Help I’m a married Christian woman of 5yr. my husband and I are currently separated because of his selfish ways to start my husband has been unfaithful in our marriage he is local pastor/elder it hurt so badly. All I do is think about why me…what cause this I feel that I keep myself up to part mind body and soul I look the same when he married me. With that it cause so much anger and not able to trust him that one day I found out that he was cheating again with out thinking I flip out I push him to the wall he call the cops and I left to go to my mother when I return back he pack up all his clothing and left me and our 3 kids I was so shock and hurt … what do I do no money nothing with 3 small babies lord it hurt with that I ask him later why did you depart from the house he said this to me you will found someone who will love and treat you better then me…… what the hell I said with that I try to move on with my life I try to talk to guys online from time to time to take my mind o
2007-06-16 17:18:31 · 8 answers · asked by LadyKai 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Christian woman, all things happen in life for a reason. Lets see if I can explain this to you. Some people are in our lives to help us in the areas that we need growth. After this growth process happens, its time for that person to move on. This is why you can't understand whats going on. You are not suppose to understand but God knows. God knows your heart and he will send to you what you need not what you want. So stop blaming yourself and trying to talk to guys online. You are trying too hard. When you are least expected the "right man" will come into your life. If you continue to try harder to find someone, you will end up with another man that is not deserving of you. Focus on loving God and those 3 small babies. These babies need you. Find yourself a job and put the babies in daycare or set up something with your mother or some other relative to help you out until you get on your feet. You are in my prayers. Good luck
2007-06-16 17:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by lisaraye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you are all over the place. Your situation definitely is hurtful and unfair. However, the most important thing you said was "with 3 small babies." History is full of women who have been wronged by idiot husbands. It sucks, but you're a mother and you must be strong for them. The man is gone. Get a good lawyer. Get child support. Get a makeover and start building a life for you and your kids.
2007-06-17 00:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by MaxitudesMamma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd let him go. By law he has to pay child support. Get yourself a lawyer who can go to bat for you. You sound like much too nice a person to be subjected to that crap. If he can leave you with 3 small babies, he's a louse. A case of arrested development. Selfish. Irresponsible. He has no integrity. And he is not worthy of a woman like you. Stay strong. Take care of yourself and your babies and God Bless You! Just do the best you can and take it one day at a time.
2007-06-17 00:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First stop talking to other guys....you have enough problems.
Get a lawyer to make your husband help to take care of his children....it sounds like you should also get a legal separation at this point.
It's sad but it seems you never really had a marriage with this man.
2007-06-17 00:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let Go -
Matthew 5:31-32 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.”
This man committed adultery! Pastor or not, that is grounds for divorce. He is not a true christian.
2007-06-17 00:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by leah_faith07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does the congregation know what he's done? Pehaps a public humiliation's in order to make him repent his evil ways. You've been dragged through spiritual and emotional grime, and I am sorry for this. Turn to your faith, your community, your family, and protect your kids. Salvage what you can of your marriage for your kid's sake. If you can't forgive him and he refuses to change and atone, you should consider divorce as your last alternative. These things happen in life, it's not your fault. Hang in there.
2007-06-17 00:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by pola 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let go. I know someone who was in the same situation as you - the guy was even a pastor too. And his excuse was that he was a man before he was a minister. She hung in there, suffered and in the end he left her. Let go before more damage is done in your kids' lives and yours. (You are more than welcome to drop me an email if you need someone to listen.) Good luck!
2007-06-17 00:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him and get all you can out of him.
2007-06-17 01:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋