How much is too much?

Question

My best friend and I have the same problem. Both of our husbands want sex all the time. If they get it once a day they want it twice. If they get it three times an a day a forth time would be great. We've both been maried for years. Sex has always been frequent but nothing like this. We both has surgeries so that we could not have any more children. Could that be the difference and is this normal?

I still love sex but I am really just tired. My libido is probably better than it was ten years ago. It is just strange when your hasband runs out of the bathroom naked and says "Come and get it Momma." When I am cooking he is rubbing his crotch on me(trhough clothes of course and no children around). I feel like I am being hunched on all of the time. I am not complaining I just wonder if other prople have this issue. My husband is loads of fun but man I AM TIRED!

Answer 1

I'm going to tell you a love story; it's about my parents. They were married 50 years before my dad became suddenly ill and died. Up until his illness, they made love at LEAST once a day, and these two were in their seventies!

How do I know this? Well, I sure didn't ever see them at it, but my mom and dad were always open and honest about sex and answered all of my questions truthfully. They called lovemaking "the glue" in their relationship; no matter what else had gone on during the day, all the stresses got put aside for time to just concentrate on each other and enjoy the peace that followed. I've carried that advice with me throughout my life and it has served me well.

So, my question to you is: are you making love or having sex? Lovemaking never leaves you tired. In fact, it is the best sleep aid I can think of! AND you get bonus points for not having to worry about pregnancy!! Relax and enjoy, sister, as often as you can. Be happy that your man desires you and live life to the fullest. Life is full of surprises and slips by all too quickly. My mom will back me up on this one.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I think MY guy might like a little company in the shower!

Answer 2

I agree that the surgery has a big part in why they are acting like this. They know now that you cannot get pregnant so that outcome is just pure pleasure. I feel that you should tell your husband that you are not a sex slave and that there is a limit. If you were in the mood and he wasn;t you would not get any so the same goes for him. It is only fair. If you are not in the mood just tell him. He loves you and will respect your feelings. If not then there is something else that needs to be addressed. Good Luck!

Answer 3

The only way to combat this behavior is to give them more sex than they can handle. Not just once or twice, but continuously. Eventually, they will feel confident that their women want sex all the time, so they can relax. They will probably get to the point where they only want it once or twice a week. Just keep giving it up while you still can. One day you will be too old and wishing you had more sex in your younger years.

Answer 4

I havent had the surgery but my husband is the same way. He wants sex all the time. If you aren't in the mood, you do need to tell him. I explain to my husband about 3 hours before we go to bed that I am exhausted from work, the house and kids, and that i would just like to go to sleep. He still tries, but when he is met with me not moving he gives up. Good luck

Answer 5

I consider you to be lucky, actually.

Usually after a relationship has gone on for awhile, people lose interest in each other.

If you and your hubby are still making love at least once a day, that's great.

But if he is f*cking you (not making love to you) like 4 times a day, then he is using you because of some stupid fantasy he is having, and maybe you need to have a talk with him and tell him that more than twice a day is too much. And ask him why he wants it so much? Is it because he REALLY wants to make love? Or because he is using for some stupid fantasy?

Indulging in fantasy is great to a certain extent, but we can't lay in bed all day, we must get up and get the house-work done and go to work. lol

Cheers

Answer 6

Could be....My ex-wife lost all her desire for sex after she had her second child and the surgery. It went from everyday sex to once every 20 days.
I put up with it for 7 years, I even went to the doctor to ask for some kind of medication that will take my desire for sex away. The doctor said: tell your wife to come here!
She never went...That is why she is now my EX-wife.
How much is too much? It depends on the guy. For most is once a day.
Men (whos wives lack on sex desire) can understand and wait for a while, until they feel like they are demanding something that really annoys their wives and decide to walk away.
Don't let that happen to you.

Answer 7

I'll let you in on a secret that women never get or fully understand. we have advanced in evolution so far that we forget that we are animals, mammals to be exact. in all natural beings there is a built in program installed in our brains, think of it like a computer program, and these are read only files that can not be overwritten. the male species has is programmed to procreate, with any and all of the opposite sex it can, this is necessary for survival of the species, without this program we would not be here. it is also why we have an over abundance of sperm and are able to produce it well into our 90's. women are programmed to nurture, any and everything. this is essential for survival and without it we would not be here either. women ensure the growth and health of the offspring. men can control the urge to procreate with alot of females staying true to the one he loves with the right balance of sex from her, once she starts saying no more and more, he's going elsewhere. i'm sure you have heard stories of men who have cheated and say "it meant nothing" which is 100% true, it was primal instinct and means nothing. or women who stay with a man who cheats or beats her because it is primal instinct to nurture him because they see it as HE is "sick" and needs to be nurtured back to "health" sounds strange but this is nature, and most of us have forgotten we are natural beings that lead unnatural lives. Look at the other answers carefully, they all reflect just what I said. The woman who wishes she is in your shoes and isn't getting enough probably has a cheating husband, (i'd bet on it) star question, best answer?

Answer 8

Whats the matter that you man wants you all the time? You should feel honored at the fact that he is not going anywhere else to have sex. There alot of women who are single and dont have anyone that would have sex with them. Feel grateful and luck, cause one day it could all be gone just like that. Go Girl, and Give It To Your Man!!!

Answer 9

Surgeries are not the problem, maybe you are having a lot of stress or you are so worried about this that you are blocking your energy to enjoy this moments.

Sex with your husband must be something that you enjoy and that you really like to have, it is a moment to be "together".
Talk to him, communication is one of the most important parts of a relationship, but I think your problem is associated with something mental or maybe hormonal, talk to your husband and then if the problems continues maybe you should go to see a doctor.

Hope this help
Bye

Answer 10

men just don't get it!!! we have a kid tugging on us all day long with all the other responsibilities we are overwhelmed. and sometimes we just don't want to be touched, it is not that we don't like sex, it is that we don't Need it all the time there are nights that all I want is peace and quiet! and not have to do something else for someone else Sometimes I tell him OK there is a commercial on get it done before my show starts! lol I figure he has had enough sex in the past 30 years that he should have reserve! LOL! before I use to hate my period (like most young people) now I see it as my week off! then he gets mad at me because he thinks I can control it! he actually knows when I should start and quit, now you tell me that isn't a guy who want too much! I once made the comment that the world doesn't revolve around his___! he said his does! he got me there!