is it normal for a women to have a stronger sex drive then her husband? because I do. and its not always about me being horny its more about me just needing the attention from him. Am I normal? if not how can i feel wanted and needed without being the first to start sex. I hate being the one that needs him i want him to need me. HELP~!!!
2007-08-20 10:50:01 · 19 answers · asked by its* just* me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You must develop interests beside your husband...and I don't mean an affair...Get your validation through your friends...Or do something for the sole purpose of yourself.Sex feels good but it can't repair your esteem or need for approval.Next time that you are in the mood...remain non reactive..Let your man seduce you...that in its self will bolster your esteem and his too.Cool down girl.
2007-08-20 11:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by Flynn 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
ur normal... relax take a deep breath, I am the same way... I too get all anxious about it and often ask my fiance if its normal... he was my first so I dont really know if its normal or just cause its almost kinda knew to me... lol
Some women just have really high sex drives, but because there is the stereotype that we dont, those who do begin to feel abnormal. There is nothing wrong with you, you need his attention, you need him to love you touch you tease you, nothing wrong with that and he should be all to willing to comply...
Maybe you need to talk to him though and tell him you need more from him... like you want him to be just as enthusiastic about it as you are. If you try different things and see what he likes, or invent games in which he gives you the attention you crave, maybe that will help a lot too. I know if my fiance didnt crave me the way I crave him, we would have a problem, and I would begin to question if something were wrong, or wrong with me or what... but you gotta relax and just try to talk to him and explain your needs. Dont be afraid to tell him you want him to be more aggressive, there is nothing wrong with that either...
I'll email, cause I think I may know exactly what it is, but cannot say it here.
2007-08-20 11:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens. Does your husband have a *very* low drive, or just lower than yours? Not all people are the same, so you're bound to have discrepancies. Maybe the way he expresses affection is different from your needs and expectations? My husband's sex drive is virtually non-existent, but we connect in other ways, and I don't feel like I'm lacking attention and affection from him; we speak the same language when it comes to giving and receiving attention, no complaints there. Sex is not the only way to feel close to someone.
2007-08-20 11:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
having a strong sex drive is okay, the question is understanding your husband work schedule. If he is a construction worker or any job requiring him to walk and carry stuff all day, his body is tired and need rest to surive the following 40 hour.
As for working in the office typing, only the brain is tired, but the body has energy, so maybe a change in job? Or just wait for the weeken
2007-08-20 11:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are normal and your husband better take full advantage of the opportunity to tag it every chance he gets.
I have a very strong sex drive (I'm a guy) but it's not unusual for women to really enjoy and want sex allot.
Some women get annoyed when we start asking for the daily dosage. He might be holding back because he thinks you are one of those types. Hell, I don't know, I'm a try and try again type of guy.
2007-08-20 10:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be careful not to confuse sex with love and positive attention. It sounds like you are trying to fill a void that will never be filled through sex. This is something more internal---it might be a hunger for approval. I would do something or accomplish something and that will build your self esteem. Do something that doesn't involve needing your husband---like friends or something. Good luck dear.
2007-08-20 14:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Wild Ape 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal.
There are a few things you need to rule out first. Has it been like this the entire relationship? (He may just have a low libido)
Is he under more stress? Has he put on weight? (Both can cause decreased sex drive)
When you do initiate it, is he receptive? (If so, he might not know how to initiate it or might have a fear of rejection)
Does he like snuggling but not sex?
I think you need to provide a little more background.
2007-08-20 11:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get on my knees every night and pray to the Lord Jesus and all those other people above that I find a woman like you someday.
You are few and far between and he has no idea how goddamned lucky he is.
The vast majority of married men spend most of their adult lives completely pissed off and frustrated that they are never, ever getting enough sex (which for most guys would be far less than women think).
2007-08-20 10:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is very normal. I understand the part of not being Horny, bc sometimes I just need it to feel that close bond that we share.
2007-08-20 10:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Chicka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a newlywed, this is all fine. Its alright to want attention and to feel loved. However, dear, give it some time and you will feel differently. The desire for the attention slowly withers down. However, to want to cuddle, be touched, and just simply loved, it shouldn't matter who starts it, so long and the response is mutual and loving.
2007-08-20 10:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by stormey_84074 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋