Ok, I want to get a consensus on what is judging. If someone tells me, "Oh, I rob liquer stores every night, that's why I don't work." Am I supposed to sit back and think, "Oh, he is an ok person! Never mind that he steals and cheats!" Stealing is against the law. Since we all know that, I would be judging someone who steals as NOT GOOD?
Why do people keep saying DON'T JUDGE ME, when they give you the info right there??
2007-08-20 12:37:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, this also goes for someone saying, "I have slept around on my wife alot. She doesn't know.... What do you think?" Is this a good thing?? NO matter who it is, is it ok to sleep around when you are married?
2007-08-20 12:39:24 · update #1
The main trick to not being judgmental isn't so much in not forming thoughts (which we all do based on our concepts of good common sense) but in not verbalizing every thought that comes to mind when others are confessing or having an epiphany (as if we were somehow superior to them for not being in their particular dilemma at that moment). It's an urge that should be resisted because it robs them of the moment when "the light suddenly goes on" (they see the error of their ways)...if we interrupt them with morally superior attitude, they instead get defensive and their moment of clarity is delayed. In other words, you're not making the situation any better and in some ways are making it worse when you get up on a high horse.
2007-08-20 12:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the poster above said, the people who ask you not to judge them now perfectly well what you have to say is bad. They know this, and yet they don't want to know it, so they make up a series of excuses, such as "I rob liquor stores every night, but they have a lot of money, so they won't feel the loss very much" or "I sleep around on my wife a lot, but she is not the same person, and she only gives me sex once a month, so having human needs, I have to go out and get some". These are filthy excuses people make up to shut up their conscience.
2007-08-20 19:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is actually nothing wrong with judging. That's what we're given a brain and a conscience for. However, the old "judge not, lest ye be judged" actually goes, "judge not, lest ye be judged BY THE SAME STANDARDS by which you judge others." It just means to me, that judge all you want, but be careful, because the same standards will be applied to you.
I agree with the sentiment already expressed that basically said, that even when it is o.k. to judge, it doesn't mean you must express those judgements out loud.
2007-08-20 19:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Heather K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say "don't judge me" when they know the judgement will be negative. No matter what anyone says, we all jusdge each other all the time. I would consider both of the people in your examples as no good, and I wouldn't want anything to do with either of them.
2007-08-20 19:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
all people who say "don't judge me" are saying that defensively because they know they are bad people. if you'll notice a lot of that type of people will also say "god forgives me so you have to also". people like that are worthless, their values are just the opposite of a 'good person'. another example of this mentality is how liars 'regret ever telling the truth', and when good people lie they regret ever telling a lie. bad people just have a complete value system opposite of good people, regardless of what they say, promise, swear, or even let you see them doing.
2007-08-20 19:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol...I see your point. When people tell you things about them that you would not do yourself like cheat,steal,beat woman it is hard to say they are good people.
2007-08-20 19:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋