How do you know when the times right? Is there ever a 'right' time?
2007-08-20 10:08:53 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Me and my husband got married when we had been together 2 1/2 years. I think you just know when the time is right
2007-08-20 10:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends....on the situation. Many serious couples wait until after college to get married, some wait until they get established financially. Some folks get married after a short time like 3-6 mos and then reality hits, all the sudden things that didnt bother you in the "infatuation" phase all the sudden sends you up a wall. My point being....you should aleast be together I think a yr or so....you need to let the infatuation phase pass and then see, if you do really still want to be with the person.
Maturity is another thing too....when you make a commitment like marriage...it is thru the good times and the bad and you have to be able to see that and not just be willing to quit just because you are in the middle of a bad time.
Another thing is to talk to each other and find out if the both of you are on the same page....if you have similiar goals in life...these are the things that keep you connected, I think. That way you are not just getting caught up in the fantasy of marriage rather than the reality. The reality is that you have to work at it even when things arent warm and fuzzy.
2007-08-20 10:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Terri S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you ever really know when it is a right time. I have been married twice and the first time we were togather 3 years and got married -marriage lasted 3 months, this time we were togather 4 years before we got married.. No matter how long you wait etc.. there are no guarantees - i think you just know when it feels right
2007-08-20 10:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by luckygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just know when the time is right. Something tells you that you can't imagine your life without that person, that you can imagine yourself growing old with that person.
We were together 6 years before we married, but we had a child after 1 year. Depend on the people. I don't think there is a specific time period - its individual to the couple - you will just both know!!
2007-08-20 13:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mumma wolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i used to think that you should be with someone for years before you get engaged and get married... but, when the person is the right one, you will know. My fiance and I got engaged after only 8 months together and i knew he was the one after only 3. When the time is right... you will know it... if you have to ask the question...the time is not right for you.
2007-08-23 05:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by ktorres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only dated my husband for three months before we got engaged. Six months later, we were married. We were meant for each other, and we both knew it.
As long as you love the person, anytime is the 'right' time. Just be sure to make the moment special when the time comes.
Good luck to you, and I wish you the best of happiness in all of your future romances.
2007-08-20 10:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
About a year seems right to me. It's different for everyone - for some, the "right" time never comes, and it's ok, too. Not everyone has to be married.
I know the time is right when I feel comfortable with the person, and can actually imagine living with them for a long time to come.
2007-08-20 10:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right time is when you are sure that you have done all that you wanted to do as a single person. Also you have to make sure that you are happy being by yourself first, you can't be happy with someone else if you can't first be happy with yourself. I say that because people are not perfect and when you marry you will have days where you will have to entertain yourself when he doesn't or is no longer willing to.
2007-08-20 10:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by Survivor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too quick and not too long - it depends on how old you are. But in general, if you are under 25 you should wait 18 months. If you are over that then 9 months to a year. Its a question of knowing your own mind. If you have any doubts, then you shouldn't do it.
2007-08-20 11:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its already been said - but - your heart will tell you!!
I knew my husband 3 months when we moved in together - we got married shortly after that - next May will be our twentieth anniversary!! - I'm delighted and very proud to have made it this far - intend to keep going for a long time to come!!!
Follow your heart!!!!!
Good Luck - Good Life!!!!!
2007-08-20 14:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋