Marriage & Divorce - 19 June 2007

2007-06-19 23:24:08 · 44 answers · asked by norbit 2

We are about to get married in 2 months. We have a very healthy relationship and we both know that we are right for each other. since the past 3-4 months she has started behaving very strangely, whenever we tallk she ends up getting upset on something which i say and then starts arguing. Then she says that she still feels insecure and i have not been able to understand her yet. she has even started crying after every argument now. I have tried explaining her with love and sometimes even getting a bit strict. when i say you are getting rude she replies that i dont like her anymore and she says that quite often to me and says that I am rude. Stuff like this is concerning me a lot. how should i handle it

2007-06-19 22:26:30 · 8 answers · asked by Just Ordinary. 2

I am still sharing house with husband - decree nici have be granted. He threatens my life, search my room, read my mail, does not pay any bills including a very large mortgage.
My solicitor says I am to stay but I am afraid he is planning to harm me. My 18 yrs old son is begging me to move out as rightly so, the law is no good when I am damaged.
My husband doesnt care as he feel he is the one loosing out.
This have been an abusive marriage for 18 yrs, and I have always been the main earner.
I cannot afford to pay the mortgage and another rent and if I dont pay the mortgage then my credit is messed up. I need to have to option to buy another place if I have to sell.
I have a court date in August but I dont feel I can stay in that house any longer

2007-06-19 22:16:55 · 14 answers · asked by CAROL D 1

it has less than 2 months left for my marriage.i am not sure if I am ready for this marriage.I I just started to think about how my life will be with him , his friends, his family ... how my life is going to be ?

2007-06-19 22:16:06 · 18 answers · asked by poor misguided fool 1

We are legally divorced since Nov. 2006 He is taking me back to court. He wants to have the alimony dropped. He hired an attorney. I can't afford one. He is lieing about me to his attorney. Really awful lies that make me look like a crazy, messed-up, crooked person. He has a way with convincing people he speaks the truth. And he has sent letters to the judge with more lies. We have a new judge hearing our case. I spent 20,000.00 on my last attorney, and can't afford another one. He is fighting like hell to drop alimony, which he was ordered to pay me. It has been 8 months, haven't received a check yet from him. He swears he will never pay it. His lies makes him look good, and me awful. Any suggestions? Would I be able to talk with our judge about the case? Since I am representing myself. I have to let him know how much my ex's accusations are not true. If the judge believes him...........I'm going to be homeless. And he (ex) has over 6 digits of income.

2007-06-19 22:08:02 · 4 answers · asked by bliss 1

2007-06-19 21:59:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

If I lodge the case of domestic violence on the basis of mental torture and the slang languages he used towards me and my parents, what will happen to my husband? If I fail to prove all the violence what were done verbally, will he be punished?

2007-06-19 21:48:15 · 3 answers · asked by sanjukta 1

My brother Daniel (11) and me Lauren (13) have been fighting a lot latley and So have My mum and my dad they have been married for nearly 14 years now and me and my brother are thinking they might break-up....How can me and my brother stop fighting and how can my mum and dad stop fighting too, Our family was really close and now it seems like we are splitting as time nears. It seems like me and daniel are causing there fighting.CAN ANY ONE HELP US...!!!!!!!

Lauren and Daniel.

2007-06-19 21:16:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am caught in a bad relation for 11 years and have an eight year old child. twice or thrice i tried to quit but my husband begs forgiveness and i try to mend ways with him. but he repeats his behaviour in 2 months time. he is neither leaving me nor letting me live peacefully. i am indepedent and a professional.he is highly abusive and suspicious. he claims his love for me and the child but always paints an unpleasant scene in front of him. I am really depressed.

2007-06-19 20:53:32 · 33 answers · asked by sonu 1

I have a difficult time w/ being able to "stand it" in my husbands country. I have travelled to quite a few different countries, but the egyptian culture I've experienced there is too emotional and nonsensical that I wouldn't even want to go if I were paid $2,000.00/day; however, I can tolerate it for up to 2 wks. every other year. His family and friends have been kind and respectful to me, but I just can't stand it there. Mexico is more advanced than egypt, it's as if egypt is 5th world since 3rd world isn't as bad. The people are nice, but that doesn't help when I'm so uncomfortable there (there's so much littering and trash + life is far too difficult for the everyday citizen. Never saw as many ppl. with such hollow, depressed eyes either).

2007-06-19 20:44:00 · 9 answers · asked by warpedhybrid 3

This is probably the most important decission of your life. So don't make a stupid decission, then divorce later. Choose your spouse wisely. They should have the same views,dreams and wants as yours. Work things out together, should not be one- sided. If your self-centered, don't get married. Be responsible for your actions and choices, good or bad. Don't point fingers or nag, it'll only make things worse. Don't go into marriage to change your spouse, they have to want to change themselves. If you care to comment, please do.

2007-06-19 20:35:56 · 12 answers · asked by Bone Daddy 2

Hi, My husband and I travel with his job a lot overseas etc. I go along with him sometimes but also sometimes it can be a few months or so before I see him. I'm away with him now and we have had issues before in our marriage but now it seems to be going along smoothly. Except there is hardly any sex, (maybe once every 3 weeks if lucky). I don't try anymore because I don't feel he is interested and I don't want him to try if he doesn't want it. Last night he said I don't act sexy or I don't dress sexy. My underwear are not sexy, I don't know what he wants I buy expensive undergarments and they are never good enough. But he will not guide me to what he feels is sexy, for all I know it might be just plain cotton nickers lol. I miss what we used to have, it's not about the sex it's that I don't feel good about myself and I feel unwanted. Although I'm always kissing him or touching him loving way. What should I do?.

2007-06-19 20:35:51 · 6 answers · asked by angel 2

We've been talking about casuaIly sleeping together because we hadn't in our previous relationship and sparks still fly between us. However I can tell he has been questioning his role in my life because his best friend wants me and i dont like his best friend. So he asked me out and I said just as long as he didnt want me for sex... and he said it is too late now it is obvious i do not trust him. The morning after I sent him a text with my deepest darkest secret and told him i trust him with it. It has been four days now, and I have decided to call him because I need him in my life. Except I do not know what to say to someone who thinks I denote friendliness, courtesy, lively, sociability, and an out-going nature.

2007-06-19 20:31:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Because she doesn't want a 3way? I think theres something missing missing and maybe her therapist cal help her find it or something.

2007-06-19 20:27:20 · 10 answers · asked by ? 3

My hubby and I have been together for 6 years, and we have 2 kids (4 and 1 years). I love him, and but lately I've been struggling within myself about our situation. See, he's VERY irresponsible, and has not kept a job for more than a few months the ENTIRE time we've been together. I've always been the one supporting us, making sure the bills are paid, etc. There is a lot of pressure on me to provide, because if I don't, everything will fall apart. I want nothing more than to stay home with the girls, and be supported by him. This is never going to happen. I hate sex, I'll do anything to avoid it, and he'll do anything to HAVE it!! lol. He constantly lies to me (about everything and anything). While I'm at work, he racks up the cable bill renting porn all day. I want to keep the family together, and the girls are very attached to him. But I am so unhappy, I'm miserable to everyone. Lately he's been talking about marriage. :S What do you think?

2007-06-19 20:21:39 · 31 answers · asked by _hello_:D 1

I have been sort of dating this guy for a little while now and I think that I might possibly be falling, we talked about the future and what it held in store for us and we both want all of the same things in life he then tells me that at a young age due to his family's religous beliefs he was forced into a marrige.. no no its gets better he has more then one wife but he's going to get out of it and he wants to be with me AND ONLY ME what should I do?

2007-06-19 20:15:56 · 9 answers · asked by cocoprincess83 4

I am married. To a great husband. We had complications about 2 months ago, we were seperated and debating divorce. (we have been married a year). well during that sep time I met someone else and he was going through the same thing. He understood everything I was going through. We only got to spend one day together. I barley knew him, but I think I fell in love with him. And I am going insane thorugh all of this. What the hell is wrong with me? My husband loves me and I know no one could love me the way he does.....but this other guy.....we had this connection. We dont know what it was, but its there and it doesnt go away. we continue to stay in contact through email and plan to hang out when we get back to the US. (we are in Iraq). I told him I thought I fell for him and he tells me he thinks he could love me but that he is hesitant to love anyone cuz of his marriage failing and stuff. So, I know he and I have no future obviously. But the question I have is whats wrong with me?

2007-06-19 20:05:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a very friendly, outgoing person. I never meet anyone or do anything but go to work. I hate being alone.

2007-06-19 20:00:38 · 11 answers · asked by rainshine 2

Is it still cheating? We have been best friends for 13yrs. I've been married to an abusive drug addict for 11ys at the age of 18. my soon to be ex and I have two young sons. He is 2yrs older than myself, married to a woman 14 yrs his senior...they have no kids..they have been married 7 years. We did not leave our spouses for eachother..but for problems in our marriages. We have played around a bit, but I refuse to sleep with him until he has made a solid decision that his marriage is over, because if he choses to stay I don't want to get hurt. We both agree that we should have been together 13yrs ago. So is the playing around part still cheating..even though there is no sex involved. I have never asked him to leave his wife for me or put him in the position to make a choice...because if he does, I want to know it is because he is as fed up with his marriage and wants out as badly as I do mine. I have filed for divorce...but he hasn't yet.

2007-06-19 20:00:08 · 10 answers · asked by Destiny 5

recently, i received a letter from a bank addressed to my husband, i read the letter and i was surprised because he opened a bank account without my knowledge.is it ok if he hide that from me?
i never ask him about that because he is working abroad, do i need to confront him?ask him why did he not tell me?

2007-06-19 19:58:17 · 18 answers · asked by mj cute 1

My husband just does not understand me.. I told him before we got married i came from a screwed up family..and they are, But as a christian i try to forgive them. I tried to tell him to think twice before marryin.He was raised in church with a devoted mother and father. I raised myself. My father died of cancer when i was 7 yrs. My mother is and was a whore not to metion CRAZY!! My mother left the town when i was 12yrs my older brother took me and raised me the best he could he was only 18 at the time. He was killed in a car wreck when i was 16 and i took care of myself. later i found out our daddy wasn't even our real father, but my husband to be a christian(?) is so self centered. He talks terrible to me and critizes everything i do. He wants everything done a certain way but does not want to do it himself. I recently went back to college with a GED ( i had to quit in the 7th grade) and all i have heard is that i'm stupid and can not do it Although the lowest grade i have made is a C

2007-06-19 19:55:58 · 10 answers · asked by momaof2angels 1

we must get hurt n order to grow...
we must fool in order to know..
sumtimes..our wrong becomes clear only after are eyes have been washed with the tears...

2007-06-19 19:49:47 · 8 answers · asked by marg m 1

I just don't understand why I should strive to get married when it seems that people just lose interest, lie to each other, take from each other, and don't care about the feelings of their spouse. all this cheating bickering and fighting is not worth giving my life to under Gods oath and it certainly isn't worth me waiting to have sex for even though I am a virgin now. does any one agree with me out there?

2007-06-19 19:45:49 · 8 answers · asked by from_me_to_you 3

I dont know how he will react and that is what I am afraid of.

2007-06-19 19:45:03 · 34 answers · asked by MO 2

What happened?

2007-06-19 19:42:07 · 12 answers · asked by ♥Ashley 5

I still think of my ex girlfriend which was separated 17 yr ago. I still kept her photo with me without telling my wife. Recently, our relation turn sour and I really feel like calling her. I really felt damn guilty. Tell me what to do, please.

2007-06-19 19:23:55 · 6 answers · asked by Simon De Rider 1

I make good money, have 4 children still at home 2 are in college and live at home, the other 2 in high school. I help around the house more than any male i have ever known. Laundry..yes, dishes...yes, lawn...yes you name it I do it. I also work at home, I go to visit clients in their offices. 95% of my clients are female. Many years I was able to avoid trouble ( I do sales/marketing so I have to talk smooth and stay in good physical condition) My wife has never had a remote problem with this. However wifey started cold-shouldering me for 9 years. I tried to discuss this with her and she said I had been mean to her for over 15yrs and she had no desire to be affectionate or sexual ...this killed my spirit dead! and no she hasn't said what the meanness is about, just says I am mean, will not even discuss it, goes ballistic if I mention it. Rejected over 9yrs, finally dated and bedded 2 hottie clients, I feel really guilty..please! If the wife just would notice me, I could stop...

2007-06-19 19:22:53 · 25 answers · asked by kiny 2

I have been married to my husband for 5 years, and I love him, but the love has kind of turned into a love for a good friend. He threatened to leave, and I was like go, but when the day came for him to leave, I asked him to stay. Some days I look at him and he makes me wanna puke and other times I look at him and just wanna hug and kiss him. What's wrong with me? Have I fallen out of love? do I need to just let him go? Oh, and there is one more aspect to this story, my 16 year old daughter and my husband are mortal enemies. I cant have one peaceful day around here for them fighting. I feel so stressed and lost.....Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-06-19 19:22:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am American and my Indian fiance and I have been engaged since Feb 2006 and have known one another for two years. However, when we met while I was in India that was the only time we saw one another. We are both Christians. There are cultural differences and I would like to know if anyone has any tips for us.

2007-06-19 19:10:01 · 10 answers · asked by NO NAME 1

We have been married for seven years. We are young(30).
I am pretty (he tells me all the time). I'm not fat. Although is affecting my self-esteem because I don't feel wanted. I know he is not cheating I know what he does 24/7. I know he loves me. He takes good care of me in everysingle way except in bed. We probably have sex like once a month. He gets offended when I have mention he should go to a doctor, or he should try Viagra. Please help.

2007-06-19 18:26:42 · 16 answers · asked by endi 1