Marriage & Divorce - 21 June 2007

My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years. We have had two children during this time. I don't feel that we communicate very well. He is very negative when it comes to my ideals, thoughts, wants and needs. Financially he is a good provider. But on an emotional level he sucks. I am always wondering has he stayed with me just for the children or because he loves me. My personality is more aggressive he is very passive. His family has always been neg. from the beginning. However he has stayed. But is it for the children? If he loved me wouldn't I feel more content? I only receive support or attention after I complain. Everything is always about him and his career. Which I have been here taking care of everything at home so he can excel at work. Am I being selfish? I would like more appreciation and attention from him. Is it just not there? He always seems to have more appreciation for a stranger on the street. Not the one that loves him the most.

2007-06-21 03:45:15 · 15 answers · asked by Lue R 3

My friend's ex is has just filed a petition for sole custody of their 10yr old son. My friend is presently attending nursing school. She had been a full-time mother while married. Her ex has had three jobs since the divorce. He does not stay at one job for very long.

2007-06-21 03:43:01 · 7 answers · asked by d j 1

are you that pathetic you need to keep screwing up your life and kids life even more? If you fail at it once, ok...but twice or 3 times? you should NEVER get married again.

2007-06-21 03:40:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I honestly dont understand howsomeone who cheats on the partner they love and can say they do love them and didnt mean to hurt them, i mean did they not think this would hurt them and if they loved them why would they sleep with someone else, and i dont understand why their partners would take them back, any cheaters out there can explain this and make me understand or partners can share their side as to why they forgave them.

2007-06-21 03:33:36 · 17 answers · asked by smitters06 4

2007-06-21 03:27:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

The vows, "in sickness and in health, til death do us part" don't seem to hold the same weight as they once did (i.e. even Newt Gingrich served his wife divorce papers while she was in a hospital bed recovering from cancer). The only out clause seems to be "til death do us part" but it doesn't seem like people wait that long anymore. So why get married when no one really honors the vows anymore? And when did people stop honoring them (i.e. pick self-interest over honor)?

2007-06-21 03:22:07 · 14 answers · asked by trer 3

If a married woman says she wants just a girls night out at a club, is that all right?

2007-06-21 03:21:44 · 26 answers · asked by pacman vick 1

you've done everything you can, everything that was asked, and they let you crash & fall?
what do you do then?

2007-06-21 03:14:07 · 16 answers · asked by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7

Does a spouse have a right to go elsewhere if s3xual needs are not met in a marriage? It seems that a lot of people have no qualms about having multiple affairs while married...Since it's so common, I would think that most married people believe that it's absolutely OK to do so?????

2007-06-21 03:07:11 · 15 answers · asked by dantiuspalaptine 3

Because it's worth it.

2007-06-21 02:49:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-21 02:43:32 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

My cousin(female) who I care about is getting married today. At first I was glad about it. The guy is my roommate and he is in the Air Force, so I know he will be able to support her financially. However sometimes I get upset about the way he treats her. He treats her like a maid sometimes. He tells her to do everything while he watches TV. I believe that he loves her, but I can't help but feel like I need to say something to them, but I don't think it would be good of me. Any advice?

2007-06-21 02:32:52 · 13 answers · asked by Thomas R 2

I have been trying to plan a surprise 40th for my hubby. The first banquet place sent paperwork to our home(i told them not to), he opened it. So i tried to plan a reunion with his college buddies that he hasn't seen from 1986. He would love that. Well i forgot to exit out of my email BEFORE i shut the laptop and he opened it...and once again discovered my plans. I was so upset, that i left the room to cool down. He came in to tell me he only saw the first few lines(i know thats BS)and that he really loved that i was doing that. That even if its not a surprise its still awesome. So i asked him who he'd like to see and he names an ex-girlfriend first. He says she is married now and i could invite her hubby. he says they were best buds. Thats all he wanted to see her for, that i believe, but he was insistent that i should ask her, she was on his top 5 of whom he'd like to see. I really don't want to host a get together/reunion with an ex-girlfriend..am i overeacting? its bugging me!

2007-06-21 02:28:34 · 29 answers · asked by imaschroeder 2

My sister and her husband have been married for 8 years. They are very happy and very much in love. They have 3 beautiful healthy children and a very good relationship. Last night when I went over to visit my mother, she confided in me that my sister's husband is actually her long lost father.
She told me that he felt so bad about not being in her life as a child, that he wanted to make up for all of the years that he lost out on. So he looked her up, fell in love with her and married her.
My mother has been hiding this secret all of this time. She felt like it was the right thing to do because my sister seemed so happy with him and he promised never to leave her again. Now the guilt is eating away at my mother. I don't know if I should tell my sister this news. She loves her husband/father very much and this would be a devistating blow to their relationship. Should I tell my sister that her husband is really her father??

2007-06-21 02:23:08 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

how do you get to start trusting your spouse after they cheated on you.how do you get past this and move on with life and start over gain with them.How do you start trusting them again

2007-06-21 02:22:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i posted a question yesterday about my son being on drugs what i forgot to mention was he is 25yearsold and has three kids.

2007-06-21 02:21:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My birthday is 7/5 and coming up soon and my wife wants to do something special for me. On July 4th, my parents want to take me to lunch because they know I'll be busy with the wife on the 5th. My wife is not happy with this because she would rather us be by out by the lake or by the river, doing something relaxing. She was so upset that she said she's gonna make plans with her friends to go to the lake or river while I go to lunch with my parents for my birthday, she also thinks July 5th should be the only day to celebrate it. I'd like to get everyone's opinion on this. Am I being selfish or is she being selfish?

2007-06-21 02:17:12 · 22 answers · asked by Michael S 1

My bf and I are together for seven years. He recently asked me to marry him but I am not certain if I should. He recently quit his private practice and joined a large corporation in order as he explained, we both can benefit from it. He failed to discuss anything with me about this merge ( I assume because I was skeptical about giving up his own business) including a three day trip with the new partners where spouses/girlfriends/boyfriends were not invited. After he joined and signed all the contract documents he was telling me that he did this for my benefit. But how could I benefit if we are not legally married??? What bothers me is, he ask me to get married after everything was done and the decision was made already, by himself ONLY. He also avoided to talk about any topic I wanted to talk about, and he does so until today. If I bring up something what bothers me, he ignores my question and instead of giving me an explanation he starts to talk about something else. It makes me angry and frustrated and I would say things I really don’t mean but he drives me with his ignorance and lack of communication to the edge.
I have worked very hard for this relationship to work, we had a lots of downs in the beginning because of his need to flirt everywhere he went. His previous marriage and relationships broke because of infidelity of both part and LACK OF COMMUNICATION. But he really changed in that aspect of infidelity. We love each other and I can’t imagine my life without him, but I don’t want to live in a relationship either where my need of communicating issues are being ignored.
Id rather us both be happy separate than miserable together I love him very much and wish we could get past this but I don't think that’s a realistic expectation. If anyone has any advice of any kind it would be appreciated. Thanks and have a great day!

2007-06-21 02:12:42 · 10 answers · asked by SU 1

My best friend and I have the same problem. Both of our husbands want sex all the time. If they get it once a day they want it twice. If they get it three times an a day a forth time would be great. We've both been maried for years. Sex has always been frequent but nothing like this. We both has surgeries so that we could not have any more children. Could that be the difference and is this normal?

2007-06-21 02:02:01 · 22 answers · asked by reggieg 4

What would you do if you despised your husbands touch after something he did but feel so bad for him right now cause he is injured and can't take care of himself so you take care of him in all ways and would like your marriage to work but you know, like really know you despise him and he refuses to go to counceling with you. To top it off you have come to realize you have strong feelings for someone else someone who would treat you right, would you still try to stay in your marriage like i'm trying too. I just would rather have my marriage work but he is just making me so depressed.

2007-06-21 01:59:00 · 22 answers · asked by bluenile 2

If you were on your deathbed, and married, but you had been having an affair with someone else for some time, would you tell your husband/wife before you died? Or take the chance of them finding out after you've passed?

2007-06-21 01:52:26 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

A friend of mine was married for 8 years and has 2 children. He has now been divorced from his wife for about 2 years. She has custody, but he sees the kids one night a week and has them every other weekend. He lives in a one room apartment, it's not like he's living large. He was ordered to pay 250$/month child support, he wanted that amount just attached to his wages. However, the 250 was more than the 55% limit that they can take directly from his wages. Well, now his ex-wife is taking him to court for the difference between the 55% and the 250$. He doesn't have this money. He barely has enough money to feed himself, but his lawyer is telling him that there's nothing he can do and he will be going to jail. Anyone have any advice?

2007-06-21 01:51:02 · 16 answers · asked by NikkiLyco 1

how can i find out if my wife is cheating on me

2007-06-21 01:45:29 · 45 answers · asked by robert251694 1

My husband and i are separating. We do love each other but i don't think that enough. He puts his mother and father, ex-wife and 3 kids, his brothers and his mates in front of me and our 2 year old daughter all the time. I take care of everything he needs (money, kids, and everything). i never get any help from his emotionally or finacially. he thinks giving me another baby is giving me what i want. i don't know if this is worth fighting for, as he doesn't seem to want to fight for our marriage either. I recently started working to make things better, now they just have gotten worse. i don't know what to do. M

2007-06-21 01:40:18 · 6 answers · asked by Melissa O 1

We, my husband and I, do not. We can give opinions to eachother, but ultimately if either of us wanted to dye our skin purple and go naked, we have that no matter what the opinion of the other is. You've got to let your partner be his or herself in the marriage! Agree or disagree?

2007-06-21 01:38:32 · 24 answers · asked by qwertatious 4

My guy has this friend (Female). I do trust her and I do trust him but how do I solve a situation like this.

Last night my guy and I were spending our time together and his friend called. She called a few times cause this guy was at her house I guess her brother left him there.. Anyway, after a few hours of calls going back and fourth she called again and he ended up going to see her at about 2:30am telling me he would be back in 15-20 mins. At 3:45am he comes home and obviously I am not happy... He gets mad at me for getting mad at him and we get into a fight. Do you think I had a right to get mad? No he didn't call and he didn't come back home to tell me he was going to be there for a little bit. She only lives 5 mins away.

2007-06-21 01:31:39 · 16 answers · asked by movu101779 3

Hi! I want to do something special to turn my hisband on. I want to make him real hot if you know what i mean!?! What can I do to innitiate and turn him on? Tie him up, dress sexy?!?! Come on - be creative!

2007-06-21 01:16:56 · 25 answers · asked by girlygirl 4

Example- My other half and I work seperate shifts, to save money on childcare costs. I never get to see him because when I get off, he's at work and when he comes home, I'm usually asleep. I happened to be up last night when he got home because he came home early. I said..... "oh hi, you're here. We can watch some tv together before I go to sleep". He says... "I like to play my game (referring to a video game) as early as possible. I would rather play my game." My feelings were hurt pretty good because he comes home after work and plays almost every night and he also plays during the day when my child is napping. Bottom line, he gets his time to play. Much more than the amount of time we actually get together during the week. I'm pretty sure I'll have a bad day cause I woke up sad. I'm a good girl and deserve at least 20 minutes of attention once in a while. Not sure what it'll take to make him realize but that sort of thing is heartbreaking.

2007-06-21 00:58:22 · 16 answers · asked by quintons_mommy2004 3

to his ex and there is a possibility that I am pregnant (1 week late). Can he go to the courts and stop paying his ex, or does he have to wait until the baby is born? I know a child is one thing that will stop one from having to pay alimony, along with marriage, ect... (and no this pregnancy was not planned as a way for him to stop paying.) but I am not sure if he can go to the courts with the baby still in the womb, or if he has to wait for the birth as proof.

2007-06-21 00:48:46 · 10 answers · asked by bar_merch 2

My fiance is not getting over with his ex-fiance. I know everything about them coz he's open w/ me about his past relationships. But, I am worrying that they might see each other someday and my fiance may choose her other than me... I might being paranoid but this is what I am feeling may be until our wedding comes...
I also think that he would not be happy w/ our marriage if he still loves her ex very much.When I ask or talk about that thing, he doesn't wanna talk about it...

2007-06-21 00:09:02 · 24 answers · asked by Zehlea 1