they fight about drinking and going out. they both love eachother, but don't know if after 6 years things will ever get better or not. they don't resolve their fights because he will never apologize and admit when he's wrong, so she gets upset. for instance, he'll go out and tell her he'll be home "early" then he'll come home at 2:45 am and doesn't see why he's done anything wrong. he can never admit to being wrong....what should she do at this point? he also owns the house they live in, and has kicked her out a couple of times and she has to pack herself and the kids up until he says she can come back. i know when they aren't fighting, they get along really good and have the same values. how do they just learn responsibility for their actions and reslove and move the fight on? i really want to help her, not sure what will...need a PSYCHIATRIST to answer this one!!
2007-06-17 19:43:02 · 9 answers · asked by kstarryeyed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
2.45 AM? And you say thats not early??? Thats damn early babay.
Just tell her to take marriage counseling not a PSYCHIATRIST
2007-06-17 19:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by jannatul C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually anyone with half a brain can answer this one. He is the moneymaker in the relationship. Because he owns the house and has the better job he feels he has the power to whatever he wants. If she doesn't like it then it's her problem. He will do what he wants, when he wants and if she has a problem with it she knows where the door is. If she has trouble finding the door he will help her out. He will not change. She needs to start saving up and move out ASAP. The only reason they get along WHEN they are getting along is because she listens to him and does things his way. When they aren't going his way is when they are fighting...Am I right? She just needs to get out and start her life over.
2007-06-18 02:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Poor girl! This man has got her under his thumb. She lives with him when he wants her to and sends her packing when it suits him. Sometimes we determine how others treat us. She should stand up for her dignity and next time things get out of hand she should just pack and go and not go back until the guy admits he is wrong, apologises for it and promises not to hurt her again. My bet is; he might not ask her to come back.
2007-06-18 06:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dodi L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people live in this state all their life ... some break up in a year or two. Depends on how long the patience lasts.
But it is potentailly dengerous if they do not talk and resolve this.
2007-06-18 02:52:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say no- that relationship is not going to get better. If they're old enough to have unprotected sex and have children then they're old enough to act like adults and not be (it sounds like) drinking too much and going out too often.
They sound like a nightmare couple you'd see on that telly show 'Wifeswap' or something.
2007-06-18 02:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by Phil K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need couples counseling. It is ashamed that they have two children together, and he is still throwing her out. Sounds very uncaring and disrespectful to me. I know that I would not put up with it. I would pack my things and leave him for good. Those children should not have to go through that kind of mess.
2007-06-18 02:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This issue needs social worker or some one from welfare as it include life of children. They both need counselling .Why does he do that to his kids and his lover? drinking .Alcohlic anonymus organisation need to get involved .Children need to live freely without fear of being abused. If this fails they will need to live seperately as this as I have said affect children's life .
2007-06-18 03:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to grow up and perhaps she should kick him out stay in the house with the kids and show him what he has messed up
2007-06-18 02:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It can but it depends on both partners
2007-06-18 05:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anthony B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋