08-20 13:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your general practitioner and tell them the problem and they will direct you to a counselor. It could be a simple resolve. Hormones or ? Maybe something from the past. Counselors are educated and can help you if this is the problem. I use to balk at the thought of seeking professional help but there is nothing wrong with it. Doe's your husband make you feel loved ? Do you love your husband ? Do some soul searching. Life is just to short to be so unhappy. Sex is natural and a human need like eating and breathing. You are young and its a great pleasure in this life . I personally feel better about sex as I get older. Good luck to you dear.
2007-08-20 18:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by margo322 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know it's funny, My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of years. I tell him the same thing all the time, in fact I read this to him over the phone and laughingly told him that was the way that I feel. What I will never tell him is the reason why I feel the way I do...I know why I feel the way I do. I am aware of the fact that I will not marry him and I will not be with him to the end, right now I am on a mission to stabilize myself to the point where I can leave him and be able to manage on my own. My advise to you is to loose the codependency and get yourself proactive to live without him. It will save you from being down on yourself all the time and feeling like S**T. And you will eventually find someone who will fill your desires on a constant basis.
2007-08-20 18:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Venus W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOOOOOO weird!
But since I hadmy first baby, a bit over a year ago, I am not into sex. I love my husband to death, and he tells me everyday how lucky he is and how much he loves me, but yet! that isn't enough for me to be into sex. We use to be freakin' rabbits going at it everyday! and ever since the baby came along, I have no sexual emotions in me. Of course, I get freaky withmy husband to please him, I don't want him to leave me, but I do sometimes feel like I need to see a doctor but I am sooooo afraid to. I don't want them to put me on pills or anything like that. But this is not just you. I've heard of this. Like I said, I am happily married, recently married too, and very very young, and I am already over sex... WHAT THE HELL! I tell ya, having a baby screws with your hormones.
2007-08-20 19:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by ShellBellzGee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely HATE sex, and you are mentally o.k. ( not depressed or bi-polar or something ) tell your husband what he already knows, that you HATE sex. He has probably wondered if he's been doing something wrong,,he can probably sense that you are not into it...Also tell him that he is free to find bar flies or one night stands, or professionals to satisfy his sexual urges with a variety of sexual acts.......Tell him you do not have a problem with him finding sex partners anywhere he can, tell him you want to stay married,(if you do) and that you love him (if you do), but you HATE sex,,,After the initial shock wears off, he might like the situation more than you think,,,,having sex with a woman who either is not into it or just a little into it is worse then not having sex at all...Good Luck !!!!!!!
2007-08-20 18:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should seek a sex therapist. yah, they're real. or ask yourself this, is it that you hate sex, period, or do you hate the idea of sex with your husband? or go to your gyne and have him/her draw blood and test your testosterone levels. if they are too low, you will have zero interest in sex. yes, us women have small amounts of testosterone in our bodies and its levels are very important in maintaining a healthy appetite for sex. but you need to do something cuz no interest in sex is not natural nor is it healthy for your marriage. sex is a wonderful beautiful thing between a man and his wife and its very sad that you feel this way. seek a counselor, see your doctor. are there underlying issues, like have you ever been sexually assaulted? get to the bottom of it and fast, or your husband is likely to go get a whore, and then what do you do? i doubt you really really mean that.
2007-08-20 18:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
go to the doctors and get hormone levels tested or just talk to your husband about it maybe he isnt doing something right but i hope it all works out for the best good luck
2007-08-20 18:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the exact same thing in my 30's. I didn't even want to be touched in any way. Then in my mid-40's, a complete turnaround. Truly, I think it is fluctations in the hormones.
2007-08-20 18:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have a mental disorder.. Or have been in a bad relationship or maybe youv'e lost alot of feelings for your man because of whatever problems you have..Eeeww, a whore around to satisfy him...Thats like not really a clear nor a good thought, were is your head? Why would you want that?
You don't love him if you don't care if hes with someone else...
2007-08-20 18:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
You need to go to the doctor and get your hormone levels tested. If your levels are normal, then talk with your doctor about other reasons your libido could be lagging.
2007-08-20 18:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋