Marriage & Divorce - 17 June 2007

married 3 years. together for 6. Husband and I havent slept together in over a year. We have 1 child together and 1from his first marriage and 2 from my 1st marriage. He is mentally abusive to me and my kids, and is starting on our youngest who is only 5. Anyway, I finally put my foot down and told him to get out. He is still here. He says legally I cant put him out. I am tired of this marriage, I want my kids and I to be happy again. I have no family or friends here for support. I can do it alone I guess. I am currently disabled and cannot work at this time. I am a full time mom and part time student. My house is falling apart, and I am unable to get a loan. Any advice or suggestions would be greatful! thanks so much

2007-06-17 23:38:51 · 9 answers · asked by kim d 2

If you live with your sister who does not get along with your newly wed wife, who would you keep if you had to get rid of one of them to have peace in your home. Wife or sister?

2007-06-17 23:17:40 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

As I mentioned I am going through a very ugly divorce from my estranged and abusive husband and the last thing I was anticipating was to start seeing someone. But he makes me happy and he makes me laugh and he loves the most trivial things about me: my smile and my laughter, my sense of humor and my sarcasm, my openness and my compassion. My honesty. And does not care about my mistakes in the past. Why? He is a great guy with a fantastic personality and a great job. And here I come with all my problems and worries and all he says is - ah, do not worry, we shall work it out, you are very special, what would you like me to make for dinner? Am I just lucky or have I simply forgotten what it is to be and feel special and be loved regardless of what mistakes you might have made?

2007-06-17 22:04:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been together 15 years and she said she used to have orgasms when we were younger, but now last 7 years they are more like mini-orgasms 3 kids later too. We have bought a rabbit, silver bullet, 3 %ildos of varying sizes, used them together and nothing....no big O. She doesn't even like the vibrators which I thought was going to be the lotto winner. She likes using her fingers during intercourse but still mini-orgasms. I'm more frustrated then her it seems..... she never brings it up. We still have sex frequently and she intiates and like many women says everything feels great the one thing I have noticed that alot of women post here is she says she gets super close "mini-orgasm" and can't let go she can't let it go further. That's girl talk to a man. She doesn't masturbate with any regularity says it feels different if I'm not there. Is the next step the doctor or should I just not worry about it because she doesn't seem to be? I just want that big O must be a guy thing

2007-06-17 21:53:08 · 10 answers · asked by Lovemykids 1

You always hear people say, try and make your marriage work. But if you have married a woman for wrong reasons and even been stupid enough to have a baby together, does it make sense to try and make such a marriage work? If yes, then when have you tried enough?

2007-06-17 21:50:49 · 40 answers · asked by Ajay t 1

I do not like the way he treats me?
NO he's not physically abusive! (He's very negative & pessimistic.)
However he treats me as if I am stupid. (I'M NOT!)
If I ask a question he thinks is obvious, he just tells me to look it up. When he wants me to see something on tv or the computer (or ?), I have to stop everything & go see right away, but when I want to share something it's always "quit bothering me"!
It seems it's only me he treats this way!
Don't get me wrong, he does have great qualities! & We do have commonalities. Otherwise I wouldn't still be married to him.
He has high blood pressure & so I try not to "rock the boat". But it really is bringing me down!
What do I do?
Oh, I can tell he could be clinically depressed, but if I were to mention it, he'd tell me to... well I won't repeat it.
What can I do to help him? (& help our marriage in the process!)
I know we can make it 'til we die, if we can minimize the stress!
Pls, no smart alec replies. I am being serious.

2007-06-17 21:46:09 · 16 answers · asked by Lady Harley99 4

If there is mutual consent is there possibility of getting divorce soon even if it is so how many months will it take. 4 yrsof marriage have been completed. Harrassment by husband / physical abuse, can be the reasons for getting divorce soon. What is meant by family court. Can this be dealt in the family court. Maximum how many months it will take.

2007-06-17 21:36:34 · 13 answers · asked by janu 1

On saturday night my hubby when out for dinner at his friends house 2 see football (Like he normally does when they is football). He is very shy when talking to girls & he don't like 2 go 2 nightclubs or drink. so i when to sleep early cause he'll b coming home late. Around 1am my mom call 2 ask why he always go out & come back late. She ask many ??? like "is he really going 2 see football or 2 see other girls". She think that since we don't have kids yet. she ask 2 many time like this ? that i really don't like it & get headach & couldn't sleep well again. I trust him fully & i even told her that if he really do have girl outside then i also can have men outside. And 2day morning i.e. monday she tells me that when she call me yesterday 2 talk 2 me my hubby pick up the phone & he said "I shall call it ... it is upstairs" now should i believe her words!! I don't like third person to break us up..my mom don't trust people that much... even though they r telling the true.

2007-06-17 21:03:29 · 4 answers · asked by love_rescue 2

10 days back i had a fight with my husband over two sms from a person from a investment firm who had writen in simple language that he was sorry to disrtub his one of most cooperative client and in the next sms he worte rahaam from gurgaon as i told him that i was in gurgaon and i have the form there .my husband got enraged on this that by these two sms it means that i have relation with this man .he was not ready to listen to anything .he was leaving far from us from last six months due to his professional commitments .he left the house .he had hit me on my head and i was bleeding even then he left .he has not sent any money till yet .not called up to inquire for his daughter also.his parents are away in cnada will be back in august .wat should i do .i cant leave him becoz of my daughter moreover i love him .i dont want to call him as if he doesnt pick up my call it will be unbearable for me.without divorce can i seek maintance for my daughter upbringing?plz advice hope u undstnd .

2007-06-17 20:21:11 · 16 answers · asked by DIVYA N 1

This is business math. Please help and explain a little. I cant seem to get the equasion.

1) rusty reft who lives in territory 5, carried 10/20/5 compulsory liability insurance along with optional collision that has a $300 deductible. rust was at fault in an accident that caused $3600 damage to the other car and $900 damage to his own. Also, the couts awarded $15,000 and $7000, respecitively, to the other 2 passengers in the other car for personal injuries.

How much will the insurance company pay?

and what is rusty's share of the responsibility?

2007-06-17 19:59:41 · 3 answers · asked by mistista07 6

they fight about drinking and going out. they both love eachother, but don't know if after 6 years things will ever get better or not. they don't resolve their fights because he will never apologize and admit when he's wrong, so she gets upset. for instance, he'll go out and tell her he'll be home "early" then he'll come home at 2:45 am and doesn't see why he's done anything wrong. he can never admit to being wrong....what should she do at this point? he also owns the house they live in, and has kicked her out a couple of times and she has to pack herself and the kids up until he says she can come back. i know when they aren't fighting, they get along really good and have the same values. how do they just learn responsibility for their actions and reslove and move the fight on? i really want to help her, not sure what will...need a PSYCHIATRIST to answer this one!!

2007-06-17 19:43:02 · 9 answers · asked by kstarryeyed 1

I am going through a divorce and custody battle and am absolutely baffled and sickened by the whole mess. My husband walked out on me and our three children two years ago. We were evicted from our house becuase he would not pay child support. He was a raging drug addict and alcoholic and then he got his grilfriend pregnant two weeks after he left. I filed for a divorce and child support and he quit his job so he wouldnt have to pay. He is now $30,000 behind and we live with my mom becuase I cant afford to support us in California. I tried to move to a cheaper state and now all of a sudden he has money and is paying money so we stay. By the way he is married to the other girl now and they have two children even though we are still married. Now I am being forced to stay where I cant afford, he gets more custody though he didnt use all his visitation and I dont even get to see my kids on Christmas this year. WTF??? I have been with my kids since they were born.

2007-06-17 19:41:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad's 44 yrs old and going through one of the hardest times of his life right now. He's suffering from depression and him and my mom recently got divorced. He's taking it really hard because my mum was his whole life. He texts my mom usually everyday and i always check her phone to see what my dads telling her..usually i love you and your my everything etc. i'm usually in tears when i read them because i know my dad is really heartbroken and hurting. I found a message yesterday telling my mom to tell us (me and my sisters) that he loved us a lot. that was at 5 pm, at 11pm there were another message telling my mom he tried to kill himself but when he thought of me and my sisters he couldn't do it. We ususally visit my dad every wk but i havn't seem him for a few now and i'm really worried. How do i handle this, i don't want my dad to take his life and i don't know what to say or how to handle it.

2007-06-17 19:35:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it Ok to lose feelings for a spouse after a 10 year marriage not tell them and hook up with a coworker. Altering the lives of two little boys. Husband would have done anything!!!! but wife wanted a different life. Is it ok to do that or should she have come to me and told me that she was not happy???

2007-06-17 19:06:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 23...and I am ready to have a steady boyfriend...and ready to find someone that I can spend the rest of my life with....I don't go to bars...and all of my girlfriends are pregnant and married...where do I meet people??....

2007-06-17 19:03:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 18 and my husband's 30. Before I married him I was a virgin so I don't really want to do some of the things he does when we have sex. What should I do?

2007-06-17 19:02:50 · 23 answers · asked by Monoi 2

Wife traded me in for a coworker after a long marriage. She never gave me a chance only saying that she was wanting a new life. Its been 10 months and when I see her because we have children together I get depressed. She acts like the divorce was no big deal but 17 years to me was a big deal. When I say depressed I mean mind numbing sad and tired depressed. Is this normal after a divorce? She was like my other half. I'm quiet and she was the life of the party.

2007-06-17 18:58:48 · 16 answers · asked by ramon s 1

I got married a few months bak to ABCD husband and i find it hard to cope up with him. I was born in paki n have been raised here , i lived here all of my life.Our marraige was a totally arranged marriage n YES my husband was willing to get married to me .Unfortunately we couldnt spend much time in paki , he left after a few days. But in those days i often felt dat my husband was a careless n was running away from responsibility. He is the youngest in his family n is extremely pampered by his mum . Also he has strange mis conceptions about paki gurls/women. he thinks a gurl in paki with a mob is sure to have a bf . i feel he has a lot of insecurities
I m still in paki waiting for my visa but i find it real hard to cope up with him , he doesnt call n we r kinda outtta telephonic conversation with each other , wen i think of it , i feel like crying .
Advice please
Thx in advance

2007-06-17 18:55:57 · 4 answers · asked by Isra 1

The second car is in MY NAME only. If he goes I would sell the car because I am on disability and have 3 to take care of. My rent is more then I get a month. We have only been married for 14 months, and seems he got married to soon after getting divorced from his first wife.... Can anyone tell me what to do? He had a car but we sent it too the junk yard. Like I said the van is in MY NAME and MY STEP-MOTHER so I can't sell it. I would want to anyways. My other car is in MY NAME only. He said he can get it after WALKING out on me in court. And these 3 children aren't his...

2007-06-17 18:54:32 · 14 answers · asked by whererthere 1

I am currently in Iraq and supposed to come home really soon ,my significant other wants to go to school but in order for this to be done I would have to stay here.

2007-06-17 18:53:29 · 7 answers · asked by another guy 2

I am an unhappy wife of 17yrs, who is saddened because I cannot seem to get my husband to reduce his committments.
He works a 40 hr week, coaches AFL under 13's 2 nights a week, also he does 3 x 12 hr shifts as a volunteer ambulance officer after work on weekdays, and then one 24 hr shift most weekends. He has developed health issues but still will not slow down. I am lucky that I prefer my own company, but am sick of waiting for him. So do I live the kids life with them?, do I find a bit on the side to give me some sparkle back ?, do I live my life like he isnt there, make my own plans and exclude him? Or do I take the kids and start fresh? My man is honest, caring, a great provider, a very hard worker and someone with whom I have spent over half my life but this same issue has been lurking in the background and source of arguments for 3 years now. He used to be my Rock, now all I want is THE ROCK!!

2007-06-17 18:43:44 · 7 answers · asked by nikznailz 1

My husband of 21 years is an absolute jerk. I cook every meal, clean up after every meal. Make our bed, do the laundry, do all the grocery shopping, pay the bills, plan our weekend events, and I do not even get a thank you. Maybe I am just being a PMS b*+t* but come on, a little appreciation would be nice. Yes, I have told him. His reply is always the same "it's not my job" He thinks that because he works outside the home and I don't that he does not have to lift a finger. I guess if he lived by himself he would live in his own dung. Oh well, thanks for letting me vent. I am having a pity party tonight and everyone is invited.

2007-06-17 18:39:26 · 12 answers · asked by brainsandcute2 3

" I know that my dad is cheating on my mom, I just don't want to tell my mom, cause' they might divorce or something. Well for me it's just okay..."

2007-06-17 18:38:09 · 13 answers · asked by Angelo D 2

2007-06-17 18:32:43 · 5 answers · asked by Mokhdaty 1

is it alright? dont worry. i am not looking to have sex now or any tine in the near future. just wondering out of my own curiosity.

2007-06-17 18:32:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are having our third baby in Sept. and lately we have been fightinh like crazy....not sure if it's just the hormones oe what the heck is going on!!! He refuses to help me with anything....I work a full time job then come home and make supper, bath our two children( 4yr & 1yr) and get them to bed. I do all the house work inside and out and he comes home from work and puts his feet up to relax, while i run around like a chicken with my head cut off! He tells me "YOUR PREGNANT....NOT DEAD!!!" so why are u winning. He can't understand why I'm so tired and mad at him. I need some advice Please!!!

2007-06-17 18:18:21 · 10 answers · asked by janinewood 1

Is it morally acceptable to cheat on your spouse if he or she is in a permanent vegetative state?

2007-06-17 18:15:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

he doesnt let me speak! he is the right one at the end ... we got married 4 months ago he spent only 12 days with me n went back to England.
Advice please
Thanks in advance!

2007-06-17 18:13:56 · 5 answers · asked by Isra 1

my life has been on a down ward spiral since November... in Nov i found out my husband was cheating on me when i was 7 months pregnant. so i got a divorce and that hell lasted till may. I now have a beautiful baby girl that makes my life worth living but things are still so tuff. In march i was in a car accident in which my car was totalled, and now as of 3 days ago i found out that the place i work is renovating come August 1st i will be jobless! so what gives how do i keep my spirits up with so much negative stuff going on? how can i avoid becoming depressed?

2007-06-17 17:43:37 · 11 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4

My ex-wife is suppose to pay me $200 a month but she refuses to do it. Why does she have to pay so little? If it was the other way around and I had to pay it would be a lot more. I have custody. I only make 450 a week, Have to pay 750 rent and electric, gas and water, 240 truck note, groceries, and incidentals. I always hear of others child support being a lot more and wondering if it is because I am dad is why I get the least amount?

2007-06-17 17:37:36 · 21 answers · asked by Bones 5