2007-08-20 11:08:59 · 22 answers · asked by mati 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should add there is no abuse involved, just a lot of fighting and different directions in life. Lost trust due to my getting too close to other men, not having an affair though, and lack of sexual interest on my part.
2007-08-20 11:17:17 · update #1
I have been seperated from my husband for almost a year...pending divorce. I am 100% happier without him in my life than I ever was in the 8 years we were together. There was no abuse in my marriage but it seemed on his part to be more of a marriage of convenience than anything else. The wedding vows mean more to some people than to others and when you get in a situation like that, you have to get out and find happiness somewhere else. Sometimes the grass is greener on the other side.
2007-08-20 11:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can. We were living a lie. My ex would go out all the time and get drunk. He was not abusive, but he is an angry man. We always fought because he was never honest with me about his lifestyle.
When my divorce was final, It was like a huge relief. I could finally live my life for myself. I did not lay awake at nights wondering when or if he would safely make it home. I don't spend my time consumed with whether or not he is lying to me.
I was really happy that it was over right away. The stress was all gone- I think that is why.
I waited about 6 months to date again though.
I do miss being married. When times were good, I enjoyed being married. I liked having someone there and someone to cuddle with. One day I will get married again- it will be to the right guy this time.
I have been divorced almost three years.
2007-08-20 18:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not divorced, but I think I want to be. I know i'm not happy like this, and not sure I'd be happy without him either. I bet anyone who is recently divorced isnt truely happy. A divorce is a closed chapter in ones life. Closed to all the dreams that you shared, its a death of a marriage and we all grieve death. Time heals all wounds, and with time, you will be able to move on and find true happiness again. Just remember to find happiness within yourself first, before allowing a man to make you happy. You have to want to be happy and not expect someone to make your happiness for you.
2007-08-20 18:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this depend on who need who to surive, some female quit their job and become a full house wife after having a kid. Here they require the man to make all the money, so the guy can say and do less in the house.
The lady here that just want to leave may need more help that those that have their own job and can get out in a day or two.
2007-08-20 18:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happy not being with my ex. He cheated on me and was always putting me down. Nothing I ever did was good enough. Also he would take off with his friends for days on end at the time we had been forced to stay with HIS parents. So I would be sitting there waiting for him to come back. He never let me get my license I wasn't allowed to have a job I was told to stay home and take care of our two little boys. We were lucky if we had money for food when we got our own place. He wouldn't even take us to the store he would drop money off and I had to take the boys and a stroller down two flights of stairs get the food and carry it all back up again while carrying my eleven month old son. So yes I am sooo happy to be away from him.
2007-08-20 18:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't my decision to divorce - it was his. I was happy being married, but once I have accepted the change in circumstances and moved on, I found I could be happy without him. Eventually, I met and married someone else, and I can truthfully say that in this stage of my life this person suits me much better.
2007-08-20 18:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I definitely am. If your question is more directed at whether we are better off ALONE than with our exes, then you may not get as many yes's. I am truly happy alone without any of my three (yes that's 3) ex husbands.
2007-08-20 18:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by Linda K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can say I am happier, I spent 17 years of my married life crying myself to sleep...I haven't cried in almost 10 years since leaving him.
2007-08-20 23:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh heck yeah. Much happier. Some marriages are a mistake.
2007-08-20 18:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by zero 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my case, I am deliriously happy with my ex out of the picture, as are most of my friends. Heck, just having him removed from the property was pure heaven!
2007-08-20 18:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by that judi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋