" I know that my dad is cheating on my mom, I just don't want to tell my mom, cause' they might divorce or something. Well for me it's just okay..."
2007-06-17 18:38:09 · 13 answers · asked by Angelo D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"But I don't want them to divorce!"
2007-06-17 18:41:00 · update #1
"Well yeah... it's non of my business!?"
2007-06-17 18:48:57 · update #2
"well…. I’m not that angry about my dad cause' I know what he feels right now, and I did the same thing too.."
2007-06-17 18:55:28 · update #3
That's tough, I'm sorry to hear that. I don't believe it's your place to tell your mom but, I think you need to talk to your dad. Don't intrude on his business but just ask him what he's doing. Sure, many people say, "It's none of your business." I say if you live in the same house, you see it happening behind her back, and it's effecting how you feel, it's part of your business. Although you feel powerless in this situation, stress to your dad that he just can't carry on in a relationship like that and remind him how much he's hurting your mom even though she doesn't even know it's happening. Hun, I'm sorry to tell you this but, you can't really do anything about it.
2007-06-18 04:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand how you feel not wanting to say something to your mom. you dont want to hurt her. i think before you ever decide to say anything to mom you should talk to dad about how you feel. if dad does nothing then it's okay to tell mom. she''ll eventually know that something is bothering you. moms know! know that what your dad is doing is not right. but definitely talk with dad. if it comes to divorce it will still be okay. the only difference is that there will no longer be a piece of paper saying that they have to be together. you'll get through this.
2007-06-18 01:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but you need to remember that cheating is NOT okay. You should tell your dad that you know what's going on and give him a chance to explain himself. If he tells you it's none of your business, then he needs to be reminded he is no longer a single person and has a wife and family to think about. People who cheat are selfish and are thinking only of themselves.
I know the knowledge of your dad's cheating is a heavy burden for you, but don't worry about telling your mom, because she's probably aware of it and is trying to "rise above it" for the sake of the family.
2007-06-18 01:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been through a similar situation and its never a easy situation. I know from personal experience it hurts to see your parents go through something like this. If you feel your mom isn't ever going to find out maybe you should tell her. If shes going to find out on her own than maybe just let things happen on their own. My mom found out about my dad and didn't want to tell me what was happening. My dad denied everything that happened but the evidence my mom found proved against him. So you decide for yourself whats right.
2007-06-18 02:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by Honest Expression 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to be absolutely sure that your father is cheating. Does your father know that you know?
I would prefer to be told than not to know at all, and if you are her daughter, where is your loyalty?
It is your parents decision if they will divorce or not, mabe the will both get marriage counseling.
Don't feel "guilty" because your dad should not have done the cheating in the first place.
2007-06-18 01:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Emerald 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hon, just make sure that you are gaining the facts first.
its not really your responsibility to tell your mom, but i dont think you should support your dads secrecy and lies as well.
thats why i say gain facts and just be honest with your mother. i know you dont want them to get a divorce but you should respect your mothers feelings enough to let her know whats going on. TRUST ME..it would be far worse if she found out on her own, and it could be a nasty violent thing for you and your parents to go through.
i say tell her. bring facts. be honest. show nothing but love and compassion to her.
2007-06-18 01:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Queenly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the hardest thing to tell someone that there partner is cheating .but if daddy is on your mom u need to talk your dad and let him know thats wrong maybe that mite get him to pull is head out of is *@$$.if not someone or somehow your mom got to know that her husband is unfaithful and dishonest good luck
2007-06-18 02:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by bodyman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry It is never right for one to cheat on their spouse . and you should care that this is happening .maybe you should have a talk with your father let him know you he is wrong ! see what his reply is then sit bk and see what happens. Love your mother enough to talk to your dad .
2007-06-18 01:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by lore29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Dad...get all the facts and then tell him that he really needs to tell your mother because she is going to find out soon anyway.
2007-06-18 01:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELLLLLLL, she will find out and then find out that you knew all along and she would feel betrayed, dont enable your dad,
2007-06-18 02:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by VJS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋