My girlfriend and I think we're ready to be married after 7 years of dating each other but our parents don't agree to it. We're looking for jobs out of state so it'll be easier just to move out but both of us can't find any jobs. We're both working on our Master's and have an year to go. Anyone know how we should do it so that we don't end up in financial trouble in the future and when we do move out should we tell our parents we're married? I don't think it'll be a good idea until years later.
2007-06-16 18:47:15 · 14 answers · asked by RGK 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seven years? Masters Degrees? Have you taken a look around you and talked to your classmates?
Find out what it takes to get a license (tests, waiting period, etc.)
Go down to the court house and get a license. Wait if you have to.
Go to a justice of the peace (call first to see if there are hours) and get married. Take witnesses if you don't want the JP to provide them.
If your parents are still supporting you, don't tell them until you have a job. Plain on being isolated from your parents for quite a while.
2007-06-16 18:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very young in which case I would say don't jump into marriage for anything but love and full commitment . Finish school and marry when you don't use the word THINK in the same sentence. And if you do decide to elope both of you should not be living with parents and you shouldn't hide it!!! If you want make big decisions like this without really thinking it out chances are it's not the right time especially if theres financial trouble 'cause of school or whatever. You definatly not ready.
2007-06-16 18:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by melissa p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just run away to Vegas (or somewhere actually appealing) and get married and don't tell anyone about it until later. Personally, I think that would be exciting. Keep going about your business as usual. If you're working on a Masters you obviously can't afford to completely leave town. Certainly the above suggestion would work even if you are living with your parents.
2007-06-16 18:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't your parents agree if you've been dating for 7 years and your working on your masters? Your both adults, you shouldn't have to elope. Just have your wedding and if they don't want to be a part of it, then so be it.
2007-06-16 18:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by aston184 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen asshole, bieng sensitive and ruining yours and your gf's life away from home is stupidity. there's no such thing as "Love" when it comes to her or your life. you should deal with things with your mind and heart not just HEART. chill down. don't be that excited you're not making the greatest love story. if you are incapable to plan your whole story and asking yahoo for this. then you failed and you'll fail again and again. yahoo answer is not there for every single step you take. grow up! She's not the only girl ?? an d you are not the only man ?? move on and if you still feel like you can't leave her. then be patient.wait 1 year, 2 year, 3 year. their parents might change their mind after they make sure you're totally grown up. please, trust me this way you'll make yourself a laughing stock.
2016-05-17 15:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eloping is okay - but if you then plan to keep the marriage a secret - this is not a good idea. Sounds like it is time to have a family conference to get to the root of the issues here - why family members are against your decision to wed.
2007-06-16 18:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your girlfriend are both one year away from getting your master's degrees then you must both be about 24 years of age. Excuse me but someone forgot to tell you that you are both adults now and can get married if you so choose. You don't have to have mommy and daddy's permission. You don't have to run out of state to live and if you are both working supporting yourselves, then it is really none of their business. No don't wait for years to tell them.
2007-06-16 18:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK it depends on the state you live in but my husband and i got married in TN the same day we got our marriage license we were both out of state but my dad lived there we came into town and my friend and i planned my wedding in 6hr yes that included him and i getting marriage license. so if you live in a state you and her could go to apply for your marriage license and be married by a judge that same day. just call you local court house. but you should really wait until your done with school trust me stuff always comes up. please finish school you been together for 7 years one more year wont hurt.
2007-06-16 20:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would finish my degree first... but if you can't wait...
GO to TN. There is not waiting period, no tests to take, and it's beautiful! I was married at Chapel at the Park in Gatlinburg. It was so perfect... and inexpensive. The chapel is stunning... beautiful and romantic. The staff was awesome. They take care of everything... all you need is your clothes, your marriage license, and rings. They take care of the flowers, photos, decor... everything.
Good luck.
2007-06-16 20:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really....really can not wait I recommend a trip to Zepher Cove Nevada this is near Lake Tahoe so you can win the finacial support you will need ....good luck
2007-06-16 18:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by gassniffer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋