Marriage & Divorce - 16 June 2007

for a passport!!

I told him not to and it is perjury, but he says he needs the money!!

I think he is going to get £1500.00

When I went to registered mine and my fiances wedding, I looked at a notice in the office.. saying something about false information could lead to prosecution.

I told him not to, on the grounds that he will meet a girl and fall in love. I told him all abou the consequenses but he will not listen to me!

I am 24 my brother is 21, what is the worse that can happen.

2007-06-16 23:19:40 · 11 answers · asked by Rebz 5

Im 30 My husband 40. We've been together 7yrs with two children 2yrs-3yrs old. Our relationship has always been based on complete trust. We absoultly love each other and have a strong commitment to our marriage and children.
Are we doing anything wrong by occasionally sleeping with other people?? We don't sleep together with another, its as if I like someone and the feeling's mutual we may sleep together same goes for my husband. Don't get me wrong we don't go looking for it. And have been there less than a handful of times. I was just wondering if any other people out there have the same sort of arrangement and if its common. My friends who do know about our marriage thinks its awesome and that it would be a rarity to be stable in that enviroment.

2007-06-16 21:56:19 · 14 answers · asked by mcbjhj 2

I am finding it hard to convince my wife that I am faithful. She has smelt perfume on my clothes a few times. This of course wasn't another woman I had slept with it was some of the strippers from East London who sit on your lap & a bit more.

I sometimes spend £400 a time at these clubs. She is now noticing the lack of funds in my account when it's my turn to buy stuff for the house.

Can anyone give me some advice on how to cover my tracks - what are believable excuses?

2007-06-16 21:20:34 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 20 years-old and I'm attracted to married men who are about 10 years older than me. Usually they are my managers or supervisors at work or professors at my school. What the hell is wrong with me????

2007-06-16 20:36:57 · 25 answers · asked by Mrs.Buchanan 1

I love my husband. He works his butt off for me and the kids.
I stay home and watch the kids. We have 3 teen girls.
I feel that my marriage is boring, but I don't want a divorce. I love my husband too much. I have tried talking to him about this, but it always ends up in an argument.
I was just want more excitement in my life, and NO cheating is out of the question.
Thanks for the help!

2007-06-16 20:12:06 · 16 answers · asked by ILuvTJ 2

2007-06-16 19:14:14 · 7 answers · asked by sonalirawal 2

my ex is trying to deduct the cost of keeping me on his medical insurance during our now 2.5 year seperation from the settlement proceedings. Is this even legal in CA especially when it took him a year to even file seperation papers and another 1.5 years to get to the settlement paperwork? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance

2007-06-16 18:55:54 · 2 answers · asked by leo_leora 3

I had to go out of town for work and my wife had an "emotional"affair. I found out about it. We started to work things out and I had to go back out of town for work.
When I get back home she is cold, unaffectionate, and doesn't want anything to do with me. She says her "fling" is over, but I have my doubts.
Now she wants a divorce and to take our three children (ages 8, 6, & 2) away from me. I have never been abusive or would never think to strike my wife or kids. If she leaves and takes the kids, I will be devastated. I really love my wife and our children. She says she loves me but is not in love with me. what does that mean? What do I do next?

2007-06-16 18:53:53 · 9 answers · asked by harticat 2

My girlfriend and I think we're ready to be married after 7 years of dating each other but our parents don't agree to it. We're looking for jobs out of state so it'll be easier just to move out but both of us can't find any jobs. We're both working on our Master's and have an year to go. Anyone know how we should do it so that we don't end up in financial trouble in the future and when we do move out should we tell our parents we're married? I don't think it'll be a good idea until years later.

2007-06-16 18:47:15 · 14 answers · asked by RGK 2

I know most people are going to tell me that if I'm asking this question, then he's not "the one" But, hear me out.

I'm very unsure of what makes a happy marriage. My parents were married for 22 years, but did not get along. They screamed, they yelled and my father (a good person just w/ a bad problem) drank a lot. Growing up, my parents never hugged and kissed, and they never sat around telling each other how much they loved each other. I don't even know the story of how my parents got engaged or anything. I know how they met, but that's it. They never divorced, because they could not afford it. Both my parents worked, but they still needed dual incomes.

Finally, 2 years ago, they divorced. It was a nightmare and not the least bit amicable.

Now, I'm 23 years old and in a serious relationship. I do love him and would love to get married, but I'm scared. What if he's all wrong for me. I do not want to be like my parents.

2007-06-16 18:44:50 · 6 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5

ok, here goes we are fostering a three month old, mother does not want her, now there is an alleged father trying to be involved, he is a 50+ year old alcoholic, works 12 hour days, doesn't drive, has no criminal history however....what kind of stuff will he have to go thru in order to get the baby if the paternity test comes back as positive? no one knows if he is actually the father as the mother is a prostitute......he continually calls the social worker, sometimes intoxicated, however he has not done any of the paper work she has sent him and has not gone to get a paternity test....the county is unwilling to pay for one at this oint, they feel if he truly believes he is the dad he should pay for it....he has never seen the baby or sent her anything....so what are things he will have to go thru what is the likely hood that he will get her? Also she is our niece and we very much want to adopt her....what kind of a future are we looking at her?

2007-06-16 18:34:25 · 7 answers · asked by KrIs 4

ok here is the situation, im pre-engaged. meaning i havent asked but we talked about it and thats what we wanted. anyways things are not going as well as planned 2 months ago. I love her with all my heart and wish that we could me together. the thing is, is that she lives in new hampshire and is going the be a senior next year, im graduated (2005) and in the air force now. i just turned 20 and she is still 17 going on 18 in a few months. i know that we are young and this is primarily the reason why im asking for help. her mom doesnt want us to get married right off the bat. she wants her daughter to be independent for aleast a year and a half. but how are we suppost to figure this all out if she cant even come visit me for the summer. all i ask is at most 2 weeks but her mom wont allow it. she thinks that things will go on and prob thinks ill marry her now at this time. but its not like that, i want her to come out so she can see what its going to be like when she comes to live with me

2007-06-16 18:34:00 · 11 answers · asked by quikblue11 2

2007-06-16 18:27:18 · 12 answers · asked by hey 2

my wife of almost 10 years left me,its been almost a month now, Ive begged ive pleeded ive told her how much i love her and still nothing.she says maybe and then she says noway,Weve had our ups and downs and arguments and name calling(both of us) but all of this I felt could be fixed, but she said she doesnt love me anymore how can this be, ive romanced her wrote her poems massage her whole body and give her baths tell her how much i love her and how beautiful she is all the time.we have 4 children together and I want whats best for them(i really do)!!!Anyway I got fed up with begging and pursing to be turned away every time so I stopped all together,and this really pissed her off WHY?If she didnt want to be with me why is was she so upset ?I love her and always put her before myself so after she broke my heart why is she still being mean to me?

2007-06-16 18:24:36 · 12 answers · asked by ELITE 1

We are almost 50.Not kids any more.Our taste is very different. All my life I have loved to decorate & my friends think that I have a pretty good eye for things of beauty.Though I can't afford a lot, I enjoy high quality, soficicated decor that includes some color. This is what gives me joy & is a part of who I am. Last year we separated for 3 months. When I came back, he had removed the living room furniture & replaced it with something a friend sold him. since that time he has'nt quit. He's getting rid of pictures, flowers, etc. His style (not trying to be mean) he likes cheap looking & quality decor. He does'nt use any color. He only uses white, I can't put down any rugs or hang any curtains. He thinks these things don't look "cool".We have a 15 yr. daughter, we're a family. Why do I now have to live in his "bachlor's pad"?. Why is this so important to him when it means so much to me? When we are'nt fighting on this we enjoy each other. He says he loves me, but there's no me here

2007-06-16 18:21:54 · 12 answers · asked by Faithful 1

I'm not sure what to do here. I found out a few months ago that my husband has been masturbating to internet porn at least a few times a week. Now, this wouldn't normally bother me except for the fact that we now have NO sex life. I'm lucky if I get it once a month - it's that bad. I confronted him last night about it - and he was thoroughly embarassed...he thought I had no clue. He told me that men are visual and look at porn women as objects. There is no emotional attachment. Just a stress reliever. Additionally, he told me he was bored with our sex life. We were each other's firsts as well, and he told me he was curious about being with other women. I am extremely nervous about this. I tried to play it cool and understanding, but my mind is spinning out of control. We have a very loving relationship outside of this issue. He truly is a wonderful husband otherwise. I'm not sure where to go from here. Any ideas?

2007-06-16 17:33:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been together for 17 long, beautiful months now and i don't think i can live w/o her, honestly. After graduation i want to take her to hawaii, but w/a christian family when is it acceptable to ask for her hand in marriage. when we go to hawaii, or sumtime after? Am i too young to even be talking about rings even?

2007-06-16 17:28:57 · 27 answers · asked by blue collar 1

2007-06-16 17:27:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Help I’m a married Christian woman of 5yr. my husband and I are currently separated because of his selfish ways to start my husband has been unfaithful in our marriage he is local pastor/elder it hurt so badly. All I do is think about why me…what cause this I feel that I keep myself up to part mind body and soul I look the same when he married me. With that it cause so much anger and not able to trust him that one day I found out that he was cheating again with out thinking I flip out I push him to the wall he call the cops and I left to go to my mother when I return back he pack up all his clothing and left me and our 3 kids I was so shock and hurt … what do I do no money nothing with 3 small babies lord it hurt with that I ask him later why did you depart from the house he said this to me you will found someone who will love and treat you better then me…… what the hell I said with that I try to move on with my life I try to talk to guys online from time to time to take my mind o

2007-06-16 17:18:31 · 8 answers · asked by LadyKai 2

LOL.. before you get mad - this is not really about my personal situation... I just wondered how many of you are in relationships where your spouse has a friendship with someone of the opposite sex... I don't mean just casual - I mean a close relationship - lunch, going by their house, etc.. but not romantic with them... How do you feel?

If not, why?

Curiosity of how others view this topic.

2007-06-16 16:19:21 · 24 answers · asked by Wildflower 6

Guess sometimes I feel really lonely. I have my kids and they are great but my marriage sucks. He never talk to me, does anything I want to do without complaining, always fights with me....sort of feels like he is only with me bc of the kids. I guess it is starting to hurt more and more. Not bc i feel shut out by him...but bc i just feel alone. I cant say anyting to him bc he will automatically start arguing with me, getting all defensive. I just hate certain parts of my life now. This is unfair. How can I have such 2 awesome kids by some idiot.

Married him pretty young and in a vulnerable time, where i was pregnant and scared and just needed someone who i thouth loved me, but in the end it just caused more problem for me that i would ever know. By the time I got pregnant with Lyric he really started hating on me, physically (sometimes), emotionally, and hating himself.

I know deep down he is no good for me. He uses me and makes me feel like he has sacrifcied so much for our lives but he has not done noting but mooch off of me abd my body. like i am some shell...with no feelings and no needs. Sometimes i get so upset that i cant even lay by him at night. I cry bc I feel so awful about everyday. I dont know what to do...we have 2 kids, very young kids....under 2 yrs old, and he is 10 yrs older than me...

2007-06-16 16:06:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

anyways, I dont like her cause she has nasty pics up and I have asked him to delete her but he will not...this is making me annoyed cause if this chick means nothing then why won the get rid of her.

2007-06-16 15:42:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife have been seperated for about six months and rarely hav contact, when we do it is usually unpleasant. Back in april we had a major falling out and spent a whole day e-mailing and texting how much we hated each other and insulting each other. After that we kept it stictly business, we only communicated through e-mail and only about bills. Well about 2 weeks ago, she e-mails to ask "how am I doing?", we e-mailed back and forth, she called, we talked then a few days later she downloaded yahoo IM, and we've been chatting almost every night. Its really weird to me that she chats instead of talking on the phone, even weirder that she wants to chat and that she is being nice. I've been told by buddies, she has probably screwed my over pretty good and i dont know about it yet, and thats why she is acting nice. Im kinda thinking that too, just 2 months ago she hated me more than anything.

2007-06-16 15:39:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is asked for adults to answer only!
He said he wants me to be more aggressive in initiating sex. I love having sex with him, he's amazing. But, I'm kind of uncomfortable initiating sex, I'm not sure why. I'm up for just about ANYTHING he initiates. What is it that he wants me to do. We've been married for 13 years, so don't be shy, we have a very open. honest and ready to try new things relationship.

2007-06-16 15:19:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my husband truly. 2 years back he went to another state to work since he cant get any job here. He promise to get back after 1 year but he extended to another year. He fly back back 3 to 4 mths once. I was 23 and he 30.
On the second year. I started feeling lonely,upsad and sick. I started having affair. At the end of second year my husband found out and immediately flew back, leaving his job.
I admit my mistake and let him decide. He decided not to let me go. I also decided and promise will never repeat anything.
Now he treat me very well. but he still cant trust me whenever Im not with him. I thought I should give him time. 6mths hav passed. But lately, I notice that he treating me well just bcos he's afraid dat I'll leave n pretending to love me.
V discuss dis matter n he admit dat he pretend. Wen I argue, he ask how can i have affair if I love him truly.
Wat shall I do?I dun deny my mistake but is it all mine? He should have leave me if he cant forgive and forget.

2007-06-16 14:28:19 · 12 answers · asked by shygal 2

please can someone advice me on how to get my wife back,we had a problem after our traditional marriage,but we went out for 7year before we got married,i was force to send her parking during the problem,last 4 month.last week i saw her with a guy on the street.the same day i called her and apologize,but she keep saying that she is no more interested in our marriage that she is now seeing another guy,but i still love her,i don't want to leave her to be deceived by that guy.please advice me on how to get her back

2007-06-16 14:15:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I did have an affair a few years back... Despite that, my hubby is still willing to accept me and hence we remarry...

Since then, (1 year and 3 months later) I had caught him dating 4 diff women, the last one being last night.... Well, that's the number I have manage to catch him with so far, God knows how many more....

I can't help but feel that he is behaving this way cos of my wrong doings, but why remarry me and yet find comfort in other women?

Currently, we had agreed to divorce, again. Filing soon come Monday. When I caught him with his last date, he told me he wanted another shot at marriage... Why??

Serious advise please....

2007-06-16 14:07:46 · 20 answers · asked by curlyfries 1

Or is that too much for a cheap way out? Or would i just need to hire a lawyer?

2007-06-16 13:49:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

also how can I NOT make him feel bad about it? I have NEVER have an "o"

2007-06-16 13:48:01 · 13 answers · asked by Melissa M 1

2007-06-16 12:53:13 · 25 answers · asked by ladysorrow 7